The Terri Cole Show

Are you running on empty? Are you so depleted that you've found yourself pulling back from your relationships and the things that used to inspire you?

If you feel desperate to replenish yourself in some way and you could use some tips, then this episode is for you.

In today's episode, you'll learn the difference between being stressed and burned out ('cause they're not the same), how to pinpoint what drains you the most, and 3 strategies to help you bounce back from burnout.

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Today I'm chatting with my great friend and New York Times bestselling author Gabby Bernstein about the inspiration behind her newest book, Happy Days: The Guided Path from Trauma to Profound Freedom and Inner Peace. This book is Gabby's most profoundly personal. It sparks a conversation about how trauma creates harmful patterns of self-protection and how we can escape them, as well as the healing power of being a better parent to ourselves and our children.

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Have you ever met someone you would describe as an "old soul" or seemingly older than their years?

You might be describing someone with high emotional maturity.

Investing time and energy into growing your own emotional maturity is well worth it. When you learn how to master your emotions you have a deep understanding of yourself, you are able to flex your empathy muscle in a healthy way, and you are more competent and calm in stressful situations.

Listen to today's episode to learn more about your current emotional maturity level and what you can do to increase it because doing so will create more opportunities for growth and more harmony in your life!

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Today I'm excited to share an interview with Michelle Chalfant. She is a therapist and coach who created a model called the "adult chair" to help adults recognize immature aspects of their psyche and live more emotionally healthy lives. We're talking all about what you need to do to live a healthier, happier life, including how to be more self compassionate and how to recognize triggering experiences as opportunities for healing.

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Do you feel like you are the only person in your life who knows how to do anything correctly?

Have you ever asked your partner or your teenager to do something, and they come back with "But you do it so much better…" or "I don't know how…" OR wait so long to start that you just end up doing it?

What if the people in your life are pretending to be less competent than they are to get you to do more than your share? Let that sink in.

If you are overworking, overdoing, and, if you're honest, resentful and burnt out, you might want to learn about strategic (or weaponized) incompetence.

In today's podcast, I break down this manipulation tactic and share how you can begin to step back from overfunctioning and move towards a more equitable distribution of labor in your life.

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Do you ever feel like you are too busy to create the life you really want? A lot of us always feel like we're playing catch-up, but it doesn't have to be that way. Today's guest, Tanya Dalton, shares strategies that can help all of us live with intention by making truly fulfilling goals and sticking to them. Plus: Tanya shares the story behind her brand new book, On Purpose: The Busy Woman's Guide to an Extraordinary Life of Meaning and Success.

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How often do you find yourself bummed out on Valentine's Day?

I can tell you, as a psychotherapist for 25 years, whether you're single or in a relationship, Valentine's Day has a way of setting us up for disappointment. Every year post-Cupid, I would prepare myself for the aftermath because my therapy practice would be full of people who were sad, lonely, or angry over what did or did not go down on V-day.

What if you asked for what you really want? What if you decided to fulfill your own desires this year? What if you fell wildly in love with yourself?

Listen to today's episode to learn several ways you can get your needs met this Valentine's Day plus a sacred self-love ritual to help you feel supported, deeply nourished, and adored.

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Today I'm interviewing Serena Dyer Pisoni. Her father, Wayne Dyer, passed away a few years ago. If you don't know him, he was a big influence on my life and work, and I know he also touched the lives of many others. Serena recently co-wrote a book called The Knowing with her sister Saje, all about processing and learning from the many losses that they were going through during that time in their lives. In today's episode, Serena shares the tools and strategies she developed to make her way forward through that grief, and we also talk about the importance of practicing self-love and self-forgiveness even when you believe guilt is all you deserve.

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Do you find that you attach unusually quickly to people, whether in friendships or romantic relationships? Do you stay in relationships that you know are bad for you because the thought of being alone scares you more than staying in a bad relationship? Or do you repeatedly find yourself in relationships with unavailable people? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you might have abandonment issues. In this episode, I'm helping you recognize the signs of abandonment issues in adult relationships and reviewing the most common causes of chronic fear of abandonment.

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Before the pandemic, I was always a gym person. I liked the social aspect of meeting up with my gym friends, and I never imagined that I could motivate myself to work out at home. That changed when I found today's guest, Michelle Briehler. She is a Youtube workout leader and certified health and life coach who has helped thousands of people, including my sister and I, stay fit and feel good about themselves without going to the gym in person. Michelle shares how she started leading remote workouts and we talk about why home workouts are a staple of my routine even now that my gym is open.

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