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In this St. Patrick’s Day–inspired episode of the Sober Butterfly Podcast, host Nadine reframes the idea of “luck” and explores how sobriety helps you create your own opportunities rather than waiting for them to appear. Instead of relying on randomness—or alcohol-fueled confidence—Nadine shares how clarity, alignment, and presence open the door to the connections, ideas, and moments that can change your life.

Inspired by Les Alfred’s “She’s So Lucky” rebrand and the quote “luck is the residue of design,” Nadine reflects on how removing alcohol allowed her to recognize opportunities she once missed in the fog of drinking. She explains how sobriety helps you move from reactive patterns to intentional living—making you more available for growth, meaningful relationships, and aligned success.

Nadine breaks down practical ways to create your own “luck,” including building trustworthy character (and offering yourself grace), expanding your circle with supportive and growth-minded people, serving others without overextending yourself, and developing daily habits that align with your goals.

She closes the episode with empowering “lucky girl sobriety” affirmations and a reminder that celebrations—St. Patrick’s Day included—can be joyful, meaningful, and memorable without alcohol.

In This Episode, We Cover:

• Why sobriety increases your ability to recognize opportunities
• The difference between random luck and intentional living
• How alcohol clouds judgment and leads to missed connections
• The meaning behind “luck is the residue of design”
• Building trustworthiness and giving yourself grace in recovery
• Expanding your social circle with higher-quality, supportive connections
• Being of service without overgiving or burning out
• Daily habits and routines that help you create opportunities
• “Lucky girl sobriety” mindset and affirmations
• Celebrating holidays like St. Patrick’s Day alcohol-free

Key Takeaways

• Clarity creates opportunity—sobriety helps you see what’s already around you.
• Being reliable, kind, and aligned attracts the right people and experiences.
• Your environment and social circle play a huge role in the opportunities that appear in your life.
• Consistent daily habits compound into long-term “luck.”
• Celebrations can be just as meaningful—if not more so—without alcohol.

Affirmations for Lucky Girl Sobriety

• I am clear, present, and open to opportunities.
• My sobriety attracts aligned connections and experiences.
• I create my own luck through intention and integrity.
• The right opportunities find me because I am ready for them.

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The Books That Helped Me Get and Stay Sober | The Sober Butterfly Podcast

In this solo episode of The Sober Butterfly Podcast, Nadine shares the books that helped her question her relationship with alcohol, get through early sobriety, and begin the deeper healing work that came after quitting drinking.

From classic quit lit like Quit Like a Woman, Blackout, We Are the Luckiest, and This Naked Mind to recovery staples like The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous and A Woman’s Way Through the Twelve Steps, Nadine reflects on how books became a lifeline in the earliest and most fragile stages of her alcohol-free journey.

She also shares nontraditional sobriety reads that helped her rebuild her mindset and heal, including Atomic Habits, The Mountain Is You, The Body Keeps the Score, The Inner Work, and Dry Humping by past Sober Butterfly guest Tawny Lara.

Whether you’re sober curious, newly sober, years alcohol-free, or simply exploring your relationship with drinking, this episode offers a thoughtful reading list and honest reflections on how books can support recovery, healing, and growth.

Books mentioned in this episode:

• Quit Like a Woman by Holly Whitaker
• Blackout by Sarah Hepola
• We Are the Luckiest by Laura McKowen
• This Naked Mind by Annie Grace
• Alcoholics Anonymous (The Big Book)
• A Woman’s Way Through the Twelve Steps by Stephanie S. Covington
• Atomic Habits by James Clear
• Sober on a Drunk Planet by Sean Alexander
• The Mountain Is You by Brianna Wiest
• The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk
• The Inner Work by Ashley Cottrell and Mathew Micheletti
• Dry Humping by Tawny Lara

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What does a night really cost?

In this solo episode of The Sober Butterfly Podcast, Nadine shares reflections from a recent trip to Dubai that sparked a powerful realization about sobriety. After being mistaken for a sex worker in an elevator the night before Ramadan — when a man asked her “how much for a night” — she began thinking deeply about the hidden cost of her nights when she used to drink compared to the nights she experiences now in sobriety.

Nadine contrasts her calm, grounded response in sobriety with a similar experience from 2020 in Medellín at The Click Clack Hotel, when she was drinking, spiraled emotionally, and was initially denied entry because staff assumed she was a sex worker. Through these parallel moments, she explores identity, self-trust, and how sobriety changes internal reactions to external events.

