April 22, 2025

Therapy Isn’t Scary: Breaking Mental Health Myths with Dr. Bonnie Wims

54 minutes

🌟 Welcome to Season 11

We’re kicking off Season 11 with a powerful, heart-first conversation designed to help anyone who’s ever felt unsure about therapy or struggled to believe they deserve healing.

In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Bonnie Wims, a New York City-based Counseling Psychologist and host of Therapy Deconstructed. Bonnie opens up about her mental health journey—growing up in a home marked by trauma, chasing success as a way to quiet fear, and eventually learning to sit with the voice in her head that said she wasn’t enough.

If you’ve ever wondered whether therapy can help, or if you’re the problem, this episode is a reminder: you are not broken, and you’re not alone.

We’re proud to be the 2024 People’s Choice Podcast Award Winner for Health and the 2024 Women In Podcasting Award Winner for Best Mental Health Podcast, with over 1 million downloads. We’re building a brave, compassionate community—one honest conversation at a time.

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🧠 Quote of the Episode

“You’re not broken. Life is hard, and things happen to you, but you deserve happiness and fulfillment just like anybody else.”

— Dr. Bonnie Wims

👩‍⚕️ Meet Our Guest: Dr. Bonnie Wims

Dr. Bonnie Wims knows what it means to survive trauma while chasing success and wondering why it still doesn’t feel like enough. Raised in Colorado in an abusive home, she learned early to shrink herself to survive.

Even after earning a doctorate, moving to London, and starting a thriving private practice, she still wrestled with fear—until therapy helped her meet that fear with compassion instead of avoidance.

Now, Bonnie helps others do the same through her work and her podcast, Therapy Deconstructed. She’s on a mission to help you stop hiding and start healing.

Connect with Dr. Bonnie Wims:

Website: https://www.bonniewims.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/wimsassociates/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbonniewims/

Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapydeconstructedpodcast/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drbonniewims/

Podcast: https://www.bonniewims.com/podcast/

🎧 Podcast Shoutout!

We love supporting fellow creators, especially when they’re as real and funny as Caitlin & Jenny of How to Be a Grownup!

This hilarious and heartfelt podcast helps moms laugh, learn, and survive the chaos of adulting.

Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-be-a-grownup-a-humorous-guide-for-moms-with-ck-gk/id1600435714

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/18bYm4GWnS5JKiKcTqRQsT

Website: https://www.ckandgkpodcast.com/episodes

🔑 Key Takeaways

Therapy is a safe space where you can finally be honest with yourself.

That voice telling you you’re “too much” is often fear pretending to protect you.

You don’t have to stay with the first therapist you meet—finding the right fit matters.

✅ Action Items

Track your self-talk — Begin noticing how you speak to yourself and ask: “Would I say this to someone I love?”

Take a small first step — Reach out to a therapist or call 988 if you’re in crisis.

Remember you have choices — If your current therapist isn’t a good fit, it’s okay to move on.

⏱️ Episode Highlights

00:00 – Meet Bonnie and welcome to Season 11

03:00 – Why fear keeps people out of therapy

08:00 – Bonnie’s childhood and internalizing pain

14:00 – Her first experiences with therapy as a client

22:00 – The power of “speed dating” your therapist

35:00 – How self-talk shapes our emotional health

44:00 – What she’d tell her 6-year-old self

50:00 – Tools for calming your nervous system and building new patterns

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April 22, 2025

Therapy Isn’t Scary: Breaking Mental Health Myths with Dr. Bonnie Wims

54 minutes

🌟 Welcome to Season 11

We’re kicking off Season 11 with a powerful, heart-first conversation designed to help anyone who’s ever felt unsure about therapy or struggled to believe they deserve healing.

If you’ve ever wondered whether therapy can help, or if you’re the problem, this episode is a reminder: you are not broken, and you’re not alone.

💬 Your feedback means the world to us!

Share your thoughts or drop a voice message:

https://castfeedback.com/67521f0bde0b101c7b10442a

🧠 Quote of the Episode

“You’re not broken. Life is hard, and things happen to you, but you deserve happiness and fulfillment just like anybody else.”

— Dr. Bonnie Wims

👩‍⚕️ Meet Our Guest: Dr. Bonnie Wims

Now, Bonnie helps others do the same through her work and her podcast, Therapy Deconstructed. She’s on a mission to help you stop hiding and start healing.

Connect with Dr. Bonnie Wims:

Website: https://www.bonniewims.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/wimsassociates/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbonniewims/

Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapydeconstructedpodcast/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drbonniewims/

Podcast: https://www.bonniewims.com/podcast/

🎧 Podcast Shoutout!

We love supporting fellow creators, especially when they’re as real and funny as Caitlin & Jenny of How to Be a Grownup!

This hilarious and heartfelt podcast helps moms laugh, learn, and survive the chaos of adulting.

Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-be-a-grownup-a-humorous-guide-for-moms-with-ck-gk/id1600435714

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/18bYm4GWnS5JKiKcTqRQsT

Website: https://www.ckandgkpodcast.com/episodes

🔑 Key Takeaways

Therapy is a safe space where you can finally be honest with yourself.

That voice telling you you’re “too much” is often fear pretending to protect you.

You don’t have to stay with the first therapist you meet—finding the right fit matters.

✅ Action Items

Track your self-talk — Begin noticing how you speak to yourself and ask: “Would I say this to someone I love?”

Take a small first step — Reach out to a therapist or call 988 if you’re in crisis.

Remember you have choices — If your current therapist isn’t a good fit, it’s okay to move on.

⏱️ Episode Highlights

00:00 – Meet Bonnie and welcome to Season 11

03:00 – Why fear keeps people out of therapy

08:00 – Bonnie’s childhood and internalizing pain

14:00 – Her first experiences with therapy as a client

22:00 – The power of “speed dating” your therapist

35:00 – How self-talk shapes our emotional health

44:00 – What she’d tell her 6-year-old self

50:00 – Tools for calming your nervous system and building new patterns

📲 Subscribe, Rate & Review

Don't miss future episodes of Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads! Subscribe on your favorite podcast platform and help us spread the message that mental health conversations are for everyone.

⭐ Leave a review here: https://goesoninourheads.net/add-your-podcast-reviews

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🌟 Help California Wildfire Victims 🌟

American Red Cross – Wildfire Relief: https://www.redcross.org/about-us/our-work/disaster-relief/wildfire-relief.html
California Community Foundation – Wildfire Recovery: https://www.calfund.org/funds/wildfire-recovery-fund/
California Fire Foundation – Wildfire & Disaster Relief: https://www.cafirefoundation.org/what-we-do/for-communities/disaster-relief/
GoFundMe – California Wildfire Relief: https://www.gofundme.com/c/act/wildfire-relief/california
Los Angeles Fire Department Foundation: https://supportlafd.org/

Your support, big or small, can help relieve those in need. Thank you for making a difference! 💛

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If You Need Support, Reach Out