How many times have you guys heard me say,

Most people who try the no contact rule on their exes end up breaking it…

Well, it still holds true to this day.

At the start of this year I created a private support group for our ex recovery program members where women, going through breakups, could go to get advice and interact with others going through the same thing they are.

As a result, I have gotten to know a lot of amazing people and their situations.

And despite having this personal coaching from me, my team and likeminded individuals they still struggle to make it through the no contact rule.

I can’t tell you how many times I receive a message like this from them,

Chris… I made a bit of a boo boo. I called him during no contact. What do I do next?

And then you have me over here like,

So, I thought I would do something interesting and talk a little about how you can survive your no contact rule.

What you can do to make it through it unscathed without breaking it, ever!

Which leads me to Hannah.

Now, Hannah is unique in the fact that usually when a reader calls in to this podcast they usually hound me with questions.

“What does it mean when he does xyz”

“He told me to F-Off… What do I do?”

But Hannah called in not to ask me a question but to recommend I advise people to do something.

Want to know the craziest part?

I agreed with her!

But before we get started,

I haven’t really made a big deal about this yet because I kind of wanted to surprise you guys but around three months ago I hired a pretty awesome designer to redesign the website.

Now, there is still some work to do on it but one thing that I had him do was redesign the podcast as well.

What do you think?

Pretty awesome, right?

Tell me what you think in the comments of this page!

If you have recently gone through a breakup then you are probably no stranger to jealousy.

Often, I have found that most breakups contain some aspect of jealousy.

But perhaps the most interesting thing out of everything I have seen here on Ex Boyfriend Recovery is that most women want nothing more to learn how to make their exes jealous.

You see, they believe that if they can make their ex jealous he will have some sort of epiphany that will cause him to suddenly wake up and smell the roses (the roses being you.)

But women often forget that while making an ex jealous can be powerful it’s even more impressive to have an ex try to make you jealous and that is what seemed to happen to Kate, a reader of this website.

Now, Kate was kind enough to leave me a voicemail and ask me a question on my speakpipe page.

And here I am answering you, Kate, with a 20 minute podcast episode .

But before we get to the meat of this episode and I teach you why an ex would try to make you jealous I have a bit of a favor to ask.

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A question that I have been getting a lot lately is,

“Chris, what if my ex and I are talking a lot to each other before I start the no contact rule? Isn’t it just rude to cut him off suddenly? What if he gets angry?”

It’s really funny because it takes everything I have not to just scream out,

But I suppose that wouldn’t be very friendly of me. So instead, I figured I’d do a whole podcast episode explaining why it’s important to “JUST DO IT” when it comes to the no contact rule.

Today we are going to hear from a woman named Mallory.

Now, the thing that struck me about Mallory is the fact that she seems to be an amazing implementor. She came by Ex Boyfriend Recovery, read some of my stuff and immediately put it into practice.

However, now she can’t but wonder if it was a mistake to do the no contact rule after she was already on semi decent terms with her ex after the breakup.

Let’s discuss!

I can’t tell you how often I receive an email like this,

“Chris, I am trying your text message strategies out on my ex but I’m only getting “neutral responses” back. How can I keep him engaged while texting me?”

That is certainly what Becky thought when she sent me a voicemail.

You see, Becky is in a really difficult situation.

Her boyfriend broke up with her and didn’t speak to her for a few weeks. In a moment of panic she penned a letter to him (which I never recommend) and followed up with a few text messages. He has received both the letter and the messages but has only replied in a neutral way which is far from ideal.

This of course leads her to wonder if neutral responses are a good thing or a bad thing?

One of the most difficult/annoying situations to be in is one where you start seeing some incredible progress with your ex.

However, despite all this amazing progress you can’t seem to get him to take that crucial next step of admitting that the two of you are official again.

In other words, you can’t get him to commit. Part of you probably wonders if he still cares about you if he won’t commit.

Such was the case with Vanessa, a woman who left a voicemail on my SpeakPipe page. It seemed that no matter how hard she tried she just couldn’t get her ex to take that extra step and commit. To make matters worse she is caught between a rock and a hard place as she has taken a job out of the country which could be causing her ex to not want to commit.

