This Changes Everything with Sarah Rice

In today's episode, Sarah Rice and Therapy Jeff are tackling a topic that is difficult, but one that many of us have gone through or will go through at some point in our lives: breakups. Breaking up can be a really tough decision to make, and sometimes it's hard to know if you're acting in the heat of the moment or if you've really considered the choice you're about to make. To help you sort through how you're feeling, Sarah and Jeff are sharing twelve questions you should ask yourself before you decide once and for all to breakup. Some of these might be uncomfortable because they'll require taking a long, hard look in the mirror, and we all know how much fun that isn't. But hopefully these questions will help you find the focus and clarity you need to help you decide if you're going to stick it out or if it's time to say goodbye.

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Our last few episodes have been pretty intense, so Therapy Jeff and Sarah have decided to lighten things up with something else our listeners have been asking for. This week, it's all about the apps. Whether you're out there looking for a good time or a long time, we've got 10 great tips to help you get the most out of your dating profile. We cover everything from your profile picture, to how to write a fantastic bio, to just how honest you should be in your profile. Sarah and Jeff are at odds when it comes to grammar and punctuation, so you'll have to listen to see whose side you're on there. Let us know if our tips help you find true love–or whatever else you might be looking for!

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It's time for another round of one of our favorite show topics: Therapy Jeff and Sarah asked you are answering your questions! Some of the questions addresssed in this episode include:

- How do I ask him to be exclusive without seeming needy?
- Can a long distance relationship work?
- How do you feel about your partner checking out other people?
- How do I get over "the ick" in small things?
- How do I keep the spark going in a longterm relationship?
(Jeff shares some really thoughtful questions you can ask  to get deeper with and learn more about your partner.)
- What do I do when my partner says objectionable or borderline sexist things?
- How do I begin to repair trust after infidelity?

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Listeners, you've been asking us to cover this one. Today, Sarah and Theraphy Jeff are talking divorce. They're talking about the messages we all got about divorce growing up, being children of divorce, their own divorces, and a lot more. They talk about coping with grief, guilt, anger, sadnesss, and all of the tough emotions that are attached to such an intense life event. Sarah discusses why it's so important to set boundaries and get some space. They commiserate over the uniquely modern problem of detangling all of the shared streaming service logins. Jeff suggests letting your friends know what kind of support you need at any given moment. ("I just need to vent" vs "Can we just play video games?") They also talk about all the feelings that come along with dating after divorce and how to know when it's time to start dating again.

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Therapy Jeff and Sarah asked you to slide into their DMs with your therapy-related questions, and you all delivered. Some of the questions they tackle this week:

- Should I give my ex a second chance?
- When should I move in with my partner?
- What do you do when the person you're breaking up with says you've ruined their life?
- How do you know if your therapist is a good fit for you?
- How do you deal with the fading of new relationship energy?
- When do you know you're ready to start dating again?
- How should I feel about my partner following Instagram models?
- Is it okay to keep thinking about your ex?
- What should you expect at a first therapy session?
- And lots more!

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Sarah and Therapy Jeff are back with the second half of this listener-suggested episode. Last week, we focused on what grief looks like and the ways it can show up in your life that you might not instantly recognize. This week, Jeff and Sarah are talking about what to do when you are grieving: how to accept grief, how to give yourself permission to feel what you need to feel. They talk about the ways a therapist can help you work through what you're feeling, and how it doesn't always look like having a huge meltdown. Sometimes it does though, and that's fine, too!

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This week, Therapy Jeff and Sarah are covering grief, so you might want to have your happiest movies and softest blankets ready to go after this one. When we think of grief, we usually think of grieving the death of a loved one, and that’s definitely one kind of grief. But we can grieve for so many reasons. Whether due to death, the end of a relationship, or leaving a job, any kind of loss can lead to grief, and it’s important to recognize this. We can even experience grief when something good happens. Moving in with a partner or getting married, for example, can lead to a feeling of loss that deserves to be felt and processed. To help with this process, Sarah walks us through Elisabeth Kübler-Ross’s famous stages of grief. Most people are familiar with her early model, which outlined five stages: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance, but she eventually added two additional stages, shock and testing, which helped to create a more accurate and nuanced model. Understanding these stages may be helpful when it comes to identifying grief and its associated feelings and behaviors. But once you’ve identified the fact that you’re grieving someone or something, what should you do? Sarah and Jeff have some suggestions in this episode, but of course, everyone is different, so if you are someone who’s going through it right now, try to show yourself some compassion and remember that there’s no single right or wrong way to grieve.

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We’re starting this episode off with an update from Sarah on the relationship question she asked Therapy Jeff last week. Then we’re picking up on the conversation we started last week. Last time we were talking about red flags that look like green flags. This time, we’re talking about green flags that might, at first glance, look like red flags. A lot of these are the healthy side of habits that can be problematic. For example, last week we talked about the fact that wanting to spend every single second with a new partner might be a red flag. This week, we’re saying that making yourself available is a green flag. As always, there’s nuance here. It’s all about balance, and it’s important to recognize when a behavior is veering from green flag to red flag.

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This week, Sarah starts this one off with a personal relationship question for Therapy Jeff, and he really flips it on her. Then they get into the heart of the episode, red flags that look like green flags. It might seem pretty obvious, but so many of our favorite love stories are deeply problematic when you think about them for, say, 10 seconds? Jeff blames The Princess Bride for his “As you wish” behaviors and Sarah explains her own complicated relationship with The Neverending Story’s Childlike Empress. How do we see these tropes playing out in our real adult relationships? Therapy Jeff and Sarah are pointing out a few things that seem positive at first but might warrant a second look. Come back next week for part two: Green flags that look like red flags.

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Last week, Therapy Jeff and Sarah focused on breaking up. This week, they're talking about staying together. Specifically, they're talking about marriage. Sarah asks Jeff to break down his "Four Things a Relationship Therapist Wants You to Keep in Mind Before Getting Married" video. First, they're talking about the fact that when you say yes to one person, you are, in a way, saying no to the possibility of anyone else. Second, Jeff reminds us that when you settle down, you're settling for a person who can't possibly meet all your needs (and you shouldn't expect them to). Third, you're going to get triggered by your spouse, but the important thing to remember is that's not necessarily a bad thing. Fourth, when you get married, you're going to have conflict with your spouse. So be prepared to take a break and get some space. These are all realities of being in a long term relationship that might seem negative at first glance, but they all provide opportunities to learn more about yourself, your partner, and the relationship you're building together. And that's a good thing.

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