This episode breaks down:

• The financial and emotional cost of drinking
• Hangovers, anxiety, shame, and lost time
• The hidden price of numbing emotions
• What sobriety actually costs (vulnerability, discomfort, growth)
• What sobriety gives back (peace, confidence, clarity, mornings)
• Writing a breakup letter to alcohol
• How to reflect on your own relationship with drinking

Nadine also reads an excerpt from a breakup letter to alcohol and invites listeners to consider: How much do your nights cost?

If you are sober curious, alcohol-free, or questioning your relationship with drinking, this episode will resonate deeply.

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In this powerful episode of the Sober Butterfly Podcast, host Nadine Mulvina sits down with Kristen, creator of The Alcohol Free Alchemist and founder of Queen City Sober, to share her deeply relatable sobriety journey.

Kristen opens up about how her drinking evolved from social partying to daily coping — influenced by anxiety, grief, motherhood, and the normalization of “mommy wine culture.” After experiencing profound life stressors, including the sudden loss of her grandmother and her husband’s lymphoma diagnosis, alcohol became her way to numb and manage overwhelm.

But her sobriety didn’t begin with a dramatic rock bottom. It started with an awakening — a Father’s Day morning realization that changed everything.

Now nearly 600 days alcohol-free, Kristen shares how sobriety transformed her relationship with herself, her marriage, her children, and her identity. She also discusses navigating social situations without alcohol, sober intimacy, non-alcoholic alternatives, and building real-life sober community through Queen City Sober in Buffalo, New York.

If you’re sober curious, questioning your relationship with alcohol, navigating motherhood, or looking for inspiration to start again, this conversation will resonate deeply.

You don’t need to hit rock bottom to choose something better.

🎧 In This Episode We Discuss

• Mommy wine culture and the normalization of daily drinking
• Using alcohol to cope with anxiety, grief, and stress
• The “awakening” moment that led to sobriety
• Early sobriety exhaustion and emotional healing
• Marriage and intimacy without alcohol
• Socializing sober and building confidence
• Non-alcoholic drinks and alternatives
• Sober parenting and being more present with kids
• Creating sober community through Queen City Sober
• Kristen’s platform: The Alcohol Free Alchemist

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What if you don’t actually need a drink to feel confident, sexy, or safe in love?

With Valentine’s Day approaching, this episode of The Sober Butterfly Podcast dives deep into the connection between alcohol, attachment styles, intimacy, and subconscious emotional patterns.

Host Nadine welcomes back world-renowned hypnotherapist Georgia Foster for a powerful Part 2 conversation about how drinking habits are often rooted in anxiety, the inner critic, and nervous system dysregulation — especially in dating and relationships.

If you’ve ever wondered:

• Why do I drink more when I’m dating?
• Why do I feel anxious without alcohol on a first date?
• Why do I attract the same type of partner?
• Can I drink less without quitting entirely?
• How do I build confidence without liquid courage?

This episode is for you.

Georgia shares how hypnotherapy works to reprogram the subconscious mind, calm anxiety triggers, and shift emotional habits around alcohol. Together, Nadine and Georgia explore:

• The psychology of drinking in relationships
• Anxious attachment and alcohol use
• The role of the inner critic in dating
• Sober intimacy and overcoming performance anxiety
• How to feel confident without alcohol
• Rewiring subconscious drinking patterns
• Choosing partners based on intuition instead of familiarity
• Nervous system regulation and manifestation
• Healing shame around past drinking behaviors

Georgia also leads listeners through a powerful guided visualization designed to calm the nervous system, strengthen intuition, and help you attract relationships that are aligned with your self-worth.

Whether you’re sober, sober-curious, moderating, dating, partnered, or opting out of Valentine’s Day entirely — this episode will help you examine your relationship with alcohol and how it impacts your romantic life.

About Georgia Foster

Georgia Foster is a clinical hypnotherapist with over 30 years of experience helping high-functioning adults transform their relationship with alcohol. She specializes in moderation, subconscious behavior change, and emotional habit rewiring. Her programs focus on reducing shame, quieting the inner critic, and creating intelligent, balanced change.

Learn more at:
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In this powerful Black History Month episode of The Sober Butterfly Podcast, Nadine explores a truth that isn’t talked about enough in recovery spaces:

Nadine weaves together moving throwback clips from past guests of the show to highlight what Black sobriety actually looks like in real life: community, identity, trauma healing, motherhood, grief, faith, entrepreneurship, and generational change.

You’ll hear voices from:

• Ashley Johnson — founder of Wine Not, on navigating social spaces and professional settings sober as a Black woman
• Yasmin — on nervous system healing, therapy, and boundaries
• Symone French— on identity, shame, and unmasking without alcohol
• Jasmine (Soulfully Sober) — on motherhood and stopping before rock bottom
• Jasmine Flowers — on trauma, abuse recovery, and rebuilding life through sobriety
• Faith Hill — on grief, honesty, and self-trust
• Tiana Heath — on refusing to numb grief with alcohol
• Tommie Runz — on purpose and generational healing

Together, these stories show that sobriety is not one narrative. It is many. And when Black people get sober, it doesn’t just change one life — it can change entire family trajectories.

