The Single Mom Podcast - Single Parent Advice, Support & a Little Bit of Humor

I was talking with a good friend the other night about the power of being single. This friend had spent the majority of her adult life going from one relationship to the other without ever really spending any time being single. She honestly didn't know HOW to be alone. She always had felt like she 'needed' a man in her life. No matter how many times I had begged her to PLEASE stay single for awhile at the end of every one of her relationships she always jumped right back into another one. Until recently. After her last relationship ended very badly she decided to stay single for a while.

She told me that she was so much happier now and felt so much better about herself than she ever had. She no longer felt that she needed to have someone in her life in order to be happy. She was feeling stronger and more self confident because she wasn't basing how she felt about herself on how a guy was treating her. She was no longer ignoring red flags from guys that she was talking to and she is being more selective about who she is letting into her life.

Now I am not preaching that everyone should always be single. I think everyone should find their person who makes them happy. But your happiness shouldn't be based on that person. They should ADD to your happiness, not be the only source of your happiness. You should be able to be OK being single. But so many of us aren't - why is that?

In this podcast episode I talk about the myth and story that we were all sold and how it often contributes to our unhappiness and why I feel there is so much power in being single.

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Quite often we set goals for ourselves that we don't meet because we see them as too big. Or we slip up or fall off the wagon and decide that we failed so why even keep trying. I have many different goals that I have set for myself but have struggled at times to feel like I am making any progress toward them. Because I felt I wasn't getting far enough fast enough.

Recently I started reading Atomic Habits by James Clear and have realized the power of continuous improvement and how little changes can help me meet my bigger goals. Realizing that small improvements can lead to big changes and lasting results.

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Perfectionism and happiness do not go hand in hand. As women we often compare ourselves to others, thinking that another woman has it more together than we do. That mom on Instagram looks so perfect. Her kids and family look so perfect. We beat ourselves up for not reaching some level of perfect that really doesn't exist. People who strive for perfection are rarely happy and this episode discusses why.

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I decided that this year, after such an abysmal 2020, that I needed to focus on more than just weight loss. Yes, I still need to lose some weight BUT that wasn't going to be enough to REALLY make me feel good. I realized that there were many layers of things that I needed to focus on instead of just weight loss. My mental health, my physical health, my spiritual wellness (no I did not find religion)... but there are so many different pieces to the puzzle of me and I wasn't working on all of them. So I decided that 2021 was the year I was going to start doing that.

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It isn't easy raising children but raising a teenage girl has been especially hard for me. I knew that I would struggle, growing up as a tom boy I never really got the whole "girlie girl" thing...but raising a teenage girl with the added pressure of social media! That has been an even bigger challenge than I had anticipated. These poor girls are presented with more social pressure than I ever was growing up and it is effecting their mental health, self esteem, and so much more.

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Recently Hasbro announced that they were removing the Mr. from Mr. Potato Head's name and for some reason this upset a bunch of people. This weeks episode is all about why I find this extremely silly but also indicative of a bigger problem - inability to accept progress and change. Also, why I consider Potato Head the first transgender toy I ever had when I really thought about it. Listen to this episode to find out why...

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Recently there was a young woman in the news who was arrested and charged with child endangerment. She was a single mom who left her two kids alone in their motel room so she could go to work. As a single mom I know the struggle of trying to find and afford child care. Sometimes we end up having to make decisions that many other people simply can't understand or judge us for. And even though I know that it isn't a good thing that she left her kids alone - I can understand why she may have done it.

This weeks episode is all about having to make not so great decisions because we feel like we have no other choice. The struggles that many of us single moms go through trying to do what is right for our families and having to make choices that we don't want to make.

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In this weeks episode we talk about Valentines Day, stereotypes that single moms often face and why it is so important for you to be the hero of your own story. Too often we are judged by others - made to feel like we are just waiting for someone to come save us. Maybe we sometimes buy into that stereotype. Sometimes we feel like if we don't have someone in our lives we are missing a piece of ourselves. Sometimes we may feel like we have to find someone and we can't be happy if we don't. This couldn't be further from the truth! This episode is all about being whole all on your own - being your own hero.

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"When people show you their true colors, don't try to repaint them"...

This weeks podcast episode is all about why it is so important to pay attention to red flags instead of ignoring them. So many of us are "fixers", we see someone with problems and we want to help make it better. Instead of seeing the red flags that should make us take a step back we dive in and usually end up losing ourselves along the way. In this episode we cover some of the bigger red flags to watch out for and why it is so important to pay attention to them. Not just in our romantic relationships but in our friendships and even sometimes in our own families.

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As single moms we can struggle with our own mental health. Depression and anxiety can creep up on you and can REALLY effect your life. But it is also VERY important to realize that it can also effect our kids. We need to not only be aware of our mental health but the mental health of our kids. Right now our kids are going through an unprecedented time due to COVID restrictions. Having to quarantine, not being able to see friends like they used to, not going to school the way they are used to... it is all a huge shift and change. Many children are struggling to cope with it and it is important as moms to recognize this and be there for our kids. It is also important to know that it is ok to reach out for professional help if you need to. This episode talks about all of this and more.

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