Why Is It So Hard to Not Be an A-Hole Sometimes?Brian Ronalds is back, author behind the How Not to Be an A-Hole series! On today’s episode, Brian joins Seth and Pete to take a closer look at one of the key factors that play into the divorce scenario: one of the partners is an a-hole.  But sometimes, that a-hole is you. Why is it so hard to get past this? Brian is back to share what it takes to look at yourself to work at being a better person who isn’t an a-hole. It’s a challenge, particularly as sometimes it involves figuring out what part of your issues in the marriage, the divorce, or post-divorce are because you and your partner/ex were a bad fit, and what parts are because you are being an a-hole.
Sometimes it means therapy. Sometimes, it’s working really hard to avoid those kneejerk reactions, particularly when it comes to texts. (Don’t text back right away!) But it’s worth it in the long run to work on these things. As Brian says, “It’s lazy to get dirty, and it’s hard to go above what they’d expect of you.” 
We have a great conversation today with him and are thrilled to have him returning to chat with us. Tune in!
Links & Notes

• Brian’s How Not to Be an A-Hole Series
• Brian’s Film The Last Day of the Rest of My Life
• Brian on LinkedIn, Facebook, and Twitter
• Schedule a consult with Seth
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About BrianBrian Ronalds is an American actor turned writer/producer/director and is the other half of “The Ronalds Brothers." Brian’s recent credits include the horror-comedy, Netherbeast Incorporated, directed by his brother, Dean. The film stars Darrell Hammond, Judd Nelson, Dave Foley, Robert Wagner and Jason Mewes.
Brian has co-produced Dirty Little Trick starring Dean Cain and Michael Madsen, as well as the feature, Ashley, also directed by Dean Ronalds featuring America’s Next Top Model winner, Nicole Fox, Two and a Half Men’s Jennifer Taylor, Tom Malloy, and Michael Madsen. Along with producing films, Brian wrote for Tyler Perry's Meet the Browns and is a published writer.
Brian has recently written and directed his feature film directorial debut, THE MASS SHOOTING MONOLOGUES (now titled The Last Day of the Rest of My Life). The film is both poignant and important, dealing with mass murder at a high school that was motivated by bullying. The film stars Kee Chan (Revenge of the Sith), Tom Malloy (The Alphabet Killer/Love N’ Dancing), Brennan Murray (You’re the Worst/Video Game High School) and introduces Brian’s son, Leif Ronalds.

• (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
• (00:26) - Brian Ronalds Is Back!
• (02:01) - Inner Exploration
• (03:43) - Learning the Lessons
• (06:44) - Learning to Not Be an A-Hole Divorcee
• (11:13) - Hard With Differences in Parenting
• (14:48) - Fighting A-Hole Instincts
• (18:12) - Sponsor: Soberlink
• (20:41) - Take Time Before Texting
• (22:40) - Apologizing
• (23:45) - Evolving Relationship With Kids
• (26:25) - Playing the Long Game
• (28:38) - Wrap Up