The Holderness Family Podcast

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Welcome to the Holderness Family Podcast! On Facebook and YouTube we are known as The Holderness Family. We make those silly songs and skits with our kids, but on this podcast, it's just us... the real us. The non-Christmas-jammies-us, the why-can't-my-socks-be-on-the-kitchen-counter-us (Penn) the why-do-I-have-to-go-outside-and-talk-to-people-us (Kim).On this podcast, we will share the real-life ups and downs of living together, working together, raising kids together, in what we hope is a funny and entertaining way. We will be taking questions that we are likely unqualified to answer (absolutely unqualified to answer) but we are hoping that the show will make all of your beautiful families realize you're not alone. You're not alone. We are all a hot mess... a HolderMess. The HolderMess: the Holderness Family PodcastThank you for subscribing and listening!Hosted by Kim & Penn HoldernessProduced by Max Trujillo Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Who remembers what it was like to walk around the mall on a Friday night and seeing all your friends? It takes so long nowadays for my friend group to make plans. I miss the days when there was a ...

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09.19.2023 Blockbuster, Perms, and Whatchamacallit Who remembers what it was like to walk around the mall on a Friday night and seeing all your friends? It takes so long nowadays for my friend group to make plans. I miss the days when there was a ...
09.12.2023 Changing How We Talk About Death with Hadley Vlahos, RN Penn and I have had our fair share of interactions with hospice as our loved ones grow older. There are so many people who don’t always have access to hospice care in the way they would like. But one thing ...
09.05.2023 Helping Kids (And Us) with Failure with Michelle Icard I am constantly wavering about being proud of my kids for good grades and feeling overwhelmed with how much work they have to do. The same goes for sports as I’m the loudest one cheering on the sidelines, but sometimes ...
08.29.2023 How Well Do You Know Your Partner? When you've been married for a long time, it's hard to learn something new about each other. Luckily, our producer, Ann Marie Taepke, joined us this week on the podcast to help. Inspired by our friends, Shawn Johnson and Andrew ...
08.22.2023 Should We Get A Sleep Divorce? with Dr. Shelby Harris Some people get FOMO (the Fear of Missing Out) but I have FOMS (the Fear of Missing Sleep.) I go to bed early and I am an extremely light sleeper. Penn, on the other hand, likes to say up a ...
08.15.2023 Back to School Pep Talk with Dr. Hope Seidel It's back to school time and we honestly needed a little pep talk. So, Dr. Seidel joined us on the podcast this week to calm our nerves. Her biggest piece of advice? You have to let your kids fail. (As ...
08.08.2023 Enjoying The Process with Charlie Berens This week we were in the mood to laugh, so who better to invite back to the podcast than comedian Charlie Berens. Charlie is about to embark on his fourth stand-up tour, and he creates content for the internet just ...
08.01.2023 Asking For A Friend (Literally) with Dr. Marisa G. Franco I have the best, most loyal friends from different parts of my life but I’ll be honest, the idea of making NEW friends makes my pits sweat. I’m in my late forties, but even thinking about making new friends and ...
07.25.2023 I’m Sore From Going Outside My Comfort Zone Penn got me kiteboarding lessons for my birthday. It was so cool, but also very painful. I learned a few life lessons when I went outside my comfort zone. Grab a Comfort Zone tee here! Ask a question or just ...
07.18.2023 Secrets For A Long Life with Dr. Gladys McGarey Our guest today is Dr. Gladys McGarey, a visionary doctor and co-founder of the American Holistic Medical Association. Dr. Gladys is 102 years old and known as the mother of holistic medicine. Dr. Gladys has lived an amazing life - ...
07.11.2023 ADHD Life Coaching with Dr. Ned Hallowell True story, when Penn first got diagnosed with ADHD in the mid-90s, his doctor handed him a book called Driven To Distraction. It was a brand new book by Dr. Ned Hallowell about ADHD and it was groundbreaking at the ...
07.04.2023 Questions For Your Family On the podcast this week, we are answering your questions, but we picked questions you can also ask your family! These are great discussions for a summer roadtrip or around the dinner table. We discuss everything from goals, happiness, and ...
06.27.2023 What Happened To Summer with Carl Honoré For some reason, this summer feels busier than our regular school year. Our teen and pre-teen kids are involved in camps, sports, studying for SATs, and thinking about college. When I was their age, I was happy to hang with ...
06.20.2023 I'm Sorry For Saying Sorry with Shadé Zahrai I probably say sorry at least twenty times a day. Of course I want to take accountability, but sometimes I apologize when I didn’t do anything wrong. Which got me thinking, is there a problem with saying sorry too much? ...
