January 14, 2026

The Truth About Each Attachment Style's Biggest Turn Offs

9 minutes

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Have you ever felt deeply turned off, or suddenly rejected, and had no idea why?

What repels one attachment style can feel normal or even familiar to another.

And many of the biggest turn offs in relationships aren’t conscious choices, they’re subconscious survival patterns.

When those patterns go unhealed, they often create codependent dynamics that quietly sabotage connection.

🎥 Episode Summary

In today’s video, Thais Gibson reveals the biggest turn offs for each attachment style, Secure, Anxious, Fearful Avoidant, and Dismissive Avoidant, and explains why these patterns trigger attraction, withdrawal, or shutdown at a nervous system level.

You’ll learn how subconscious conditioning, unmet childhood needs, and emotional self-abandonment shape what we’re drawn to, and what pushes us away, often without us realizing it.

This episode is especially powerful if you:

Feel stuck in repeating relationship patterns

Are confused by sudden loss of attraction or connection

Struggle with codependency, people-pleasing, or emotional over-investment

Want to understand both your own triggers and your partner’s

✨ Key Takeaways

✔ Why secure attachment is turned off by inconsistency and emotional games

✔ How anxious attachment chases what actually dysregulates them

✔ The paradox of fearful avoidant attraction and repulsion

✔ Why Dismissive Avoidants shut down around intensity and emotional demands

✔ How subconscious comfort zones shape attraction

✔ Why healing codependency changes who you’re drawn to

✔ How unmet needs, not “chemistry”, drive relationship cycles

⏱ TIMESTAMPS

00:00 – The Truth About Each Attachment Style's Biggest Turn Offs

00:52 – Secure Attachment

03:06 – Anxious Preoccupied

05:10 – Fearful Avoidant

07:00 – Ending Copependency Course Promo

07:21 – Dismissive Avoidant

09:02 – Check Out/Our Online Programs

Meet the Host

Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

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