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Why do avoidant attachment styles turn to numbing instead of soothing—and what’s the cost?

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Whether you’re avoidantly attached or supporting someone who is, this episode offers a powerful roadmap to break free from numbing loops and create lasting emotional regulation.

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Is your friend more distant, private, or slow to open up than most?

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Whether you're feeling disconnected from a friend, recovering from a confusing dynamic, or looking to deepen a long-standing bond, this episode offers a compassionate roadmap to navigating friendships with avoidant attachment.

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Can love thrive between a dismissive avoidant and someone securely attached? Or is the emotional gap too wide to bridge?

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Whether you're in this dynamic or love someone who is, this episode helps you see the road ahead clearly—without losing yourself in the process.

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Why do avoidants seem hesitant to commit—even when things are going well?

In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais reveals the three hidden qualities every dismissive avoidant looks for before committing to a long-term relationship or deep friendship. These traits aren’t always spoken aloud, but they quietly determine whether the relationship feels safe and sustainable.

✔️ Why emotional acceptance is essential to avoidants (and how criticism shuts them down)

✔️ The importance of emotional stability—and how avoidants subtly test for it

✔️ How a strong sense of autonomy and independence is a non-negotiable for commitment

✔️ What not to do if you want to build trust with an avoidant partner

✔️ How to communicate your needs while honoring theirs

✔️ Why understanding these three traits can transform your relationship dynamic

If you’ve ever felt confused by an avoidant partner’s pullback or mixed signals, this episode gives you the roadmap to understanding their core needs—and deciding if you're aligned for the long haul.

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Does your dismissive avoidant partner actually care—or are they just keeping you around?

In this emotionally insightful episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais and co-host Mike DiZio break down 6 clear signs that a dismissive avoidant partner has developed real feelings for you. From subtle shifts in communication to the moments they begin to open up and meet your needs, you'll learn what to look for—and what it means.

✔️ How to tell when a dismissive avoidant is thinking about you all the time

✔️ Why they might feel the urge to pull back when things get close—and how that changes when they care

✔️ Signs of emotional vulnerability and gradual opening up

✔️ The unexpected moments of protectiveness that reveal affection

✔️ What it means when they begin accommodating your needs—despite internal resistance

✔️ Why the thought of losing you may be the biggest clue of all

This episode isn’t just about recognizing signs—it’s about deciding whether the connection you’re in has long-term potential and whether your needs are truly being met.

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05:06 – 1. If You're Thinking About the Person All the Time

09:41 – 2. You Might Feel the Need to Retract

18:15 – 3. You Notice Yourself Opening Up Little by Little

27:16 – 4. You Start Feeling Protective Over the Person

30:55 – DA’s and Words of Affirmation

45:34 – 5. You’ll Try to Accommodate Them by Meeting Their Needs

52:26 – Bonus — The Thought of Losing the Other Person Hurts

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Do avoidants really fall in love—or are they just emotionally unavailable?

In this eye-opening episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais answers one of the most frequently asked questions in attachment theory: Can dismissive and fearful avoidants truly experience love? The answer might surprise you.

Through personal stories and client insights, Thais explains how the depth of love an avoidant can feel is directly tied to their ability to be emotionally vulnerable. Learn why some avoidants may only feel infatuation or superficial connection until they’ve done the deeper work—and how healing their attachment style can unlock the potential for lasting, unconditional love.

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✔️ The difference between infatuation and emotional intimacy

✔️ How love evolves across the 6 relationship stages

✔️ What holds avoidants back from deep emotional connection

✔️ How to support your partner (or yourself) in building secure attachment

✔️ Why doing the work changes how love is experienced and expressed

Whether you’re dating an avoidant, recovering from a relationship, or healing your own patterns, this episode is your compassionate guide to love through the lens of secure connection.

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Do you often feel intense emotional reactions but can’t always pinpoint why?

In this powerful episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais unpacks the 12 core wounds that most commonly affect individuals with a Fearful Avoidant attachment style—alongside the emotions they spark. Whether you identify as a Fearful Avoidant or love someone who does, this deep dive will help you understand, name, and ultimately transform the subconscious beliefs that cause inner turmoil and relational tension.

✔️ Why Fearful Avoidants tend to have the most core wounds of all attachment styles

✔️ How childhood trauma imprints emotional "landmines" in the subconscious

✔️ The top wounds—like I will be betrayed, I am bad, I’m unworthy—and their emotional patterns

✔️ What subconscious emotions are really trying to tell you

✔️ How core wounds like I am unsafe, I am stupid, and I’ll be attacked show up in adult relationships

✔️ The link between shame, hypervigilance, emotional outbursts, and perfectionism

This episode offers a clear, compassionate guide to recognizing your pain points so you can finally start to heal them at the root.

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What happens when a dismissive avoidant and a fearful avoidant are in a relationship?

This dynamic can be one of the most intense and emotionally turbulent attachment pairings due to conflicting needs, emotional push-pull behaviors, and deep-rooted fears around intimacy and abandonment. In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, we explore the key challenges, patterns, and strategies for building a healthier connection between these two avoidant attachment styles.

✔️ Why the fearful avoidant switches between anxious and avoidant behaviors in this pairing

✔️ How the dismissive avoidant’s emotional withdrawal triggers the FA’s fears

✔️ The push-pull cycle and why these relationships feel unstable

✔️ How both partners can meet each other’s emotional needs without overwhelming themselves

✔️ Key communication strategies to break the cycle of conflict and emotional shutdown

✔️ How to bring more security into the relationship for lasting connection

If you've ever wondered, “Why does this relationship feel so intense yet so distant at the same time?”, this episode will help you understand the dynamic and how to create a healthier balance between independence and connection.

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How does no contact affect different attachment styles?

No contact can be an effective strategy after a breakup, but how it works depends entirely on your ex’s attachment style. While anxious, dismissive avoidant, and fearful avoidant attachment styles all process breakups differently, understanding their patterns can help you navigate your healing journey—and even recognize signs that they may still be thinking about you.

✔️ How anxious, avoidant, and fearful avoidant exes respond to no contact

✔️ The timeframes when each attachment style starts processing the breakup

✔️ Why anxious exes reach out quickly, while dismissive avoidants take longer

✔️ Signs your ex is regretting the breakup, missing you, or re-evaluating their decision

✔️ When to extend or break no contact based on their attachment style

✔️ How to use this time to heal and shift into a more secure attachment style

If you’ve ever wondered, “Is no contact working?” or “Will my ex reach out?”, this episode will help you understand their attachment-based response and what it means for your relationship dynamics.

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Dismissive avoidants can seem emotionally shut down—but there is a way in.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in a relationship where the other person won’t open up, especially if they’re dismissive avoidant, this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast is for you. Thais shares the top 3 proven ways to gently support a dismissive avoidant in letting down their emotional walls—without pushing, overgiving, or losing yourself in the process.

✔️ How asking specific—not general—questions creates space for meaningful sharing

✔️ Why emotional safety and non-judgment are essential to helping a DA open up

✔️ The power of validation, empathy, and simply remembering small details

✔️ How to express your needs without sounding critical or shaming

✔️ The role of acceptance and consistency in building long-term trust

✔️ Why dismissive avoidants often test the waters before becoming emotionally vulnerable

If you’ve ever wondered, “What can I do to connect with a dismissive avoidant partner—or know if it’s even worth it?”, this episode will offer clear, actionable tools to deepen emotional intimacy and assess relationship alignment.

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