The Feminist Dating Show

How was your year? How have you grown? In the last episode of 2023, Lily shares her epic year in review, sharing some of her favorite brags and lessons. As you listen, we invite you to do the same - reflect, practice self-compassion, and celebrate your most cherished brags.

Lily also answers listener questions, revealing insights into how she stayed grounded, who supported her through the challenges, and the mental shifts that were game-changers on her book-writing journey.

Join in celebrating the achievements, reflecting on the lessons learned, and looking forward to a new year filled with growth and empowerment.

Links: Download the free Guide to Your Essence-Based Preferences Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/my-epic-year-in-review-2023

Have you ever found yourself in a dating rut, unsure how to break free and progress? The key to moving forward is within reach. If you're feeling paralyzed, questioning where to begin, or navigating the uncertainties of being single, the solution lies in identifying your essence-based preferences.

In this episode, Lily shares the essence-based preferences tool that empowers you to attract the most fulfilling relationships. It is the tool that has allowed Lily and countless Date Brazen clients to attract the best relationship of their lives. Tune in and unlock the potential for positive change in your dating journey.

Hot-takes and topics:

• When you learn to trust what you want, you will set more boundaries and know when you are in the presence of the right kind of people.

• One tool for building self-trust is creating your essence-based preferences!

• The two categories of essence-based preferences: logistical and personality traits/values

• Lily explores how to ask for what you want in your dating life out loud (hint: this is where your co-conspirators come in!)

Links: Download the free Guide to Your Essence-Based PreferencesVIP One-on-One Coaching with Lily 135. How to create your essence-based preferences

Show link:http://datebrazen.com/blog/create-essence-based-preferences-with-ease

Hello, gorgeous friends! This week on The Date Brazen Podcast, Lily is diving into a simple 4-step framework to help you escape comparison mode in your dating life, especially during the holiday season.

Whether at a holiday party or hanging with friends, dealing with triggers from engagement stories or past relationships, this framework will help you get into more massive, messy, courageous action toward your desires.

Tune in, save this episode, share it with your best friend, and let's kick off a season of self-care and courage in your dating journey.

Episode Topics and Hot-takes:

• "Eliminating comparison is a perfectionistic fantasy." Comparison is human.

• Ask, what thought is useful and true?

• Self-compassion is a strategy to help you move forward powerfully.

• S.O.F.T.: Self-compassion, Owning your needs, Feel your feelings, Thoughts not facts.

Links:

1:1 Coaching with Lily69. Worthiness + Winning Results with Simone Grace Seol

Show link: http://datebrazen.com/blog/get-out-of-comparison-mode

This week, Lily welcomes female friendship coach and educator Danielle Bayard Jackson to the show! As the founder of Friend Forward, Danielle is dedicated to empowering women with practical strategies for building and maintaining meaningful platonic connections.

Lily and Danielle explore pressing topics such as common barriers hindering sustainable female friendships, establishing healthy expectations for adult friendships, and navigating inevitable conflicts with grace. The episode also addresses the challenges of making new friends, recognizing when it's time to end a friendship and the crucial role of time in cultivating lasting connections. Don't miss this episode as Lily and Danielle dive deep into the complexities and joys of female friendships.

Episode Topics and Hot-takes:

• The most common barriers to building and sustaining friendships

• Healthy expectations of what a friendship should be as an adult

• Healthy conflict is inevitable in all relationships. Danielle explains how to navigate conflict in friendships.

• Friendship breakups: How to know when it's time to end a friendship

• "One of the key ingredients to friend-making is time."

Links:

Register HERE for the upcoming live training- Dec 7th, "How to thrive during the holidays as a single badass"

Join Danielle's "Group Chat" Find out more at: https://www.betterfemalefriendships.com/group-chat

Danielle's website Danielle on Instagram: @friendforward @daniellebayardjackson Danielle on TikTok: @thefriendshipexpert

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/fighting-for-our-friendships-with-danielle-bayard-jackson

This week, Lily addresses questions she's gathered from her TikTok community, centered around navigating the holidays while single. She delves into the complexities of solo celebrations, sharing her hottest takes, fiercest encouragement, and spiciest support.

Whether you're wondering how to handle prying relatives, seeking advice on thriving as a solo adventurer during the holidays, or craving solidarity, Lily's got you covered. Tune in for a dose of wisdom, a dash of humor, and a sprinkle of festive cheer as Lily guides you on thriving this holiday season as a single badass.

Register HERE for the upcoming live training- Dec 7th, "How to thrive during the holidays as a single badass"

Download the Free "Guide to Essence-Based Preferences" HERE.

Financial therapist Aja Evans joins Lily this week to discuss money and your dating life. The conversation is meant to inspire you to take up space in your financial life, challenge limiting beliefs, and prioritize relationships that align with your values and aspirations. Aja is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor who specializes in financial therapy. In this episode, she helps us understand the connection between emotions and money and explores the varying dynamics of partnerships and money.

