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In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais Gibson and co-host Mike break down the most common protest behaviors of the Fearful Avoidant attachment style—the subconscious coping mechanisms that can sabotage relationships, even when they’re meant to soothe.

Drawing from personal experiences, Thais and Mike share valuable insights into how Fearful Avoidants may push their partners away while yearning for deeper connection. They discuss:

🗣 Being Harsh With Their Words – Why Fearful Avoidants lash out when triggered (01:16)

💭 Spiteful Behaviors – The hidden reason they may act out (12:31)

⏳ Flip-Flopping from Hot to Cold – Why their emotions shift suddenly (24:09)

💔 Testing by Pushing Away – How they unconsciously assess their partner’s commitment (35:04)

🧐 Becoming Critical – Why they find flaws to create emotional distance (45:33)

Whether you're navigating a relationship with a Fearful Avoidant or working on your own attachment patterns, this episode offers practical strategies to heal, build secure relationships, and improve emotional communication.

Timestamps & Topics Covered:

00:00 - Intro

01:16 - 1 — Being Harsh With Their Words

04:48 - Saying What You Mean vs Speaking Out of Anger

12:31 - 2 — Having Spiteful Behaviors

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16:42 - Indirect Behaviors FAs do When They're Upset

24:09 - 3 — Flip-Flopping From Hot to Cold

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33:31 - Reachers and Settlers in Dating

35:04 - 4 — Testing by Pushing Away

45:33 - 5 — Becoming Critical

48:31 - Conclusion

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Ever had an avoidant partner suddenly pull away, even when things seemed perfect? Discover the hidden fears and subconscious patterns that cause avoidants to leave good relationships—and how to navigate these challenges.

In today’s episode, Thais Gibson uncovers the real reasons why avoidants leave even the best relationships. From their deep-seated fear of intimacy to struggles with commitment and vulnerability, learn what truly drives their pullbacks. Listen now to gain key insights into how to communicate, break through their walls, and create a stronger, lasting connection.

Timestamps

00:00:00 - Introduction: Why Avoidants Leave Good Relationships

00:00:22 - Understanding the Dismissive Avoidant’s Inner Conflict

00:01:05 - How Childhood Shapes Avoidant Attachment

00:02:12 - The Avoidant’s Subconscious Fear of Vulnerability

00:03:32 - The Role of Flaw-Finding in Avoidant Relationships

00:04:35 - Reason #1: Fear of Intimacy and Emotional Closeness

00:05:08 - Reason #2: Fear of Commitment and Feeling Trapped

00:06:02 - Reason #3: Struggles with Healthy Vulnerability

00:07:01 - Reason #4: Unrealistic Expectations and Avoiding Conflict

00:08:01 - How to Communicate and Support an Avoidant Partner

00:08:57 - Turning Expectations into Needs for Relationship Stability

00:09:55 - Final Thoughts and Relationship Repair Strategies

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Understanding dismissive avoidant attachment can transform your approach to relationships. In this episode, Thais Gibson explores what a healthy relationship looks like for a dismissive avoidant, highlighting their core needs—such as autonomy, consistency, and feeling unconditionally accepted.

She also breaks down common misunderstandings, how to communicate effectively with a dismissive avoidant partner, and strategies for fostering deeper connection while respecting their boundaries. Whether you're in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant or want to understand yourself better, this episode offers powerful insights for navigating love and intimacy.

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Breakups can be incredibly challenging, especially for those with a fearful avoidant attachment style. In this episode, Thais Gibson, founder of the Personal Development School, breaks down how fearful avoidants react to breakups, why they initially withdraw, and how they process emotions over time.

She also offers insights into whether reconciliation is possible and the key steps needed for a healthy reunion. If you're navigating a breakup or seeking a deeper understanding of attachment styles, this episode provides powerful strategies to foster healing and personal growth.

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Do you wonder if your fearful avoidant partner misses you but is too afraid to say it? Discover the five subtle signs and learn how to bridge the gap for better understanding and connection.

In today’s episode, Thais Gibson reveals five subtle but powerful signs that a fearful avoidant partner may miss you, even if they don’t say it outright. Learn how behaviors like pushing you away, seeking quality time, or showing negative framing can indicate their desire to reconnect. Listen now for insights into decoding their actions and fostering better communication in your relationship.

Timestamps

00:00:00 – Introduction: Does the Fearful Avoidant Miss You?

00:01:04 – Sign #1: Pushing You Away to Test Your Response

00:02:00 – The Role of Validation in Their Behavior

00:04:02 – Sign #2: Asking About Small Details of Your Life

00:05:32 – Hypervigilance as a Coping Mechanism

00:06:39 – Sign #3: Inviting You to Novel Experiences

00:08:01 – Why New Experiences Help Them Bond

00:08:50 – Sign #4: Planning Quality Alone Time

00:10:30 – Sign #5: Negative Framing Instead of Direct Expression

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In this insightful episode, we delve into the five common protest behaviors displayed by dismissive avoidant attachment styles, offering listeners practical strategies for healthier communication and deeper understanding.

