Do you catch yourself writing paragraph-long texts just to say “no”?

Do you feel the urge to explain every decision, anticipate every reaction, or soften your truth with a long-winded disclaimer?

That’s not overthinking. That’s overexplaining—and it’s a trauma response.

In this episode, we’re talking about the exhausting cycle of overexplaining yourself, especially if you grew up with a narcissistic or otherwise toxic parent. I’ll walk you through why it started, why it still feels so necessary, and how to start letting it go.

You’ll learn:

• How childhood invalidation trains us to justify our existence
• Why toxic parents weren’t misunderstanding you—they were never interested in knowing the real you
• How overexplaining becomes a codependent pattern that follows us into adulthood

This one’s for the cycle breakers who are tired of holding their breath after hitting send.

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