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In this week's episode of Spinsterhood Reimagined, I talk to author and speaker, Mary Delia Allen. 

In this episode, Mary and I talk about how she came up with her concept of ‘the solo’ and what that means to her; how the truth is that if you’re single there are things you’re going to miss out on, in the same way that if you’re in a couple there are things you’re going to miss out on; and how she believes that current societal shifts mean that acceptance of being single as a ‘norm’ is going to happen imminently.

We also talk about how the need to pair up for ‘survival’ is no longer necessary, and that subsequently there’s nothing we can’t do in the solo life; the question of why we’re still succumbing to the pressure of marriage when the failure rate is so high; and how, as single women, we should all learn to prize and value ourselves in the same way we would if we were part of a couple. 

Mary and I also discuss the festive season and how it’s a mistake to think that having a partner is the measure of a great Christmas; how you might show up differently in your life if you knew that your perfect partner was coming along in one year’s time; and how the solo life gives us the opportunity to build the wonderful muscle that is self-reliance.  

Finally we talk about ways to combat loneliness; and how, if we allow ourselves to turn down the noise of our relationship status and adjust to being single, wonderful things will be revealed about ourselves that we didn’t know until we gave ourselves the chance to discover them.   

Follow Mary on Instagram: @enjoyyoursolo

UK Link to Mary's book, Enjoy Your Solo:
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Enjoy-Your-Solo-Great-Single/dp/B09L3FLZDN/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1669727157&sr=8-1 

US Link to Mary's book, Enjoy Your Solo:
https://www.amazon.com/Enjoy-Your-Solo-Great-Single/dp/B09L3FLZDN/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr= 

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On today's minisode, I'm talking about the importance of our thoughts and how they are, in fact, having a huge impact on our lives.

We are all creators, and we are creating our own realities day in and day out, whether or not we realise this or believe it to be true; which is why it is so, so, so important that we're thinking about the things that serve us and the things that we want, rather than the things that we don't want. 

The topics of 'thoughts becoming things', 'mind over matter' and 'you become what you think about' can often be dismissed as woowoo rubbish, but the scientific evidence to support these age-old concepts continues to grow. Perhaps it's time for us to start taking this all a bit more seriously because, you never know, it might actually work. 

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In this week's episode of Spinsterhood Reimagined, I talk to mindset coach and podcaster, Lisa John. 

In this episode, Lisa and I talk about where she is on her fertility journey to conceive a baby; how, despite the fact she’s married, she feels passionately about women feeling whole and complete without the need for a relationship and / or a baby; how she sometimes grieves the loss of her single life which she relished for many years in her thirties; and how our happiness does not depend on a partner or a baby because it is, in fact, an inside job.

We also talk about how Lisa came to embark upon her journey of personal development; the concept of mindset, and how changing your mind can change your life; how we can all start to get rid of the limiting beliefs that hold us back from living our best lives; how important it is to meet people where they are when it comes to educating them on all things personal growth; and how so many people will happily spend money on a new car, but are resistant to spending money investing in themselves. 

Lisa and I also discuss her new podcast, Fertility Babe, and how she passionately wants women to realise that their worth and their happiness are not dependent on having a baby; how single women can start to shift the way they think and feel about their lives so that they truly believe that they do not need a partner to complete them; and how there is still an assumption that single, childfree women are in some way lacking until they find the relationship and have the baby.     

Finally, we talk about how annoying the phrase ‘my other half’ is; and how there should be greeting cards congratulating women on being single and childfree!

Follow Lisa on Instagram: @lisa_john_coaching
Follow Lisa's Podcast, Fertility Babe: @fertilitybabe

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On today's minisode I'm talking about gratitude, and the many benefits of consciously and intentionally feeling grateful every day.

I've had a daily gratitude practice for quite some time now, which consists of writing down every morning some of the things - both great and small - that I'm grateful for.

Much research has been done on why making gratitude a part of our daily routine can be extremely beneficial; so if you haven't already embraced this simple yet effective practice, maybe it's time to consider adding it to your list of New Years Resolutions!      

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This week it's another solo jaunt with just moi, and I'm talking - for the second time - about holidaying alone.

I recently returned from a solo trip to L.A., and because travelling alone is so fresh in my mind, I thought it was an opportune moment to remind you why going on holiday on your own can be all kinds of fabulous.

In this episode, I talk about how I spent my time during 7 days solo in L.A. (although full disclosure: three of them were spent at a retreat). I tell you about my 'interesting' journey from the airport to my Airbnb, the beautiful neighbourhood of Laurel Canyon where I stayed, a day spent in gorgeous Malibu,  as well as the random man who showed me his incredible view on my final evening in Los Angeles...!

Although travelling solo can seem nerve-wracking to some, I firmly believe that it can also be life-affirming and exciting.  

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In this week's minisode, I'm talking about how important it is to be intentional with our time.

Life is short, time is precious. We all know this in theory. But...do we actually take it seriously and ensure that we're using our time in the best possible ways? Or are we, in fact, frittering much of it away on distractions that aren't really adding value to our lives?

Of course we're allowed to spend time scrolling on social media, or bingeing on Netflix; but should we perhaps be more mindful about spending more time on the things that will actually move the needle in the direction of the lives we want?

