This month’s coaching conversation wrestles with the obstacles that arise when you try listening to people who think out loud – often at great length!

This month’s coaching conversation is wide-ranging. It includes a leader’s story about being buoyed by her team. She and Tom also swap answers to a favorite question of her team’s: “How’re ya coping?” They then explore managing stress through being present and intentional.

Three questions to help you become present:

What am I doing right now?

What feelings am I having right now?

What is happening in my body right now?

Approach these questions with curiosity. Don’t ask with an intention to fix. The intention is just to notice.

You can explore self-management and self-awareness in the archive using the filters:

Managing Yourself

Personal Growth & Self-Development

You can take a deeper dive with these five episodes:

Combating Emotional Hijacks

Connecting Over Video

Inviting Dialogue

Self-Awareness & Self-Management

The Mindful Executive

The archive is at:

https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

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https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

Until next month, wishing you health and safety!

SHOWNOTES:
This month’s coaching conversation is with a leader who wants to keep strong connections despite the quarantine. She and Tom explore the barriers that make connecting over video so difficult.

Four essentials to attend to on video:

• Angle
• Lighting
• Background
• Sound

From Tom to you:

These difficult times can create a lot of fear. An antidote is to be curious. Curiosity is at the very heart of coaching. If I can help in anyway, let me know. Go to https://essentialcomm.com/contact/ and let me know what would be helpful.

There is always help for you in the archive. Filters that relate to this month’s episode are:

• Executive Presence
• Perception – How You’re Perceived
• Leading Teams
• Managing Yourself

Five related episodes are:

• Video Feedback & Executive Presence
• Executive Presenting
• High-Stakes Meetings
• Building Emotional Intelligence
• The Human Element

The archive is at: https://essentialcomm.com/podcast

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Stay safe all you wonderful humans! Until next month!

This month’s coaching conversation explores how to project your personal brand into the workplace. When done well it can seem like a Jedi mind trick – but it’s really just personal branding.

Here are the five links Tom mentioned in the episode.
Looking good in video conferencing

https://medium.com/@bobsacha/a-cinematographers-guide-to-looking-good-in-web-based-video-conferencing-fb6cf651714c

4 Ways to Improve Video Meetings

https://www-forbes-com.cdn.ampproject.org/c/s/www.forbes.com/sites/markmurphy/2020/03/22/these-four-techniques-will-instantly-improve-your-videoconferences-with-remote-employees/amp/

Coronavirus Doctor Empowers Us

https://vimeo.com/399733860

“That Discomfort You’re Feeling…”

https://hbr.org/2020/03/that-discomfort-youre-feeling-is-grief

Executive Coaching Group

https://www.icfla.org/event/executive-coaching-sig/

Core Concepts in this episode:
> We brand ourselves with our self-talk every day

> Find language to help you talk about yourself

> Talking about yourself is not a bad thing

> Find words that spark an image of the brand you want to be. Think of them as often as you can.

Related Archive Categories:
Executive Presence,

Perception – How You’re Perceived

Self-Talk

Related Tips & Episodes:
Becoming Expert

Acting On The Corporate Stage

The Voice of Authority

Conquering Fear

Achieving Authenticity

The archive is at: https://essentialcomm.com/podcast

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Thanks everyone. Stay safe. Stay Home! Do it for the First Team!

See you next month!

This month’s coaching conversation is with a high-performer who was passed over for a promotion. Together, she and Tom identify tools to make sure she doesn’t get passed over again.

Core Concepts in this episode:
> Aisha chose to NOT be self-promotional. In your organization, a more vocal approach may be effective.

> Click out. Think from a higher altitude. Give yourself the promotion.

> Networking is not evil. But have intention. Be a good detective.

Related Archive Categories:
Managing Yourself

Related Tips & Episodes:
Acting on the Corporate Stage
Leading Teams
Managing Former Peers
Networking
The Flexible Leader

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Thanks this month to Paul Ison and George Avelino. You guys are the best.

And thanks to all of you who are in touch and who post reviews. So much thanks!

See you next month!

This month’s coaching conversation isn’t so much a conversation as a fencing match. A newly installed president grills Tom about the coaching he’s been delivering at her company for years.

There are two different strands you might follow from this episode. One is about coaching. You might listen to these episodes:
Coaching Your People
Coaching Versus Therapy
Readiness in Coaching

Another strand you might follow is about self-management. Episodes on that strand would be:
Creating New Behaviors
How Behaviors Change
High Stakes Meetings

You could also search the archive using the filters:
Developing New Behaviors
Personal Growth & Self-Development
Self-Talk

The archive is at:
https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

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https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

From all of us, thanks!