So, how can she make him commit to her?

But before we dive in to that I have a bit of a favor to ask,

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You’ll notice in the episode I gave Vanessa a very clear and detailed game plan about how she can make her ex commit to her but a lot of the things I recommend to her are universal in the fact that when the time comes you can apply them to your own ex.

I’d like to take a look at those things now,

Getting a man commit to you really revolves around two main factors

Now, investment can come in many shapes or forms but generally when I am talking about investment I am talking about things like,

If you can get your ex investing a lot of time into you the more he is going to want to lock you down.

The other thing that you need to take a look at is the reassurance part.

Sometimes your ex boyfriend will say or do certain things to test the waters to see if you are ok with the idea of getting back into a relationship. It’s important to not forget that while you may be frightened of rejection, he is too!

If you notice him doing or saying things that are indicative of him testing the waters then I’d recommend you to reassure him but don’t get into a habit of doing it. Make sure you do it in moderation.

One of the really amazing things about our Private Support Group is the fact that women are always talking about different strategies that I don’t really cover in all that much detail here on Ex Boyfriend Recovery.

Now, one of the most popular strategies on the group right now is “the law of attraction” or “LOA” for short.

I remember the first time that someone ever told me about this I just rolled my eyes and thought,

There is no way that will ever work. That’s stupid….

It’s a sentiment that I am sure a lot of people have when they hear about it for the first time.

Nevertheless, I gave it a try and really tried to open myself up to it and I have to say that it’s pretty incredible what this mindset shift can accomplish.

So, I decided to take things a step further by doing an interview with one of the worlds most popular law of attraction experts, Arielle Ford.

I really wanted to get a sense of how this stuff could apply to getting an ex back since that is what I think most people here are gunning for.

Watch our interview below,

Now, if you are interested in learning more about Arielle and her course I highly recommend you check out her website.

Children are (insert adjective)…

They tend to make relationships more difficult than they should be. As a result, it can lead to some earth shattering breakups.

That is the truth that I think too many of my counterparts are afraid to admit. I mean, I think they are afraid to say,

Having a kid makes getting your ex back SUPER HARD

But it is.

Don’t be fooled into thinking it’s not.

However, just because it is difficult doesn’t mean it’s impossible.

On the contrary, I just got done interviewing an amazing woman who got her ex back who she shares two children with.

One that was born just months before the breakup occurred…

And another one that kept interrupting his mom ( the woman I was interviewing) during our interview.

No seriously… I totally left it in so you guys could see just how difficult she had it.

And despite these difficult circumstances she prevailed by using a new strategy that we have been testing out in our Private Support Group called “The Re-Breakup Text.”

Interested in finding out what it is?

Well, you have to listen!

Too often the internet is polluted with bad advice from individuals who have no business giving that advice.

I can’t tell you how often one of my clients comes up to me and tells me,

“I just bought a product from “guru A” and he said to do this and it totally blew up in my face.”

So, I thought it would be really fun to get an actual therapist on the Podcast and have him answer your real life questions about your breakups.

Well, I’d like to introduce you to Matt Marr!

Matt is a really interesting guy because not only is he a therapist but you may have seen him in a few commercials on TV.

In addition to that he also has his very own podcast called “Dear Mattie”

Oh, and I forgot to mention that he is our first ever repeat guest on the podcast.

Now, I can honestly say that I have interviewed a lot of different people from all walks of life but Matt has this certain happiness about him. Every time I talk to him I literally walk away from the conversation feeling great about myself and I have a feeling you are going to pick up on that vibe when you watch our interview together,

I’m sure Mary was shocked when she woke up one day to find her boyfriend had blocked her on Facebook.

Out of the blue with no warning whatsoever…

I mean, who even does that?

One day Mary is walking around thinking everything is fine and the next day she wakes up to find that her boyfriend has disappeared from her on Facebook.

He wanted to breakup and this was his weird way of informing her.

So, Mary did what ever self respecting woman does in that situation, she begged for her ex back.

Unfortunately, he wasn’t having any of it.

So, how the heck did Mary get her ex back?

Well, find out by watching the video below as I interview her,