06.13.2023 A Sober Curious Summer It’s the start of summer, which means going to the pool, grilling out, and heading to the beach… all of which usually include an adult beverage. But lately, Penn and I have been drinking less. For me, too much drinking ...
06.06.2023 Our Taylor Swift Era with Lola Holderness I want my kids to be happy. (I know, I know, I know. It’s an impossible and unrealistic goal.) I’ve been in enough therapy sessions to know that chasing “happiness” is a fool's errand. We should really be appreciating all ...
05.30.2023 Let's Get Uncomfortable with Dr. Selena Snow My goal this year is to put myself in as many uncomfortable situations as possible. I wanted to get out of my comfort zone. On The Amazing Race, we were put in MANY uncomfortable positions. I found that it was ...
05.23.2023 Our Midwest Neighbor & Your Stories This week on the podcast, we wanted to laugh so we brought in "our Midwest neighbor" to help. Her name is Ann Marie Taepke, and she’s been playing our on-camera neighbor for over 2 years. (She isn’t our real neighbor, ...
05.16.2023 What Will Stop Gun Violence with Ryan Busse Every time I learn about another mass shooting in this country, I lose at least a day. Though a school shooting in my community is my worst fear—it is happening at outlet malls like in Allen, Texas and at banks ...
05.09.2023 Help! I’ve Fallen Into A Thought Trap with Morra Aarons-Mele Imagine you are headed into your first day at a new job. You walk in the door and suddenly your mind is overwhelmed with thoughts: Nobody likes me. I’m a fraud. I’m dumb. I don’t belong here. Suddenly, you are ...
05.02.2023 Maycember & Great Advice Any parent with school-aged children can tell you how crazy the month of May is. Just like the month of December, the calendar is packed with activities, gatherings, and ceremonies. Except no presents, cookies, or twinkling lights. So we call ...
04.25.2023 Our Colicky Baby Is Driving with Dr. Hope Seidel You guys. It happened. I blinked and my tiny colicky-baby got her license. I keep repeating to myself, “She’s a good driver. She’s ready for this. She’s a good driver.” But still, I think one of the hardest parts of ...
04.18.2023 Anti-Spacing Tips for ADHD Recently, Kim said something to me that sort of hit me like a ton of bricks… “I can’t always tell when you’re listening to me.” We wrote a whole book on marriage communication called Everybody Fights with a section on ...
04.11.2023 Essential Life Skills for Teens with Lisa Endlich Heffernan Our kids, Lola and Penn Charles, are getting older, and I have never felt more on the record. Whether it’s driving lessons with Lola or helping PC practice the cooking basics, I find myself teaching them life skills at every ...
04.04.2023 It's Fine, But It's Not Fine We received a question last week about how to deal with some of the behaviors of ADHD when you are a person who experiences anxiety. It’s something we have talked about plenty of times. The short answer is that it ...
03.28.2023 Anxiety, Imposter Syndrome, and Space Travel with Andy Weir When Kim asked who I’d like to have on the podcast as a guest, I blurted out “Andy Weir!” Weir writes science fiction and is, hands down, my favorite author. And by some miracle, he agreed to come on our ...
03.21.2023 A Second Chance At Parenting Apparently more people in their 40s get pregnant than I thought... This week, Penn and I talk about having to recently buy a pregnancy test and how that made us reflect on our parenting. We also hear from many of ...
03.14.2023 The Gift of Swedish Death Cleaning with Kathryn Snearly There’s a lot of reasons we hold onto things, but one profound thing about that is: Everything that you own, owns a part of you. This week we talk with Kathryn Snearly, of the viral YouTube channel Do It On ...
03.07.2023 Forced Family Fun In our family, Kim does most of the planning… groceries, kid schedules, house maintenance... so when it comes to family vacations, Kim deserves a break. So I planned our recent family vacation to Chamonix, France. We have talked about how ...
02.28.2023 Forgiveness, ADHD, & Fishbowl Brain with Dr. Marcy Caldwell If you want a master class in forgiveness, marry someone with ADHD. While I am the queen of holding a grudge, Penn couldn’t be more opposite. On this podcast, we discuss the connection between ADHD and forgiveness with Dr. Marcy ...
02.21.2023 Navigating the Emotional Life of Teens with Dr. Lisa Damour There is an adolescent mental health crisis going on in America right now. It’s so severe, in fact, the US Surgeon General issued a rare advisory on protecting youth mental health. Take an already emotional developmental time and couple it ...
02.14.2023 How You Met Your Person This week we did a whole episode about relatshes (our funny way of abbreviating relationships) in honor of Valentine's Day! We talk about how we met each other, we hear how some of you met each other, and for any ...