This episode addresses:

• Cultural silence around addiction in Black families
• The connection between trauma, the nervous system, and alcohol use
• Why boundaries and therapy are often discovered after sobriety
• The lack of representation of Black women in the sober-curious and non-alcoholic space
• Why sobriety can be an act of resistance, awareness, and liberation

If you’ve ever felt alone in your alcohol-free journey, this episode is an invitation to see yourself in sobriety.

🎧 Full episodes from every guest featured are linked in the show notes.

Key Takeaway

Find someone who looks like you in sobriety. It changes everything.

Closing viral reflection from actor and podcaster Horace Gold, this episode examines why choosing sobriety as a Black person in America can feel not only personal — but revolutionary.

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What can Chrissy Teigen’s return to sobriety teach us about the moderation myth?

In this reflective episode of The Sober Butterfly Podcast, host Nadine Mulvina opens with a trending celebrity sobriety story and uses it to explore a truth many people discover privately: trying to “mindfully drink” after quitting often leads right back to why we stopped in the first place.

Nadine shares her perspective on relapse, moderation, and why sobriety ultimately feels better for mental clarity, emotional stability, and real joy.

Then, she takes listeners back to Season One (2022) for a special replay of an early Sober Butterfly episode with Keisha Scott from Done With Debauchery — one of the first sober creators Nadine connected with in real life and the woman who helped her host her very first sober girl meetup.

Together, Nadine and Keisha discuss well-known celebrities who have publicly shared their sobriety journeys, including:

• Samuel L. Jackson
• Jada Pinkett Smith
• Nicki Minaj
• Chrissy Teigen
• Naomi Campbell
• Bella Hadid

This episode is about more than celebrities — it’s about how seeing sober people can inspire you, but meeting sober people can change your life.

Whether you’re sober-curious, newly sober, or years into your alcohol-free journey, this conversation reminds you that sobriety is not about perfection — it’s about presence, honesty, and community.

🎧 In This Episode, You’ll Hear

• Why Chrissy Teigen’s relapse story is so relatable
• The truth about “mindful drinking” and moderation attempts
• How celebrity sobriety can inspire early recovery
• Nadine’s origin story of meeting her first sober internet friend
• The early days of The Sober Butterfly podcast
• Why sober community matters more than sober inspiration
• A replay of the 2022 “Sober Celebrities” episode with Keisha Scott

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If this episode resonated with you, send it to a friend who is questioning their relationship with alcohol. Your conversation might be the one that helps them start theirs.

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What do you replace drinking with?

For Tommie Runz, the answer was miles, discipline, honesty, and community.

In this powerful episode of The Sober Butterfly Podcast, host Nadine Mulvina sits down with Tommie Runz — a sober endurance athlete, father, podcast host, and community builder — to talk about what nine years of sobriety has taught him about living with intention and pushing toward your next level.

Tommie shares the pivotal moments that led him to Alcoholics Anonymous, why truth-telling was the real beginning of his recovery, and how long-distance running became a tool for healing, clarity, and purpose. Together, Nadine and Tommie explore the deep parallels between endurance running and long-term sobriety, the role of community in recovery, and how sharing your story can help others feel less alone.

This episode is especially meaningful for anyone in early sobriety wondering “what now?” — and for those years into recovery who are still discovering who they’re becoming.

You’ll hear about:

• Tommie’s turning point and early days in AA
• Why honesty is foundational in sobriety
• The mental and emotional parallels between running and recovery
• How fatherhood shaped the way he shows up in sobriety
• The importance of community, service, and visibility as a Black sober athlete
• Using storytelling and social media to support others on their journey
• How to find your “thing” after quitting alcohol

Whether you’re sober, sober-curious, or years into your recovery journey, this conversation will inspire you to build a life you don’t want to escape from.

🎥 This episode is also available to watch on YouTube.

https://youtu.be/NRQRIMyHLC0

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In this episode of The Sober Butterfly Podcast, host Nadine Mulvina sits down with writer and traveler Melissa Rodway, author of The People You Meet: Luxury, Leeches, Love, and Lao Lao with a Host of Interesting Characters in Southeast Asia, for a thoughtful, story-driven conversation about how travel shapes identity, purpose, and connection.