Join us as we break down stonewalling, emotional withdrawal, flaw-finding, numbing out, and relationship-threatening behaviors, exploring their root causes and effective ways to address them.

Whether you're a dismissive avoidant, in a relationship with one, or simply curious about attachment theory, this episode provides essential tools to navigate and improve these dynamics.

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00:00 - Intro

01:14 - 1 — Stonewalling

01:55 - Why Do DA’s Stonewall?

05:56 - Core Themes in DA's and Stonewalling

11:07 - How to Communicate Healthily

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15:37 - 2 — Threatening to End the Relationship

16:53 - Changing Your Persona vs Adjusting a Behavior

18:12 - Do They Actually Want to Leave the Relationship?

20:40 - If You're on the Receiving End

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30:09 - 3 — Withdrawing When Emotionally Overwhelmed

36:05 - DAs and Co-Regulation

40:54 - 4 — Blaming, Deflecting, and Flaw-Finding

43:31 - Flaw-Finding Stories

53:35 - 5 — Numbing Out and Soothing Through External Comforts

59:31 - Conclusion

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In this episode, we explore "5 Strange Things Every Avoidant Needs to Be Happy in Love."

Discover the surprising and essential needs of individuals with avoidant attachment styles and how understanding these can create a healthier, more connected relationship.

From the importance of independence and empathy to harmony, literal communication, and non-judgment, we break down how these elements help avoidants thrive in love.

Whether you’re navigating your own attachment style or seeking to understand your partner better, this episode provides practical tips and tools for creating a balanced and fulfilling connection. Tune in now for actionable insights to transform your relationship!

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Are you wondering how to spot a securely attached partner or friend? Discover the five essential traits of secure attachment and how they lead to more balanced, fulfilling relationships.

In today’s episode, Thais Gibson reveals the five key signs of securely attached individuals and how these traits foster healthy, fulfilling relationships. From open communication to constructive conflict resolution and maintaining a balanced life, this episode breaks down what makes secure attachment so empowering. Listen now to discover the traits that create lasting connections and learn how to bring them into your relationships.

00:00:00 – Introduction: Identifying Secure Attachment

00:00:37 – Sign #1: Open Communication

00:01:50 – Sign #2: Sharing Vulnerably

00:02:15 – Comfort with Emotional Transparency

00:03:02 – Sign #3: Handling Conflict Constructively

00:04:15 – Sign #4: Practicing Interdependence

00:05:13 – Sign #5: Setting and Respecting Boundaries

00:05:53 – Balance in Life Through Healthy Boundaries

00:06:00 – Conclusion: Fostering Secure Relationships

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In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, we explore the unique behaviors of individuals with a fearful avoidant attachment style.

From hypervigilance to a high need for control, we discuss the root causes of these patterns, how they impact relationships, and actionable insights for creating healthier dynamics.

Co-hosts dive into personal experiences, share relatable anecdotes, and offer tips for both fearful avoidants and their partners. Whether you’re navigating your own attachment style or supporting a loved one, this episode provides a compassionate and educational lens on these quirks.

Episode Timestamps:

00:00 - Intro

02:40 - Hypervigilance

17:20 - 7-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass

18:11 - A High Need for Control

25:46 - They’re Easy to Trigger

29:53 - "If You Love Me, You Should Know What I Need”

37:34 - Integrated Attachment Theory Certification

38:41 - Asking a Lot of Questions

42:26 - They Won't Ask for Help

47:16 - They Can Be Extreme

52:45 - They Can Be Very Competitive

54:56 - They Often Personalize Things

1:00:58 - Conclusion

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Do you feel frustrated by the silent treatment in your relationship? Discover the hidden reasons behind avoidant behavior and learn how to handle it with clarity and compassion.

In today’s episode, Thais Gibson uncovers the real reasons behind the silent treatment used by avoidant attachment styles in relationships. Explore how emotional triggers, fear of vulnerability, and subconscious coping mechanisms contribute to this behavior. Listen now to learn practical tools for navigating these dynamics and fostering healthier communication.

Timestamps

00:00:00 – Introduction: Understanding the Silent Treatment

00:00:16 – What Is the Silent Treatment?

00:01:00 – Why Avoidants Use the Silent Treatment

00:01:30 – Emotional Triggers Behind Stonewalling

00:02:45 – Avoidant Coping Mechanisms Explained

00:03:40 – Healthy vs. Unhealthy Silent Treatment

00:04:20 – Manipulation vs. Emotional Self-Regulation

00:05:10 – How to Differentiate Intentions Behind Silence

00:05:50 – The Role of Emotional Literacy in Avoidants

00:06:30 – Tips for Dealing With the Silent Treatment

00:07:00 – Free Resources for Resolving Conflict

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