02.07.2023 Weight Loss Myths (& WTF) with Dr. Mary Claire Haver I’ve always said after I had kids that items may have “shifted in flight.” As I’ve gotten older, I’m not doing many things different in terms of my diet or exercise, but I’ve noticed the scale wants to creep up. ...
01.31.2023 We Don't Always Know What We're Doing I have a really hard time ever calling something a failure. For me, even if something doesn’t go as well as I had hoped, I always learn and grow from the situation, which, I think, is a good thing! If ...
01.24.2023 Being Better Humans with Carlos Whittaker I am fully aware that I am susceptible to seasonal depression disorder this time of year, and, when life feels like a LOT, I like to look for actionable items to shift my perspective. One way I do this is ...
01.17.2023 Is Everything Awesome? with Neil Pasricha As someone who struggles with anxiety and depression where positivity is a conscious choice, I get a little skeptical about any advice on how to "magically be happier." This week, Penn was VERY excited to talk to our guest, while ...
01.10.2023 We May Be A Mismatch What a journey this podcast took us on. As you know, the new year always brings new hopes and dreams for me (Kim) and I will shout them from the rooftops. (If you don't put your dreams into the universe, ...
01.03.2023 How We Got In Shape For The Amazing Race with Taylor Pope In our mid-40s, we knew we’d be some of the older competitors on The Amazing Race - a famously grueling show in which teams of two travel the globe conquering physical (and sometimes mental and emotional) challenges. We wanted to ...
12.20.2022 Teens Might Be Our Favorite As a new mom, I was secretly dreading the time when my kids were older and Christmas would somehow feel less special when the “magic” wore off. Well, it turns out, there’s lots and lots of things that make this ...
12.13.2022 Penn’s (Medically Necessary) Cosmetic Surgery In this week’s podcast, Kim and I “plogged” the week surrounding my eyelid surgery, and I did a little soul searching about my own self-image and the male tendency to shy away from self-image issues. You also get to hear ...
12.06.2022 The Silver Linings of Menopause with Dr. Kourtney Sims While we typically only hear the dreadful things about menopause, I’m happy to report that there are actually silver linings to this stage of life. Lately I’ve been feeling a little bit like I’m going crazy. My anxiety has been ...
11.29.2022 Holiday Marriage Contract We've talked in the past and in our book about secret contracts you have in relationships (i.e. - who always empties the dishwasher, who always makes the meal plan...) but it got us thinking... what about the holidays? We've always ...
11.22.2022 Pickleball Y'all with Leigh Waters I love talking to a Mom... especially one who is kicking as much butt as Leigh Waters. Leigh Waters was a practicing attorney a few short years ago, who is now one of the top female Pickleball players in the ...
11.15.2022 Gratitude Is The New Mindfulness with Dr. Robert Emmons With Thanksgiving around the corner, I have been thinking about thankfulness and gratitude. On today’s podcast episode, we spoke with Dr. Robert Emmons who is the leading researcher on gratitude. His work focuses on the psychology of gratitude and joy ...
11.08.2022 Our Political Therapy Session with Pantsuit Politics Couldn't we all benefit from a little political therapy? Originally, I wasn't even sure if this episode would be a good idea. Some political issues have been very upsetting to me (as they have been to a lot of people) ...
11.01.2022 Fun Trivia & Why I Hate Losing Now that my daughter is in Driver’s Ed, she likes to remind me when I’m not completely following the rules of the road. So much so that the other day I reminded her how long I’ve been driving. You guys, ...
10.25.2022 Open Hearts & Your Questions For Us We've gotten so many good questions from you recently, we dedicated our podcast to answering them! In this episode, we cover evolving dreams, insecurities, and post Amazing Race blues... and why your heart should always be open. Tell us what ...
10.18.2022 Conversations with Our Younger Selves In honor of Penn's birthday, we decided to ask the question: What would 10-year-old Penn think of his life now? It’s easy to get caught up in the busyness of life and sometimes forget to really appreciate what you’ve accomplished. ...
10.11.2022 We Faceoff With You (Our Game Launched!) What’s that emotion that’s excited but a little nervous? Nervcited? Well, I’m nervcited because our new game Family Faceoff has just launched into the universe (and we asked you listeners to call-in for this episode to play it with us!) ...
10.04.2022 Mental Health & Flaccid Heimlich On this week’s podcast, I walked Penn through my month of mental health discovery, what worked, and what has room for improvement. The more we talked, the more insight Penn had on how my mind works. Speaking of how minds ...

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