The Crazy Ex-Wives Divorce Club

The Truth About Post-Divorce Body Image with Marla Mervis-Hartmann


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What if the way you talk to yourself about your body is doing more damage than the food on your plate? In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, we dive into body image recovery after divorce, emotional eating, and the journey to self-love with guest Marla Mervis-Hartmann — coach, author, and body image expert.

Together, Erica and Marla unpack what it really means to love your body at every season of life, why willpower isn’t the answer, and how to rewire negative self-talk that keeps you stuck.

From breaking the cycle of emotional eating to finding compassion in the mirror, you’ll walk away with both mindset shifts and practical strategies to rebuild confidence, create food freedom, and actually enjoy the skin you’re in.


🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways


  • Why body image struggles aren’t solved by weight loss alone
  • The link between emotional eating and unprocessed feelings
  • How “the rebel” archetype shows up in food habits
  • The power of self-talk—and why shame never leads to lasting change
  • Ways to model a healthier body relationship for your kids
  • Small daily practices to shift from control and restriction to trust and love

⏱️ Episode Timestamps

  • 00:00 Intro

  • 05:00 Extreme weight loss, rebuilding health, and gym life

  • 08:00 The trap of diet culture & addiction to control

  • 12:00 Emotional eating as a coping mechanism

  • 18:00 Food as rebellion, control, and teenage risks

  • 21:00 Self-sabotage, fear of failure, and food/alcohol cycles

  • 25:00 Finding the “third road” between indulgence & restriction

  • 30:00 Modeling body love for our kids

  • 36:00 Liking vs. loving your body & joyful movement

  • 42:00 Marla’s book, programs & free course resources

    44:00 Takeaway: find one thing you love about yourself this week


    🌟 Resources & LinksThe Club: A Divorce Community

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    Connect with Marla

    • 🌟 TEDx Talk: The Secret Ingredient to Feeling Good in Your Body

    • 🌟 Free Course: Breaking the Cycle of Emotional Eating

    • 🌟 Facebook: Love Your Body Love Yourself | Marla Mervis

    • 🌟 Instagram: @loveyourbodyloveyourselfalways

    • 🌟 Website: loveyourbodyloveyourself.com

    • 🌟 YouTube: Marla Mervis

    • 🌟 Book: BE-Friend Yourself on Amazon | Book Website


      Connect with Erica

    • 🌟 Instagram: @thecrazyexwivesclub

    • 🌟 Facebook: The Crazy Ex-Wives Club

    • 🌟 Website: thecrazyexwivesclub.com

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