Why I’m Letting Go of Every Negative Thought This Month

In this bonus episode, I talk about what triggered today’s mindset shift, why fear keeps showing up when we’re leveling up, and how editing out negativity can completely reset your energy before 2026.

I talk about what fear is teaching me right now, why I’m doubling down on my goals for 2026, and how our words shape our energy more than we realize.

I share the Q4 challenge I’ve been doing, the real reason I tag Dear Media every day, and why I believe tracking negativity for the next 30 days could change everything.

What You'll Hear:

• how negativity drains your momentum and energy
• why acknowledging fear can move your life forward
• how to map out goals with actual action steps
• why tracking negativity for 30 days shifts your subconscious
• how to release old energy before the new year

I’m hosting a YouTube live on December 30th at 5pm MST — a collective reset to release the negativity before 2026.

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This episode is for anyone who’s ready to let go of old stories, clear out the negativity they’ve been carrying, and step into 2026 with stronger energy, clearer goals, and a grounded plan for personal change.

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This week’s solo episode lands on Thanksgiving, and honestly, I’m feeling exceptionally grateful.

The Scarlet Edit has now reached listeners in 52 countries, which blows my mind. Australia, Canada… you’re showing up big, and I appreciate it more than you know.

In this episode, I break down a recent Vogue opinion piece asking a pretty wild question: “Is having a boyfriend embarrassing now?”

As a 47-year-old single woman who has been married, divorced, partnered, and in a very bad situationship… I have thoughts. A lot of them.

Together we explore:

• Why calling relationships an “achievement” is bizarre — and honestly a little sad
• How our experiences, environment, wants, and needs shape our perceptions (and why that matters)
• The pressure women feel to be hyper-independent — and why wanting a boyfriend doesn’t cancel out your strength
• The difference between wanting a partner and needing one
• Why you’re already whole, even if you’re single
• How social media distorts relationship narratives (engagement → wedding → baby… you know the drill)
• Why joy shouldn’t be hidden just because dating feels impossible right now
• And what it actually means to welcome someone into a life you’ve built on your own terms

By the end, I circle back to one simple truth:

Wanting a relationship doesn’t make you less independent — and being single doesn’t make you less whole.

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→ Tap those five stars on Apple Podcasts

→ Come hang with me over on IG: @the.scarlet.edit

→ Share this episode with a friend who’s navigating modern love

Happy Thanksgiving. I’m so grateful for you!

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What does it look like when a woman finally sees the narcissistic abuse she's been living in — and decides she's done?

In this episode of The Scarlet Edit, I sit down with Melise, whose viral TikTok about watching a family by the pool stopped people in their tracks. But it's the story behind that moment that matters even more — eight years in a relationship with a covert narcissist, the slow erosion of her identity, and the moment she chose to reclaim her life.

This conversation goes deep into what narcissistic abuse actually looks like from the inside, how it disguises itself as love, and what it takes to leave when you've spent years believing the relationship was your fault.

We get into:

• The poolside moment that broke something open — and why it resonated with millions of women
• Eight years with a covert narcissist — how subtle manipulation, love bombing, and withholding became her normal
• The difference between "earning love" and believing you're actually worthy of it
• The cycle of self-betrayal in a toxic relationship — how you lose yourself so gradually you don't even notice
• The moment she knew she had to leave the relationship and why it wasn't clean or instant
• How speaking her truth publicly on TikTok became the catalyst for healing after narcissistic abuse
• Reclaiming her femininity and identity after years of emotional abuse
• Why purpose shows up the moment you stop serving from lack and finally choose yourself

If you're navigating narcissistic abuse, trapped in a toxic relationship, rebuilding your identity after leaving, or rediscovering who you are on the other side of emotional abuse — this episode will remind you that you are not defined by what someone else did to you. You are not alone in this.

If you or someone you know is experiencing emotional abuse, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or visit thehotline.org for confidential support.

Guest: Melise 🌐 tiktok.com/@.melsi.e

Sponsor: Open Voices 🌐 openvoices.co

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This one wasn't planned, and you can tell. I sat down to record a polished solo episode and instead gave you a full tour of my brand new studio, dog hair and all. I'm talking through what it's like starting over in a new space after a move, why decorating a place to actually feel like you is harder than it looks, and the small stuff that's made the biggest difference so far.

I get into the wallpaper mistake I'd tell any friend about before they start a home project, the neighbor who handed me free furniture out of nowhere, and the tech upgrades that finally have me looking into the camera instead of down at it. None of this was scripted. That's kind of the point.

If you've ever moved into a new place and felt the pressure to make it feel like home right away, or you're in the middle of building something that finally feels like yours, this is that conversation. I also get real about where I was a year ago versus now, and why I'm still chasing Dear Media whether they're paying attention yet or not.

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Why do people have affairs — even good people in relationships that look fine from the outside? And what happens to everyone involved when infidelity blows a life apart?

In this episode of The Scarlet Edit, I sit down with relationship and self-love coach Christina Ketchen for an honest, nuanced conversation about infidelity — what drives it, what it reveals about us, and how it changes everyone it touches.

We unpack how core wounds — our earliest needs to be seen, heard, loved, and safe — lead us to repeat familiar emotional patterns in relationships. Christina has coached hundreds of people through divorce and betrayal, and I reflect on my own experience as the other woman and what that affair taught me about self-worth, shame, and what I actually needed from love.

We explore:

• Why most affairs don't begin with bad intentions — and what's really driving the infidelity underneath
• The three roles in every affair — the one who cheated, the one who was cheated on, and the other woman — and how each carries their own grief
• How shame after infidelity and self-forgiveness are more connected than most people realize
• What limerence is, why affair relationships feel so intoxicating, and how to tell the difference between limerence and real love
• The difference between setting boundaries in relationships and actually enforcing them
• Why some of us are more comfortable in sadness and chaos than in healthy love — and what that says about our core wounds
• Reclaiming your self-worth after an affair no matter what role you played

This conversation is about compassion, not judgment. Whether you've had an affair, been cheated on, or been the other woman — your grief is real and your healing matters.

