What does it actually take to build healthy relationships?

In this Therapy Thursdays episode, John Kim answers some of the most common questions about love, healing, attachment, and personal growth. From redefining what it means to fall in love to understanding why peace is something you give yourself - not something you find - this episode explores the inner work that shapes the way we connect with others.

John shares practical insights on anxious attachment, healing after toxic relationships, rupture and repair, emotional safety, and why the healthiest relationships are built through daily choices rather than fleeting feelings. He also explores the importance of studying yourself, accepting impermanence, and living a "through me" life instead of feeling like life is happening to you.

In this episode:

• Why peace is something you can give yourself

• What it means to live a "through me" life

• Why self-help is really the lifelong study of self

• How fear of impermanence fuels suffering

• The qualities that should never be negotiable in relationships

• The difference between falling in love and choosing to love

• Signs you're in a healthy, secure relationship

• Whether emotional attraction alone is enough

• Why every relationship requires rupture and repair

• Understanding anxious attachment when you're apart from your partner

• How healthy relationships can help support emotional healing

• What your nervous system needs after a toxic relationship

• Two questions that can help guide your life and relationships

🎙️ More about John:

📘 My latest book, Love Hard On Purpose. Toss the blueprints. Build something honest. HERE

John’s book publishing company: Soulprint https://www.soulprintmedia.co

📘 Read John’s book in progress Sh*t Your Therapist Would Never Tell You on John’s SubStack ⁠HERE⁠

If you’re ready for deeper work, the Secure Self course is available HERE

Order John’s book, Break Up. On Purpose,⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Follow John on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Find out more about John⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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