Lately I’ve noticed a lot of women asking a variation of the same question,

Chris what the heck do I do if things seem to be going great when I am texting my ex but then he just stops responding?

The truth is that I was actually asked this on a Facebook Live I did within the Private Facebook Group yesterday and I kind of drew a blank.

I hate it when that happens because there are like 25 women on watching and dissecting my every move.

And all I could come up with was a measly,

Be more interesting

So, last night and the better part of this morning it just stuck with me and I knew I had to do better.

That’s when I got a voicemail from a woman named Melody.

As it turns out melody asked the same exact question.

Chris, what do I do if my ex is unresponsive?

And so I answered and I feel pretty good about my answer.

Check it out!

I’ve been doing a lot of thinking lately and ultimately determined that I needed to let you in on some of my thinking, specifically the idea of “a confluence of events.”

The Confluence Of Events = The series of events that have to occur in order to successfully get your ex back.

Of course, before I began writing I decided that the best way to help you understand my crazy brain was to record a podcast episode. Now, this episode is different than almost every other episode I have ever done because It’s just kind of like an insight into my stream of consciousness. I literally just talk about the different ideas I have and make a big deal about the confluence of events when it comes to getting an ex back.

Lets just chalk it up to me freestyling and seeing what comes of it.

Anyways, I just listened to this episode and it wasn’t half bad so I decided to publish it.

Enjoy!

They say a picture is worth a thousand words, right?

Well, there is something I would like to show you guys,

This is Christina Bautista, one of the kindest human beings I have ever met and she has quite the tale to tell.

And about a week ago I had the pleasure of interviewing her for about an hour.

So far, it’s my favorite interview ever and that is saying something because I have had some incredible interviews before.

Now, I know what you are thinking,

Umm Chris… this is a website about breakups so why are you going the weight loss route?

Well, it turns out that a breakup was the ultimate spark that caused Christina to lose weight but along the way she found that she was losing the weight for herself as opposed to showing up some guy.

One of my all time favorite interviews was with Buffy,

Yeeouch!

Actually, when I refrence the interview with Buffy I am talking about a girl who is widely known in our Facebook Support Group, Sarah Michelle Stevens!

You see, Sarah Michelle ended up getting her ex boyfriend back after he told her all sorts of ridiculous things like,

I don’t love you anymore…

We aren’t meant to be…

Etc…

You get the picture.

Here is the original interview in case you are interested: Watch The Original Interview Here

Well, a few weeks ago I recently conducted a follow up interview with Sarah Michelle to see how she was doing and most importantly, if she was still with the ex boyfriend that she fought so hard to get back.

What ensued afterwards was one of the best interviews I have ever conducted.

Let me just put it this way, I think this woman is the true “ex whisperer.”

There are a lot of things I am used to when it comes to Ex Boyfriend Recovery.

I am used to writing very long, in-depth articles…

I am used to interviewing experts on certain theories…

Hell, I’m even used to interviewing highly emotional women who have just gone through a breakup.

Do you want to know one thing I am not used to?

I’m NOT used to interviewing an ex boyfriend who has gone through a breakup.

And that’s where Aaron comes into the picture. You see, Aaron has a very unique case because not only did he succeed in getting his girlfriend back but he was also using the EBR method, but backwards. Luckily, when I heard about Aarons result I reached out to him to see if he’d be interested in coming onto the podcast and sharing his experience.

You see, I thought it would be interesting to get a mans perspective on a breakup from an actual ex boyfriend.

So, buckle up because Aaron and I are about to drop some serious bombshells and help you understand the way men think.

To say Evie Shafner knows her stuff would be an understatement.

She’s been in practice for well over 30 years counseling individuals and couples with problems in their relationships and when I was told that she had agreed to come on to my show I was ecstatic.

Now, if you don’t know my interviewing process it’s relatively straightforward and can be broken down into three steps.

Step One: The person agrees to the interview

Step Two: I research the person so I know what questions to ask them

Step Three: I conduct the interview.

See, simple!

Now, I have been doing this a long time so it is rare for me to come across something I have never heard before and that is exactly what happened when I started researching Evie!

You see, she specializes in something called Imago Therapy which is sort of similar to attachment styles.

Now, I am not quite sure I can do it justice as I am not an expert on the topic so I am betting you’d rather learn about it from Evie herself in our interview,

Gather round, gentle viewers!

It’s storytime!

I got a really interesting question the other day from a woman whose name I’m not going to even try to pronounce…

Jariwah…

Jarieewah…

Jahrawah?

Ugh, I give up.

Nevertheless, this awesome lady asked,

Can you just tell me what the heck is going on in his head?

And this got me thinking,

You know what, I can!

So, I decided to peel back the layers and tell you guys some of the things that my fellow men don’t want out there. Now, this is really good stuff because I am going to be going into some of my own breakups and the thoughts that had influenced my actions.

My hope is that as you listen to my epic (kind of lame) story you will be able to bridge the gap between your ex boyfriend and you.

After all, don’t all women wonder what the heck is going on inside the head of a man right after a breakup.

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Alright, let’s begin!

Making an ex commit to you is no easy task.

This is especially true when they reside themselves to believing that they don’t want anything to do with you.

So, how do you make them commit to you, assuming you want them back.

Well, that is the question that I am going to be answering in this episode of The Ex Boyfriend Recovery Podcast!

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Long distance relationships are tough.

Long distance relationship breakups are even tougher.

And yet despite all that the guest I have on this episode of The Ex Boyfriend Recovery Podcast overcame one of the most difficult situations and got her ex back.

I’d like to introduce you to Kris!

Side Note: This is the woman version of me!!!

Kris is actually one of the most active members of our Private Support Group so Jen (my wife) and I were thrilled when she told us that she had gotten her ex back.

But upon hearing her story firsthand I was blown away on how much she had to overcome just to get her guy to agree to be her boyfriend again.

Luckily, I recorded my entire conversation with her!

Check it out!

Rejection and denial…

For most of the women I work with there are no two scarier words than the ones written above.

And yet I find that quite a few women end up rejected or denied by their exes.

Why?

Well, in my experience it is because they overextend themselves.

Think of it like this.

Your ex boyfriend breaks up with you which causes you to immediately want him back. Of course, you are a very smart person and you know that you need to have a sound strategy if you are going to convince him to take you back. So, you go online and search everywhere for a reputable source to help you with your pain.

Eventually you stumble across my little gem of a website here and read about the no contact rule.

Now, don’t get me wrong.

The no contact rule is without a doubt an essential strategy to getting your ex back but it has a bit of a downfall to it.

Generally, by doing a period of no contact it makes you want your ex even more and causes you to go a little too fast too soon.

Hence, you overextend yourself before enough of a connection has been built and you end up rejected.

In fact, that is exactly what happened to Taylor, the subject of our episode today.

One thing that you are going to notice about this episode of the podcast is that I talk a lot about one thing,

Connection

Often times, getting an ex back revolves around how connected you can make him feel towards you and making him connected to you revolves around the four levels of conversation,

Don’t worry, I talk a lot more in depth about it in the episode (give it a listen!)