What do men want in relationships today? It’s more than just chemistry or physical attraction. Eli breaks down the key qualities men look for in long-term partnerships, focusing on emotional maturity, accountability, and how well you manage your emotions. In this episode, Eli discusses why emotional regulation is one of the most underrated yet crucial aspects of a successful relationship and how men are drawn to women who can be both vulnerable and self-aware. He also touches on the importance of understanding one’s own worth and behavior, especially when dealing with conflict and making decisions as a couple. Get ready to hear about what men need from women in a partnership and why it’s essential to align with these desires if you want to build a strong, lasting connection. This episode will leave you with a deeper understanding of the dynamics between men and women and how to foster healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

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Your circle isn’t just there to nod and say “girl, same.” Eli shows you how to transform friends into an accountability squad: ask permission before you vent, set the lane (listen vs. advice), and leave with one next step plus a date to report back. This is how support stops being emotional clutter—and starts becoming your healing engine. We unpack this and so much in stepping into your own power by stepping into your own vulnerability.

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Ever been blindsided by a breakup, replaying every what-if, asking “Was it me?” Eli gets it. This week, he dives into the messy, uncomfortable, and sometimes hilarious reality of closure. Why it’s not always about answers, why secure people get triggered too, and why the “closure you want” isn’t always the closure you get. Through this episode, you’ll learn to parent your inner child, recognize avoidance, and understand that his limitations do not define your self-worth. If you’re ready to stop holding onto someone else’s dysfunction and start owning your healing journey, this episode is your roadmap.

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That instant spark, the butterflies, the “oh my God he’s hot” moment—it’s thrilling, it’s intoxicating… and it can make you blind. In this episode, Eli dismantles the myth that chemistry equals compatibility. He shares raw insights from years of coaching, personal experience as a former avoidant, and real stories from clients who got caught chasing sparks instead of substance. Learn how to pump the brakes, ask the right questions, and track emotional competency before you fall too fast. This episode isn’t about killing romance—it’s about making sure your heart doesn’t pay the price for fleeting attraction, and why slow-burn connections with intentional boundaries are the real game-changer.

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Self-care isn’t spa days and margaritas. It’s facing yourself with intention so you can raise the standard for your whole life. In this episode, Eli breaks down why real self-care is actually selfless, how “survival mode” keeps you burned out, and a simple intention-first system you can use today. He shares the BuzzFeed solo-date story, the backyard picnic that changed everything, and practical prompts to turn any activity into healing work. Plus: details on Eli’s Oct 19 Chicago in-person wellness day benefitting a local nonprofit serving immigrants and refugee human rights. Link in show notes or DM Eli to learn more!

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You asked, and Eli answered. In this special community-driven episode, host Eli Vazquez dives headfirst into your most burning questions about dating and heartbreak. Wondering what he’s really thinking in that rebound relationship? Confused about the difference between boundaries and rules? This is the episode for you. With his signature mix of tough love, relatable humor, and actionable advice, Eli tackles everything from avoidant attachment to starting your therapy journey. Get ready for a raw, unedited Q&A session that feels less like a podcast and more like a strategy session with your wisest, most unfiltered friend.

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You don’t need six months to see the truth—you need a process. In this episode, Eli gives you a three-date blueprint to identify avoidant patterns early: intentional check-ins, direct values alignment (marriage, kids, faith, location), and real talk about conflict and repair. You’ll learn how to calm an anxious attachment by building self-trust, practice reparenting with curiosity and compassion, and recruit a tiny “accountability squad” to keep you from texting your ex. It’s bold, loving, and wildly practical—designed to help you choose the partner who can meet (or exceed) your standard.

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In a refreshing and honest conversation on the Selfhype Podcast, Eli Vasquez welcomes the infectiously positive Suzi Jalowsky to share the story behind her viral fitness fame. What began with workout DVDs in her garage after putting the kids to bed has blossomed into a million-follower community inspired by her simple and effective approach to health. Together, Eli and Suzi explore the power of starting small, the mental game of showing up for yourself, and how to build a life where fitness feels like a reward, not a punishment. Tune in for a dose of real-world motivation that cuts through the noise and proves you don’t need fancy gyms or complicated diets to transform your life.

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Why does dating feel like a never-ending cycle of disappointment? Eli dives into the sneaky ways social media rewires our brains to expect heartbreak, distrust, and division in love. From heartbreak content loops that keep wounds open, to confusing growth with potential in relationships, he exposes the traps that leave so many burnt out in the digital streets. But it’s not all bad news—Eli shares how to break free from the heartbreak algorithm, lean into real self-awareness, and start creating connections that actually feel good.

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