If you’ve ever stayed in a relationship that looked great on paper but felt terrible in your body, this one’s for you. Eli shares a recent experience witnessing an ICE raid in Chicago — and connects it to why so many of us normalize anxiety in our love lives.

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When Jenny lost her husband in a tragic plane crash, she didn’t just face grief—she faced herself. In this powerful episode, Eli and Jenny explore the full spectrum of healing: from shock and survival to rediscovering purpose, love, and joy. Jenny shares how she learned to care for herself while caring for her husband, the moment she decided to live again, and how listening to her intuition guided her toward a second soulmate. This isn’t a story about loss—it’s a story about what it means to truly live. Expect tangible takeaways: the head–heart–body check for tough decisions, how to let community in, and gentle ways to shift from guilt to self-compassion.

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Love Is Blind! I’m ranting, reflecting, and dropping some truth bombs about what went wrong this season of the popular Netflix series. I'm unpacking the messy dynamics and explaining how you can avoid making the same mistakes. The season proved that love isn’t blind, but your standards don’t have to be—if you’re willing to do the work. We’re diving deep into why “love will grow” outside of attraction is just a fairy tale in most cases, why one-sided caretaking kills chemistry, and how to date with more intention and clarity. Listen for the laughs, stay for the lessons, and leave with the tools you need to build better relationships.

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Eli sits down with Hily Dating App's sexologist and sexuality educator Dr. Mindy DeSeta to flip the script on consent. This episode turns “awkward talks” into real-time foreplay—how to ask with finesse, lead with vulnerability, and keep things safe without killing the vibe. They break down why so many daters freeze from performance anxiety, how to start a spicy convo the right way, and why safety actually makes intimacy hotter. Plus, a look at Hily’s new Consent Guard Feature that protects you from any unsolicited spicy pics or sexts. If you’re dating online, this is your playbook for confidence, clarity, and connection.

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What do men want in relationships today? It’s more than just chemistry or physical attraction. Eli breaks down the key qualities men look for in long-term partnerships, focusing on emotional maturity, accountability, and how well you manage your emotions. In this episode, Eli discusses why emotional regulation is one of the most underrated yet crucial aspects of a successful relationship and how men are drawn to women who can be both vulnerable and self-aware. He also touches on the importance of understanding one’s own worth and behavior, especially when dealing with conflict and making decisions as a couple. Get ready to hear about what men need from women in a partnership and why it’s essential to align with these desires if you want to build a strong, lasting connection. This episode will leave you with a deeper understanding of the dynamics between men and women and how to foster healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

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Your circle isn’t just there to nod and say “girl, same.” Eli shows you how to transform friends into an accountability squad: ask permission before you vent, set the lane (listen vs. advice), and leave with one next step plus a date to report back. This is how support stops being emotional clutter—and starts becoming your healing engine. We unpack this and so much in stepping into your own power by stepping into your own vulnerability.

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Ever been blindsided by a breakup, replaying every what-if, asking “Was it me?” Eli gets it. This week, he dives into the messy, uncomfortable, and sometimes hilarious reality of closure. Why it’s not always about answers, why secure people get triggered too, and why the “closure you want” isn’t always the closure you get. Through this episode, you’ll learn to parent your inner child, recognize avoidance, and understand that his limitations do not define your self-worth. If you’re ready to stop holding onto someone else’s dysfunction and start owning your healing journey, this episode is your roadmap.

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That instant spark, the butterflies, the “oh my God he’s hot” moment—it’s thrilling, it’s intoxicating… and it can make you blind. In this episode, Eli dismantles the myth that chemistry equals compatibility. He shares raw insights from years of coaching, personal experience as a former avoidant, and real stories from clients who got caught chasing sparks instead of substance. Learn how to pump the brakes, ask the right questions, and track emotional competency before you fall too fast. This episode isn’t about killing romance—it’s about making sure your heart doesn’t pay the price for fleeting attraction, and why slow-burn connections with intentional boundaries are the real game-changer.

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Self-care isn’t spa days and margaritas. It’s facing yourself with intention so you can raise the standard for your whole life. In this episode, Eli breaks down why real self-care is actually selfless, how “survival mode” keeps you burned out, and a simple intention-first system you can use today. He shares the BuzzFeed solo-date story, the backyard picnic that changed everything, and practical prompts to turn any activity into healing work. Plus: details on Eli’s Oct 19 Chicago in-person wellness day benefitting a local nonprofit serving immigrants and refugee human rights. Link in show notes or DM Eli to learn more!

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You asked, and Eli answered. In this special community-driven episode, host Eli Vazquez dives headfirst into your most burning questions about dating and heartbreak. Wondering what he’s really thinking in that rebound relationship? Confused about the difference between boundaries and rules? This is the episode for you. With his signature mix of tough love, relatable humor, and actionable advice, Eli tackles everything from avoidant attachment to starting your therapy journey. Get ready for a raw, unedited Q&A session that feels less like a podcast and more like a strategy session with your wisest, most unfiltered friend.

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