The Parenting Coach Podcast

“Because I said so”, “You’re making me mad!”, “Why can’t you be more like your sister?!”, “Stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about!” … sound familiar? Parenting in the 80s and 90s (and before) was shame-based to the core, and it’s still affecting us and our parenting now, in ways we can’t often see. 

5 Days to Shame-Free Parenting: Join us HERE

Join the program: Shame-Free Parenting Movement: HERE

In Today’s Episode: 

• What I’ve learned from trainings with Brené Brown and shame (vs guilt)
• What parenting looked like in the 1980s and 1990s and how shame was involved
• How to feel empowered in our parenting through becoming aware of our shame, and moving through it (shame resiliency)
• How you may be, unknowingly, shaming your kids (even when you’re trying not to)
• Shame blocking us from connection to ourselves and others
• How to move through shame (it’s SO much more in our feelings and under-the-surface thoughts than in our logical easy-to-access thoughts)

Connect with Crystal:

Get started with teaching your child emotions, free feelings wheel HERE
Find your parenting personality (and get tips specific to it) by taking the quiz HERE
Check out all my fun parenting courses and programs here: www.coachcrystal.ca
Get tips, insights, and support daily through IG right HERE

Our beliefs about our kids matter, and we can be one of the greatest influences of their lives. Intentional parenting can set us up to help support our kids through any challenge and instill them with beliefs that will help them achieve true success (not just the type of success that we’re socialized to believe matters most). 

In this episode: 

• Dropping my oldest off at college and all the mixed emotions (and how it brought up this topic over the weekend)
• What manifestation has to do with parenting (and the spiritual principles of it)
• What you value most and how to instill those values into your kids through manifestation
• How to find out if shame is blocking belief work (in any area of your life, but I share a parenting example that you’ll likely relate to).
• Join my $5 live coaching event HERE and I will do more than teach you these principles, I’ll SHOW you, and we’ll get there together (live on zoom, and recordings sent out to you…. Bring a friend!)

New shame-free parenting coaching program coming up for parents of elementary-aged kids… get on the waitlist HERE for more information.

Neurodivergent kids need to be supported both in the home and in the classroom to thrive and grow. ADHD and anxiety seem to be on the rise, but schools aren’t always creating the most effective environment for the growth to happen. In this episode I am joined by Dr Emily in a conversation around supporting learning in the classroom for neurodivergent kids, and how this support can help all kids too. 

In this episode: 

• We talk about how to support ADHD and anxiety in our kids and youth
• Why anxiety may be on the rise, and the power of play
• Our current curriculum not aligning with child development
• How play-based education is supportive for young kids (not pushing academics early will help them with future learning)
• How we can advocate for our kids mental health in the classroom, and when to know if changing schools is needed

Join the Shame-Free Parenting Movement HERE

Connect with Dr Emily below: 

Website: https://www.learnwithdremily.com/

Substack Blog: https://learnwithdremily.substack.com/

Podcast: Learn with Dr. Emily

Instagram: @emilywkingphd

What we believe we become. Have you ever taken an inventory on what beliefs you hold for your kids? And how they are becoming exactly what you believe? If you want to parent intentionally and breathe amazing beliefs into your kids… tune in to this tender episode where I share my own parenting struggles, and what my plan is to turn them around (it works). 

In today’s episode: 

• How I came across my children’s beliefs, and the shock that came as I recognized my own beliefs in them 
• How our beliefs of our children (what we think and say about them) manifest in them
• How to be the gardener who cultivates the garden, instead of controlling it 
• How to manifest belief in our children who then become calm, confident humans that we love to be around (even if it doesn’t seem true yet) 

Resources: 

• Join the women’s re-parenting retreat waitlist HERE
• Get on the waitlist for Parent School HERE
• Coach with Crystal HERE

“Children learn best when they like their teacher, and they think their teacher likes them”. What are you trying to teach your children? Do you know how learning happens? Naturally. It comes naturally, with a few specific ingredients, ones that may not seem so necessary, but truly are. 

A Recipe for Learning was first published in the July 2024 monthly bundle of the Wild + Free magazine. 

Today you’ll hear:

• my story of frustration and tantrums (from both me and my young son) when we first started our homeschooling journey
• how unlearning about learning was the path to deeper and more natural learning in our homeschool, for me too. 
• relationships matter most, how learning comes naturally from creating the environment for it to happen 
• the ingredients to a messy and imperfect relationship, but one that is full of joy, confidence, connection and growth 

Resources: 

• Ainsley Arment on IG HERE and Wild + Free on IG HERE
• Wild + Free book HERE
• Wild + Free bundle (magazine) HERE
• 3-day Women’s Re-Parenting Retreat HERE “The Inward Journey”
• 1:1 coaching, limited spots HERE
• The Creation Room (my magical group program full of intuition, energetic shifts and deep connection) HERE

Children should be seen and not heard. Big money makes you evil. Negative emotions should be avoided at all costs. I make others mad, sad or happy with me. I should shove down my ideas and intuition and listen to others that are older, wiser and more experienced than me. 

Don’t believe these anymore? Yup, me neither. But that doesn’t mean that my subconscious isn’t bringing these beliefs along and affecting me and my current reality. 

In this episode we cover: 

• what beliefs you may still have, that you don’t notice on a conscious level
• what questions to ask yourself to uncover your deeper beliefs 
• practices to help you move through and shift beliefs 
• how growth is stagnant when we stick with resistance, versus being open (switching from “this is not showing up for me” to “how is this showing up for me?”)

