The Susan Winter Show

Singles can often feel an overwhelming sense of guilt; guilt for not being partnered and guilt for not caring to be partnered.  Relationships are supposed add quality of life. But what if we already have quality-of-life with our friends and support group? Is that enough?

In theory, they're the perfect partner.  They check off every category on our ‘list'.  And, we're everything they're looking for.  Why doesn't it happen? Here are some of the reasons ‘looking good' relationships don't take off.

After breakup, a fight or any kind of hurt your man can quickly go from loving to being cold as ice. We, as women, don't know how to process this. We begin to wonder what's real. Did he ever care? Here's the real story of the male ego in peril and why he shuts down.

What should you do when you've discovered your partner has cheated?  Leaving is a clear choice for many. However, there are other options should you (and your partner) care to salvage your relationship. For more on this topic, check out my feature in Bustle: My Partner Is Cheating On Me — Now What? https://www.bustle.com/p/my-partner-is-cheating-on-me-now-what-50739

Traditional formats oftentimes fail modern couples — but that doesn't mean you can't stay together. Before you consider breaking up, brainstorm for creative solutions to preserve what works by reconfiguring your romantic design.

Balancing give-and-take in a relationship can be a tricky thing. Often times, we tend to get into locked roles. The over-giver feels superior and will be resented by the taker. The taker feels disabled and infantilized and resents the giver. Here's how to get into a balanced flow.

Are you obsessing over someone and can't seem to gain control of your thinking? Here's how to break free from the loop of obsession and gain forward traction in your life.

Only a heart that's pure in its intention can open the hardest of hearts. The animal inside of us is constantly aware of agendas and games. The only way to hack into another's heart is to check your weapons at the gate.

Creating tension is a long-standing dating game that's been used throughout time to reboot a lover's interest. It was a key tactic for courtesans to maintain their patron's interest. Be wise, and learn this game — so that you'll never be destabilized by a desperate (and fearful) date.

Clarity around what you want is essential for creating a relationship you'll enjoy. If you don't take the reins, you'll have to take what you get. The person with the strongest desire and clearest vision will dominate the relationship.  It might as well be you.