Episode Topics and Hot-takes:

• You don't need to make yourself smaller to accommodate a potential partner's ego.

• Aja helps us understand how to move through financial shame.

• How to talk about money and finances on a date

Links:

Aja's websiteAja on Instagram

Show notes:

http://datebrazen.com/blog/money-and-your-dating-life-with-aja-evans

This week, Lily welcomes Shirin Eskandani to the podcast! Shirin is a former opera singer turned coach who, in this episode, opens up about her quest for fulfillment beyond external achievements. From navigating the challenges of dating to discovering the unexpected depth of inner work in coaching, Shirin shares the transformative power that led her to pursue coaching with a commitment to inclusivity and decolonized perspectives.

Shirin shares her mission to diversify the coaching world, highlighting the need for more inclusive certifications. Lily and Shirin also dive into the concept of being "wholehearted," exploring themes of empowerment and the profound impact of coaching on personal and professional aspects of life.

Listen in to hear this fantastic conversation that empowers self-discovery and self-trust.

Hot-takes from this episode:

• Nothing outside of you will ever make me feel fulfilled or enough. That is something you have to be working on yourself.

• "It isn't just about my dating life. It isn't just about my work. How we do one thing is usually how we do all or most things."

• Decolonizing is about questioning and getting curious about what you value and believe and whether those values and beliefs were handed to you from society or family. Then, decide that you get to choose what you value and believe and how you want to move forward.

Links: One-on-One Coaching with LilyWholehearted Coaching: The PodcastWhole Hearted Coaching Certification Shirin on Instagram @wholeheartedcoaching Wholehearted Coaching Certification Program on Instagram @wholeheartedcertification

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/decolonizing-coaching-and-building-self-trust-shirin-eskandani

Farnoosh Torabi joins Lily on the podcast this week! Farnoosh is a leading financial expert, host of the So Money podcast, and author of So Money, Psych Yourself Rich, and When She Makes More. In this episode, she discusses the teachings and insights from her new book A Healthy State Of Panic, Follow Your Fears To Build Wealth, Crush Your Career, And Win At Life. The book (and this episode) illustrates how fear can be your superpower in this heartfelt and clever guide to maximizing your success to live richer and happier. Lily also parallels the topics in Farnoosh's book (related to fear) and how they can apply to the dating world. This is a fun, thoughtful, and heartfelt episode!

Featured Conversation Topics:

• The difference between harnessing fear and indulging it?

• How to build a healthy relationship with fear

• The fear of rejection, loneliness, and exposure in dating

• As you listen, think about one action step you can take to move with your fear in a more healthy manner.

Links: One-on-One Coaching with LilySo Money with Farnoosh TorabiA Healthy State of Panic, Farnoosh Torabi

Show Notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/harnessing-your-fears-with-farnoosh-torabi

Get ready for a healing and hilarious episode! Lily introduces a special guest who radiates "Main Character Energy" in every aspect of her life. Devrie Brynn Donalson, the creative force behind the book, "You're Gonna Die Alone (& Other Excellent News)," unpacks her life-altering choices and journey.

Devrie reflects on her inspiring journey to Scotland, her struggles with body image, and her pursuit of self-discovery. Lily and Devrie also delve into the compelling dialogue on personal growth and societal pressures.

This episode is a rollercoaster of emotions, filled with humor, wit, and authentic storytelling.

Don't miss this captivating conversation on the Date Brazen podcast!

Featured Conversation Topics:

• Devrie shares the story of her bold decision to move to Scotland, a journey sparked by friendship breakups and a quest for self-discovery.

• Discover how Devrie makes life-altering decisions by imagining herself as the main character in her story, ultimately guiding her choices.

• The challenges of growing up in a culture fixated on body size and appearances and the impact it can have.

• Devrie's thoughts on the fear of being unlovable and how it influenced her choices and relationships.

Links: One-on-One Coaching with LilyDevrie on Instagram & TikTok @devriebrynn You're Gonna Die Alone (& Other Excellent News)

Show link: http://datebrazen.com/blog/healing-hilarity-and-mce-with-devrie-donalson

This week, we're breaking down the journey to creating a dating life that's joyful, boundary-filled, and confidently your own. Michelle, a Brazen Breakthrough client, joins Lily for a fantastic conversation about how she went from dead-end dating to only great dates. Plus, hear how she learned to stop compromising her desires and find joy in all areas of her life.

🔥 Hot-Takes Alert! 🔥

• Ever wondered, "What if I do this thing and it doesn't work for my love life?" We're diving into that fear and breaking it down.

• It's time to stop compromising your desires. Learn how to permit yourself to want what you want without apology.

• The "shoulds" – we all know them, but how do we escape their grasp when it comes to dating, life, and love?

• 🗨️ Michelle reminds us, "Dating feels less like a 'life or death thing' when you are having fun in other areas of your life."

Links:

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