If this episode resonates:

Listen next:

• I Had to Walk Away: Ending a Long-Term Affair
• I Had an Affair: How it Feels to Tell the World You Were the Other Woman
• The Truth About Affairs: Sexless Marriages, Emotional Validation, and Modern Love

Guest: Christina Ketchen — Relationship and Self-Love Coach

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In this episode, I sit down with Julie Barth, who lost her husband to stage four pancreatic cancer when her four children were still young — the youngest was just six months old. While she was still deep in grief, she met a man who seemed like a fresh start. He wasn't. He was a narcissist who spent years isolating her from her family and friends, manipulating her, stalking her, emotionally abusing her, and threatening to kill her.

Julie shares how she went from being a widow surrounded by community to a woman who had been moved across the country, cut off from everyone she knew, and convinced that she was crazy. We talk about how he used her grief against her, why she stayed as long as she did, the financial abuse that kept her trapped, how he sabotaged every attempt she made to build a life for herself, and the moment she realized she had to get out. We also get into the savior complex — how he presented himself as the man who was saving this poor widow and her kids while behind closed doors he was destroying them.

Julie is now divorced and doing nonprofit work helping other women facing crisis, caregiving burnout, and economic abuse. If you've ever been in a relationship where someone used your pain against you, if you've been gaslit into thinking you were the problem, or if you're a widow or someone going through loss and you're worried about being vulnerable to the wrong person, this conversation is one you need to hear.

Julie’s Website & Art for Charity: juliebarthauthor.com

National Domestic Violence Hotline: thehotline.org or call 1-800-799-SAFE

Support Services for Financial Abuse: nnedv.org

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I sit down with Dr. Robin Buckley, executive coach, psychologist, and author of Marriage Incorporated, who has been divorced twice herself and now coaches couples and singles on how to approach relationships with the same intentionality we bring to our careers.

We talk about her Ideal Companion Avatar — a concept borrowed from business where you create a detailed profile of what you actually want in a partner, including your non-negotiables and deal breakers, before you start dating. For anyone dating after divorce who keeps ending up with the wrong person, this framework alone is worth the listen. We also get into her system of daily five-minute check-ins, weekly deeper conversations, and quarterly relationship retreats that keep couples connected before things fall apart. Dr. Robin explains why most marriages fail not because of one big event, but because couples stop being intentional about communication, intimacy, and actually checking in on how the relationship is doing.

We also cover when to have uncomfortable conversations about money, sex, and expectations when you're dating someone new, why people don't change after marriage, and the difference between therapy and coaching when your relationship needs help. If you're dating again after divorce, stuck in a marriage that feels like you're roommates, or trying to figure out how to do relationships differently the next time around, this episode gives you a real strategy.

Guest Info.

🌐 https://drrobinbuckley.com/

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I just moved to Arizona after 15 months of traveling the world solo, and I'm finally building a home studio for The Scarlet Edit. In this solo episode, I talk about what it feels like to settle down after living out of suitcases, why the last 15 months have been the best of my life, and what starting over in a new city looks like when you're doing it completely on your own terms.

I also reflect on past relationships — including a college boyfriend who reached out 20 years later to apologize for how he treated me. That message brought up a memory I hadn't thought about in years, a moment where I realized how little self-worth I had back then and how different things are now. I talk about what it means to look back at who you were in past relationships and finally like who you've become on the other side.

If you're starting over after a divorce, an affair, or a relationship that changed you, or if you're in that season of rebuilding your life and wondering what comes next, this one is a quick check-in that might feel like exactly what you needed to hear.

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I sit down with Lisa Johnson, co-founder of Been There Got Out, a domestic violence advocate and high-conflict divorce strategist who spent 20 years married to a narcissistic serial cheater and sex addict.

Lisa's story starts the way so many do — he was older, seemed stable, made her feel chosen. Within months there were phone numbers in his wallet. He confessed to an affair right after the wedding. He went to therapy and convinced her the therapist said the problem was that she needed to learn how to meet his needs. For 20 years, the cheating never stopped. He was soliciting women from the honeymoon through the end of the marriage, writing scripts for their intimate encounters, controlling what she wore, and threatening to cheat if she didn't comply — all while playing the role of devoted husband and father to the outside world.

We talk about how coercive control works when there's no physical violence, how a narcissist uses intelligence and charm as weapons, why she stayed as long as she did, and what it took to finally leave. Lisa also shares how she represented herself in her high-conflict divorce, ultimately helped change Connecticut law around domestic violence, and now helps other survivors navigate the legal system and rebuild their lives. If you're in a marriage that looks fine on the outside but feels wrong on the inside, or if you've ever wondered whether what you're experiencing is abuse, this episode will hit close to home.

If you or someone you know is experiencing emotional abuse, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or visit thehotline.org for confidential support.

Guest Info.

🌐 https://beentheregotout.com/

https://www.youtube.com/ ⁨@BeenThereGotOut⁩

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100 episodes. Countless stories. One powerful evolution.

In this special milestone episode, I look back at the journey that started with Round Two and led to The Scarlet Edit — from launching my very first show, to finding my voice, to building a platform where no story is off-limits. I share the lessons I’ve learned about storytelling, self-trust, and showing up authentically, even when it’s uncomfortable.

If you’ve ever dreamed of starting a podcast, pivoting your story, or simply hearing the truth about what it takes to create something that matters, this one’s for you.

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