The Feminist Dating Show

Lily is bringing you a bonus episode! If you missed her free live training, Create a Confident and Joyful-as-Fuck Dating Life, or want to hear it again - you're in luck! Today, Lily is sharing the entire training on the podcast. This training will help you build confidence, practice self-compassion and self-trust, and ease in your dating life.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• How to create a fiercely confident as-hell dating life (without the overwhelm, anxiety, and burnout).

• How to be completely dating-app optional and find juicy dates in person

• The anxiety-relieving plan of action that will make the right relationship inevitable.

• You'll also get a special invite to join us in my signature program, The Brazen Breakthrough.

This bonus replay is jam-packed with Q&As that cover many dating questions and questions about what it's like being a part of The Brazen Breakthrough. There is so much good stuff - this is such an informative (and fun) episode!

Links: ✨Join The Brazen Breakthrough Now! ✨ The doors to Brazen Breakthrough close on Oct 27th at 11:59 pm EST

Anna joins Lily to share her experience in the Brazen Breakthrough (Lily's proven feminist as fuck group coaching program). In this episode, Anna shares what led her to join the Brazen Breakthrough and how it helped her feel supported, get unstuck, and stop panic dating. This episode is going to be so freaking good!

We're excited for you to listen to Anna's story. If it resonates and you are listening on the day it airs - October 17th - join Lily for a live free training. In this live free training, Lily will teach you how to be dating app optional, how to create a dating life with more ease, joy, and power, and how to make the right relationship inevitable. You'll also learn about the Brazen Breakthrough. It's going to be an amazing time. Find all the links below; we hope to see you there!

Hot-takes from this episode:

• How to approach finding a partner in a way that is sustainable for your mental health and move away from panic dating

• "You're for the few and not for the many."

• When you learn the skill of self-advocacy and step deeper into agency in your love life, what you believe is possible is inevitable.

• Anna shares how understanding what she wanted in her dating life led to her going on a great date!

Links:

Join Us TONIGHT, October 17th, for the Free Live Training → ✨ Creating a Confident and Joyful-as-fuck Dating Life That Makes the Right Relationship Inevitable ✨ The Brazen Breakthrough

Show link: http://datebrazen.com/blog/stop-panic-dating

If you think you are "behind" in your dating life, this episode is for you. Lily is going to teach you how to start dating with confidence. Your "lack of romantic experience" is not a dealbreaker for finding love.

If you've never been in a relationship… If you've never been kissed… If you've never had sex…

There's ZERO wrong with where you've been. There's only the invitation waiting in front of you to build what you want NOW and move forward.

Don't NOT go to the party because you're afraid you're too late. The best stuff happens at a party once it's started, anyway.

Hot-takes from this episode:

• "If you believe that your lack of experience is embarrassing, then that is holding you back from finding love on your terms."

• "The idea of being a late bloomer rushed me into dating to "fix it."

• "Your assumed late-bloomer status does not have to be your identity."

• Neutralize your dating history with self-compassion. History does not mean anything about what is possible.

• Build a strategy that honors your power

• Bring on a community that supports the hell out of you

Links:

Join Us on October 17th for Free Live Training → ✨ Creating a Confident and Joyful-as-fuck Dating Life That Makes the Right Relationship Inevitable ✨ Show Link:

http://http/datebrazen.com/blog/start-dating-as-a-late-bloomer

This week's episode is all about in-person dating! Lily is sharing step-by-step how to build confidence and become the version of yourself who approaches people in person with empowered action.

This in-person dating lesson isn't meant to make you micromanage; it's to help you SHOW UP for your desires. The advice inside this episode will help you approach somebody in person in the next 30 days. You've got this, and Lily and the entire Date Brazen community have your back.

Episode Hot-takes:

• Permit yourself to be in progress, and stop self-blaming for being "bad" at dating.

• "How do you get out of self-blame? By practicing self-compassion."

• "Commit to getting messy and practicing. You are not good at in-person dating because you haven't practiced yet." What if you just took one action step today?

• Celebrate yourself! "Self-celebration is an in-person dating strategy. Celebrate every time you practice in-person dating!"

Links: SAVE YOUR SPOT for Creating a Confident and Joyful-as-fuck Dating as a Burnout Feminist Badass

Show notes:http://datebrazen.com/blog/approach-in-person-dating-even-if-youre-scared

Today, Lily is sharing an incomplete list (because the list just keeps on growing!) of the dumbest dating rules. She also offers her hot takes on how to break them. The "rules" covered in this episode include:

Dumb Dating Rule #1: You have to be on a dating app to be trying Dumb Dating Rule #2: Playing the numbers game - by constantly going on dates. Dumb Dating Rule #3: "Give them one more chance. You NEVER KNOW"

This episode is going to help you free yourself from standards, rules, and pressure that are not serving you or your love life.

Some Episode Hot-Takes:

• "A dating app can be a really powerful tool when you use it with boundaries; specifically when you see it as a tool and not the answer to your dating life."

• "Know your preferences deeply and choose dates intentionally. You get to trust yourself."

• "Pursuing the numbers game myth in your dating strategy is a quick ticket to burnout."

• "Hold your expectations to growth, not perfection."