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Here's the link to my amazing planner!!!
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Clever-Fox-Planner-Schedule-Productivity/dp/B0853BRKPS/ref=asc_df_B0853BRKPS/?tag=googshopuk-21&linkCode=df0&hvadid=500815014184&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=17155315298760721642&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9045909&hvtargid=pla-1007090220884&psc=1 

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In this week's episode of Spinsterhood Reimagined, I talk to Californian-born Syrian poet, writer and author, Dania Ayah Alkhouli. 

In this episode, Dania and I talk about the fact that she is very vocal about not wanting children; her Muslim upbringing and how so many people misunderstand the Quran in terms of what it actually says about having children; her darling Dad, who passed away a few years ago, and how he was very supportive of her decision to not have children; and how she’s been attacked by other Muslims for her views on not becoming a mother.

We also talk about her ex-husband who told his mother that Dania didn’t want children, rather than telling her the truth that it was a decision they had both agreed upon; how people who are secure in their own lives don’t feel compelled to attack the loves of others; women who marry and start a family because it’s the ‘expected’ path, rather than because they’ve actually thought about and subsequently chosen it; and a Syrian friend of Dania’s who expressed that she wouldn’t have had children had it not been ‘mandated’.

Our conversation also encompasses Dania’s thoughts on whether, in some cases, post-partum depression might actually be more about the realisation of what it truly means to have children; how it’s important to create a safe space for women to talk about their decision around whether or not they actually want to have a baby; and how there needs to be better awareness and education around what it truly means to become a parent. 

Finally, we talk about Dania’s experience of online dating as a woman who doesn’t want children; and the three poetry books she has written and published, as well as the fourth which is yet to be published. 

Follow Dania on Instagram: @lady_narrator

Follow Dania & her Mum's non-profit, A Country Called Syria: @acountrycalledsyria

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UK Link to Dania's book, Contortionist Tongue:
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Contortionist-Tongue-Dania-Ayah-Alkhouli/dp/1733949364

US link to Dania's book, Contortionist Tongue:
https://www.amazon.com/Books-Dania-Ayah-Alkhouli/s?rh=n%3A283155%2Cp_27%3ADania+Ayah+Alkhouli

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In this week's minisode, I'm talking about age.

I recently heard someone say this: "To me, there’s two ages. There’s alive, and there’s dead. So if you’re alive, it’s your time." Isn't that inspiring?!

I think that many of us hold ourselves back because of our beliefs about what we can / cannot do, or should / should not do based on our age.

But instead of worrying that we're 'too old' to change careers, run a marathon, or meet a new partner, perhaps we should all just do whatever we feel called to do, feel capable of doing, or simply just want to do. Because after all...there are no rules and life is short!

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In this week's episode of Spinsterhood Reimagined, I talk to childfree pioneer, teacher and author, Marcia Drut-Davis.

In this episode, Marcia and I talk about her appearance on US TV News show, 60 Minutes, and its aftermath, including how she lost her job as a highly sought-after substitute teacher; and the impact that not wanting children had on her mother-in-law.

We also talk about Marcia’s ‘daughter’ and ‘grand-daughter’ friends who are a big part of her life; her thoughts on when and how she realised she didn’t want children; and the book ‘The Baby Trap’ by Ellen Peck which had a profound effect on her life.

Marcia and I also chat about her recent 80th birthday; how the incredible freedom of being childfree has been one of the greatest advantages of her life; and how many parents interpret the freedom of being childfree as ‘selfish’.

Our conversation also encompasses the two documentaries, To Kid Or Not To Kid and My So-Called Selfish Life, that Marcia has been involved in; her experience of parents who have come to discover that the ‘fairytale’ of having children could not be further from the truth; and how pro-natalism has much to answer for when it comes to societal expectations around having a family. 

Finally, we talk about the difference between identifying as ‘childfree’ or ‘childless’; and the two books that she’s written, ‘Confessions Of A Childfree Woman’ and ‘What?! You Don’t Want Children?’ 

Follow Marcia on Instagram: @childfree_guru

Follow Marcia on Twitter: @MarciaDrutDavis

Link to Marcia’s book, Confessions Of A Childfree Woman on Amazon UK:
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Confessions-Childfree-Woman-Swimming-Mainstream-ebook/dp/B00C9RHQHC

Link to Marcia’s book, What?! You Don’t Want Children? on Amazon UK:
https://www.amazon.co.uk/What-Dont-Want-Children-Understanding-ebook/dp/B082LNP9D8 

Link to Marcia’s book, Confessions Of A Childfree Woman on Amazon US:
https://www.amazon.com/Confessions-Childfree-Woman-Swimming-Mainstream-ebook/dp/B00C9RHQHC 

Link to Marcia’s book, What?! You Don’t Want Children? on Amazon US:
https://www.amazon.com/What-Dont-Want-Children-Understanding/dp/1646693507
 

To Kid Or Not To Kid (Documentary) website:
https://www.tokidornottokid.com/ 

My So-Called Selfish Life (upcoming documentary) website:
https://myselfishlife.com/ 

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In this week's minisode, I'm talking about four podcasts that I'm currently loving, and have been loving for quite some time.

It may not surprise you to learn that they're all in the category of personal growth, but...please don't let that put you off. They will all leave you feeling inspired, motivated and uplifted - and who doesn't want to feel all of those things?!

If you're looking for a podcast that will fill your ears with life-enhancing content, be sure to give this minisode a listen - it's only little!

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