Resources: 

• 3-day Women’s Re-Parenting Retreat HERE “The Inward Journey”
• 1:1 coaching, limited spots HERE
• The Creation Room (my magical group program full of intuition, energetic shifts and deep connection) HERE

We don’t build muscles, without first breaking them down… and the breaking down feels very uncomfortable. This is the same theme for all growth in life, it’s uncomfortable to break down. It doesn’t feel good to dig inward and notice where our resistance is, but on the other side of resistance is the most magical growth and life that we could imagine. 

In this episode: 

• growth and resistance, and how they are intrinsically connected (breaking down our muscles) 
• where we are feeling resistance in our life, and what’s behind it (some of the BEST journal prompts here for your growth). 
• what’s on the other side of resistance (changing my parenting, changing my business and my life)
• where is resistance popping up in small ways? And how can I be more radically honest and vulnerable with myself?
• On being “un-coach-able” and sticking in our concrete box of resistance (the no-growth path)

Resources: 

• Join the women’s re-parenting retreat HERE
• Get on the waitlist for Parent School HERE

Emotions are messages, and we aren’t often open to listening to them- they feel too big, too much, or never ending. in the process of ignoring and suppressing these messages from our body, we may feel tension, pain, discomfort, illness or disease. In this episode we go over hypnotic visualizations, somatic practices and inner child work to help us allow, accept and welcome all big emotions. It is in the welcoming of them, that they lessen and open us up to experience life in a fuller way and help others with their emotions too. 

In this episode: 

• Welcome back and thanks for listening! I can’t wait for this season… it’s going to be rad! 
• You can work with me in at my inner child healing retreat HERE, 1:1 coaching HERE or join the Creation Room (only open throughout the month of August) HERE. 
• What beliefs we have about emotions that came from our own childhood, and how our subconscious can hold on to them 
• Emotions as messages from our brain to our body, and how to listen to them 
• Inner child exercises, somatic practises and hypnosis to move through big emotions (and why that, in turn, helps us co-regulate with others)
• If you’re wanting to become a more calm, confident parent, and parent your kids in the way that you wished you were parented- Join the waitlist for Parent School HERE!

Resources: 

• Workout Witch on IG click HERE
• Recording of the somatic workshop to move emotions HERE

Receiving comes from the root word take-back… are we taking in what is ours? All the love, connection, opportunities, wealth and abundance around us? Self-worth can block us from receiving all there is for us, and this episode and meditation will open us up for more. This is the last of season 8, look for more in 6 weeks, after a lovely summer break. 

In this episode: 

• how well do we receive compliments, connection and love from others? 
• is our self-worth blocking us from receiving, and how can we open up ourselves to more? 
• 3 practices to help ourselves to receive more (including a short and supportive meditation) 

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Join me for this same work at our next retreat. 3 days of rest, receiving and change, The Inward Journey: www.coachcrystal.ca/the-retreat

Language matters- are we creating inclusive spaces in our homes, schools and communities? Or are we pushing away those who need accommodations the most? We can listen to our children, and to our own inner wisdom, and figure out what our kids truly need and help them to feel more connected and included. 

Join Siris Raquel Rivas-Verdejo and I as we talk all about how to advocate for our families and help our children find their unique gifts. Siris is the owner of Empowering Light Language LLC and works with busy individuals and families virtually to improve their communication and self-care facilitated by a greater connection with their bodies and powered by a greater awareness of how their language impacts their lives. 

On today’s episode you’ll hear: 

• How children’s behaviour is communication and how we can figure out what our kids are really saying to us.
• How to create inclusivity at home and school through connection. 
• Creating a healthy environment where all children feel thought of, accepted and wanted. 
• Working with our children’s strengths and interests to help them see their unique magic and create connection within the entire family
• How to tune into our “yes” and “no” and help our kids do the same (ie. what is your body telling you?) 

To Connect with Siris Raquel Rivas-Verdejo:
Website: empoweringlightlanguage.com
Email: [email protected]
Podcast: https://bit.ly/CaDFwSpodcast
IG: @empoweringlightlanguage

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Join the re-parenting movement, at my next retreat, The Inward Journey: www.coachcrystal.ca/the-retreat

Parent School: Discover your own unique path, with confidence… raising emotionally intelligent children that leave your home knowing that you truly, deeply care for them… that you aways have, and you always will. Isn’t that we all want deep down? That is my goal for me, and for you… and for the future generation for children we are raising. To be seen. To be heard. To be valued. To feel loved. To feel supported. To feel known. To welcome them to be themselves- fully and completely. That is The Work. I am here for it. Welcome. 

Join me for the LAST LIVE round of Parent School:

• shame resiliency: how to feel shame and move through it, what triggers us and why, and how to move through heaviness and use it for growth. 
• emotional regulation: what co-regulation is and how to support our children from our energy- not our words (not scripts and mantras, this work is much deeper than that), how to support ourselves and our kids through big emotions.
• the power of our thoughts and beliefs: how to separate who we are from what we think, how to create the exact relationship we want through the power of our mind 
• connection-based parenting: why it’s the way of the future, how to parent in a relationship-first manner, developing deep and lasting connections that last a lifetime.
• 6 modules covering all these topics, and more. 2 group coaching calls to get support in your individual family situations. (add-on available for your partner to join). 

Find all the information HERE.
Contact me via email: [email protected]
Audio/text message me on Voxer HERE.