This episode goes far beyond bucket lists and destinations. Nadine and Melissa explore the deeper, often unspoken layers of travel—how movement through the world changes us emotionally and spiritually, the people who leave lasting imprints on our lives, and the difference between simply taking a vacation and truly traveling with intention.

Melissa opens up about the realities of travel burnout, travel ego, and knowing when it’s time to come home. She shares how her relationship with travel has evolved with age, why purpose matters more than pace, and how adventure doesn’t disappear as we grow—it simply changes form. The conversation also touches on routine versus freedom, rest versus movement, and how travel can act as both a mirror and a teacher.

Listeners will also hear about unforgettable people Melissa has met on the road, powerful moments from her global travels, and a memorable trip to Jordan that left a lasting impact. Throughout the episode, travel is framed not as an escape, but as a tool for self-discovery, discernment, and deeper connection.

This episode is perfect for anyone who has ever felt changed by a trip, struggled with the tension between adventure and stability, or wondered what they’re really searching for when they book the ticket.

✨ In This Episode, We Discuss:

• How travel reshapes identity over time
• The people we meet on the road who stay with us long after the trip ends
• Travel ego, comparison, and letting go of “travel hierarchy”
• Recognizing travel burnout and knowing when it’s time to come home
• The difference between vacations and meaningful travel
• How purpose and priorities shift as we age
• Why adventure still matters—even when life changes
• The inspiration behind The People You Meet

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 👉 The People You Meet: Luxury, Leeches, Love, and Lao Lao with a Host of Interesting Characters in Southeast Asia
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🎧 About The Sober Butterfly Podcast

The Sober Butterfly Podcast explores identity, connection, and what it looks like to rebuild a meaningful life after big change. Through honest solo episodes and thoughtful conversations, Nadine Mulvina invites listeners into nuanced discussions about growth, relationships, purpose, and becoming aligned—without needing to burn everything down.

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In this honest and educational solo episode of The Sober Butterfly Podcast, host Nadine Mulvina explores why Dry January isn’t the same as sobriety—and why that distinction matters for anyone questioning their relationship with alcohol.

Drawing from personal experience and years of conversations within the sober and sober-curious community, Nadine breaks down the two biggest pitfalls of Dry January: the “fuck it” mindset when the challenge feels too hard, and the false reassurance that completing 30 days automatically means alcohol isn’t an issue. She explains how both can keep people stuck in the same drinking patterns long-term.

This episode reframes Dry January as a starting point—not a finish line—and offers practical, compassionate guidance for those attempting Dry January, as well as tools and reminders for people who are already sober and navigating January with clarity and intention.

Whether you’re sober, sober-curious, taking a break, or supporting someone who is, this episode invites you to prioritize honesty, self-trust, and sustainable change over perfection or willpower.

🦋 In This Episode, Nadine Discusses:

• Why Dry January is not the same as long-term sobriety
• The difference between a 30-day alcohol break and an identity shift
• How the “fuck it” mindset can sabotage Dry January attempts
• Why completing Dry January doesn’t automatically mean alcohol isn’t a problem
• White-knuckling Dry January vs. white-knuckling sobriety
• How sobriety removes distortion and builds clarity
• Practical tips for doing Dry January in a supportive, self-aware way
• Why willpower alone isn’t a plan
• How to create replacements instead of just restrictions
• The importance of having a post-January plan
• Guidance for sober listeners navigating January
• Why sobriety isn’t a trend—it’s a lifestyle

🧠 Key Takeaways:

• You don’t attract change by forcing it—you create it through honesty
• Dry January can reveal patterns, but reflection is what creates growth
• Sobriety is about alignment, not deprivation
• White-knuckling is a signal—not a failure
• Support, systems, and self-trust matter more than perfection

💛 Support & Resources

If this episode brings up questions or concerns about your relationship with alcohol, you are not alone, and support is available.

🇺🇸 United States

• SAMHSA National Helpline
  📞 1-800-662-HELP (4357)
  🌐 https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline
  
  Free, confidential support available 24/7 for individuals and families

🌍 International

• Alcoholics Anonymous (AA)
  🌐 https://www.aa.org
  
  Meetings available worldwide (in-person & online)
• SMART Recovery (science-based, non-12-step)
  🌐 https://www.smartrecovery.org
  
  Tools and meetings for people seeking a balanced approach
• Women for Sobriety
  🌐 https://womenforsobriety.org
  
  Supportive community specifically for women
• Sober Curious / Moderation Support
  🌐 https://www.alcoholchange.org.uk
  
  Evidence-based resources around alcohol awareness and change

✨ Reflection Questions for Listeners:

• What role does alcohol play in my life right now?
• What emotions or situations trigger my desire to drink?
• If alcohol wasn’t an option, how would I care for myself

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