See you next month!

This month’s coaching conversation examines phrases we use that lead us into self-deception. Tom and his client explore why thinking errors so often remain invisible and, once revealed, what other words might be possible substitutions.

SHOW NOTES:
 Tom mentions two books in this episode:

 “How To Raise Your Self-Esteem” by Nathaniel Branden
 https://www.amazon.com/Raise-Your-Self-Esteem-Action-Oriented-Self-Confidence/dp/0553266462/

 “The Four Agreement” by Don Miguel Ruiz
 https://www.amazon.com/Four-Agreements-Practical-Personal-Freedom/dp/1878424319

Related Tips & Episodes

• Don’t Take Anything Personally
•  Self-Awareness & Self-Management
• Self-Limiting Beliefs
• Smoothing Harsh Edges
•  Three Words You Should Never Say

This Tip is in five categories in the archive:

• For Women,
• Managing Yourself,
•  Perception - How You Perceive Yourself,
• Personal Growth & Self-Development,
• Self-Talk

The archive is at:
 https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Get the HTML transcript:
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Be in touch with Tom at:
 https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

From all of us, thanks!

See you next month!

This month’s coaching conversation wrestles with the eternal struggle to depersonalize the events in our lives that feel so personal. Is it even possible to actualize the adage, “Don’t take it personally?”

Tom mentions two books that can help you manage yourself so you don’t take things personally:
  The Four Agreements

 Six Pillars of Self-Esteem

In the archive, this Tip is in five categories:
 Managing Yourself

 Perception – How You Perceive Yourself

 Perception – How You Perceive Others

Personal Growth & Self-Development

Self-Talk

Five related Coaching Tips you can listen to are

Acting on the Corporate Stage

Animating Your Persona

Don’t Take It Personally

Self-Limiting Beliefs

Taming the Wild Child

Lots to browse through!

The archive is at: https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

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https://essentialcomm.com/contact

From everyone at “The Look & Sound of Leadership,” thanks!

See you next month!

This month’s coaching conversation explores how hard it can be to say ‘no’ sometimes. Together, Tom and his client come up with four strategies for setting better boundaries.This month’s coaching conversation explores how hard it can be to say ‘no’ sometimes. Together, Tom and his client come up with four strategies for setting better boundaries.

Tom mentions three books that will help you speak up and set boundaries: 

Crucial Conversations
https://www.amazon.com/Crucial-Conversations-Talking-Stakes-Second/dp/0071771328/

The Four Agreements
https://www.amazon.com/Four-Agreements-Toltec-Wisdom-Collection/dp/1878424580/

Leadership and Self-Deception
https://www.amazon.com/Leadership-Self-Deception-Getting-Out-Box/dp/1523097809/

If you want to receive a zip file with Executive Coaching Tips related to assertiveness, reach out to Tom at: [email protected]

This Tip is in four categories in the archive:
Developing New Behaviors
Personal Growth & Self-Development
Self-Talk
For Women

Lots to browse through!

Five related Coaching Tips you can listen to are

Act “As If”
The Executive Impostor
The Many Parts of You
Taming the Wild Child
Self-Awareness & Self-Management

The archive is at: https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Get the HTML transcript:
https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/ 

Be in touch with Tom:
https://essentialcomm.com/contact
 
From everyone at “The Look & Sound of Leadership,” thanks!

See you next month!
 

This month’s coaching conversation follows an executive’s journey from a bulldozer, rolling over people and their ideas, to a thoughtful seeker of ways to get his ideas heard while also building positive relationships.

Related episodes are:
Assertion versus Aggression
Be Impeccable With Your Word
Disagree Agreeably – yes, that was an episode long ago!
Don’t Take It Personally
The Conflict Conversation
Sorting & Labeling

This Tip is in four categories in the archive:
Communication Skills
Executive Presence
For Women
Relationship Building

The archive is at:
https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Get the HTML transcript:
https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at:
https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

From all of us, thanks!

See you next month!

This month’s coaching conversation centers on learning how to watch yourself on video. It might be uncomfortable at times, but the benefits are enormous.

During the commentary, Tom talks about a checklist for you. It’s here.

direct link: https://essentialcomm.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/Video-Review-Checklist.pdf

Related episodes are
Captivate Your Audience

Executive Presenting

“I Talk Too Fast!”

Performing Like a TED Talker

The Power of Rehearsal

This Tip is in these categories in the archive:

Executive Presence
Feedback
Presentation Skills
Perception – How You Perceive Yourself

The archive is at:
https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Get the HTML transcript:
https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Tom is at:
[email protected]

From all of us here, thanks!

See you next month!