Links: SAVE YOUR SPOT for Creating a Confident and Joyful-as-fuck Dating as a Burnout Feminist Badass 131. How your coupled friends can help you135. How to create your essence-based preferences162. The complete dating detox guide

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/breaking-dumb-dating-rules

This week, Lily takes you through the complete dating detox guide. This guide will help you release the pressure on your dating life and create more spaciousness and ease. A Date Brazen listener inspired this episode when they asked:

"I have just decided to take a break from everything. Even though I'm good at taking this break, do you have any methods for healing or building back good feelings around dating?"

The dating detox guide will help you make way for more time and mental energy to envision the right partnership apart from the dating noise. Lily is going to tell you exactly how to get the clarity that you need and reignite your dating life with even more forward momentum than you've had before.

Some Episode Hot-Takes:

• "So many people are in that download, delete cycle, download, delete cycle. During this dating app pause, plan to get the most out of this time because intentional effort leads to intentional results."

• "Allow the worry to be seen through the lens of self-compassion."

Dating Detox Guide Steps Recap: Step 1: Detox from Dating

Step 2: Detox from other's dating advice

Step 3: Detox from dating worry

Links: SAVE YOUR SPOT for Creating a Confident and Joyful-as-fuck Dating as a Burnout Feminist Badass 140. My bless and release strategy for letting go

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/the-complete-detox-dating-guide

We are back with brand-new episodes! This week, Lily provides an in-depth and actionable coaching answer to the question, "Am I doing enough in my dating life?" Listen to Lily's take on why you may ask yourself this question. Plus, she shares ten suggested action steps that will help you create momentum in your dating life and lead to the right relationship.

"If you are not treating yourself like you would your best friend in your dating life, if you are swimming in self-doubt, self-blame, shame, and you're not addressing those things first, then doing these action steps in your dating life is not going to get you into the best relationship of your life."

If you do just one of the things mentioned in this episode, know it is beautiful enough. Celebrate yourself today (and every day)! Print out the checklist below and give yourself a heaping dose of self-compassion.

Some Episode Hot-Takes:

• "I don't care about you getting into a relationship. I care about you knowing how to get into the best relationship of your life. Which begins with how you treat yourself."

• "Allowing yourself to be yourself will lead to the right relationship online and in person."

• "Celebration is a dating strategy."

Links: 121. Dating apps: Ask me anything 131. How your coupled friends can help you135. How to create your essence-based preferencesBraving the Wildnerness, Brené BrownSelf-compassion.orgKara Lowentheil's podcast, Unf*ck Your BrainThe Loveland FoundationPsychology TodayNational Institute for the Psychotherapies

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/am-i-doing-enough-checklist

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"Am I doing enough?" Checklist

1. Am I practicing self-compassion?

2. Have I done my Essence-Based Preferences?

3. Have I chosen my co-conspirator?

4. Am I getting my brain coached/supported by the right coach or therapist? What support could I bring to my team to start making strides forward?

5. Do I have a joy-building plan? Am I getting out into the world to do fun things?

6. Am I asking people out when I feel led?

7. When my energy allows, am I making new connections and discussing what I want in my dating life?

8. Am I swiping with the boundaries I need?

9. Am I bringing community to my dating life?

10. Am I celebrating myself?

Over the next two weeks, we are inviting you to enjoy Date Brazen Spotlight episodes. We're dusting off some of the most listened-to episodes and sharing them with you! This week, In this episode, Lily shares some exercises that can help you better align with what you desire.

"It doesn't take time; it takes alignment."

With this new thought, you move from a place of stagnation to one of action. What action can you take to get into alignment? Think about what you can do today to align with your values and move towards the life you desire tomorrow.

SHOW NOTES:

https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-align-with-your-desires

Over the next three weeks, we are inviting you to enjoy Date Brazen Spotlight episodes. We're dusting off some of the most listened-to episodes and sharing them with you! This week, we are taking a trip all the way back to when The Date Brazen podcast first started, with an episode about how to be the boss of your dating life! Let's get into it.

BAD ADVICE ALERT: "Dating is a numbers game."

Lily tackles one of the biggest problems people face in dating - the "Numbers Game."

This common piece of dating advice is hurting your dating life. Lily shares why and what you can do about it. Listen to this episode to hear the three steps to find better dates in less time!

Find all the info and links from today's episode in the show notes: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/episode-1

This week we have the pleasure of introducing you to Steph! Steph is a former Date Brazen client who joined Main Character Energy Mastermind last year to deepen her self-trust and self-pleasure and to date with unbothered energy.

Lily and Steph get into topics such as bragging, being celebrated, and belonging. Steph also shares some of her breakthroughs from pursuing her desires and pleasures without apologizing or qualifications. No matter your circumstances, we know Steph's story will support and inspire you to embrace the main character energy in your love life.

Hot-takes and takeaways from this episode:

• Breaking up with perfectionism and instead dating messy can be freeing

• Being witnessed and celebrated by a group of women cheerleaders

• The importance of normalizing belonging

If Main Character Energy Mastermind resonates with you, applications are open. Click here to apply! 🎉

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/a-coven-of-cheerleaders