To Succeed... Just Let Go

Everything bad in your life comes from thought. You need to not think. I didn't say that you need to stop thinking, I said that you need to not think. And there's a difference, a huge difference and it is the difference that will transform your life.

No more "I don't think that I can do that". No more "I think I wouldn't get away with saying that". No more "What will other people think of me". Too much thinking.

We're at our best as human beings when we're not thinking - when we are, as the name suggests, just being.

So... in this episode we're exploring how to simply and effortlessly be, how to kiss all your cares and worries goodbye, how to experience Flow and how to allow all the best in life simply "fall into your lap".

You'll learn about not just seeing the light but being the light - we're talking hard science here.

You'll learn how to allow yourself flow so that you do what you thought you couldn't do, say what you thought you couldn't get away with and, as a result, amaze yourself.

Prepare to be amazed.

Yes, we're talking about family in this episode: family relationships, dysfunctional families, family feuds, normal crazy people behaving... normally!

We could come at it from the perspective of sibling rivalry, parental shortcomings - something we recently explored in The Age of Adolescence - or the so-called "Developmental Niche". But, forget all that, we need to look at it through the knowledge that you already have from listening to this podcast.

In short, we address how to navigate your way through what, for many (even if they won't admit it by papering over the cracks) is something akin to a minefield.

We address how to look after yourself - you are the most important person in your life - and how to come to a place where, if the "normal crazies" are open to it, everyone can be a winner.

Most importantly, we address family dynamics from the perspective of your own energy and flow, bearing in mind, as we explored a couple of weeks ago, your free-flowing energy might just help others flow too.

You may not like what you hear in this episode for over 90% of illness is a result of lifestyle choices - in other words, most illnesses are self-inflicted.

Of course, like everything else in life, the great news is... if you're the problem, you're also the solution.

And this episode explores how this actually works in practice. More than that, it provides you with the one simple step that we can all take towards a happier and healthier life.

We explore the interplay between genetics - often the lame excuse that normal crazy people use to explain their lifestyle-induced medical conditions - and lifestyle choices.

And, as we explain in this video, there is, of course, an interplay between the two but it all boils down to this: when it comes to illness or potential illness, genetics "loads the gun, lifestyle pulls the trigger".

What lifestyle choices are we talking about? Well, in actual fact, there's just the one!

Yes, as always, why would I complicate the simple... the one and only choice that we all need to get right is whether or not we're in control of our own state of mind because, when we are, we'll get all the other choices right.

And, again as always, we explain exactly how to make that one lifestyle choice and, for starters, how getting that choice right will totally reconfigure your physical health.

But that's only for starters.

This is an episode about being a good parent. Being a good parent starts with being a loving person, a person that loves oneself. Actually, being a good parent is simply about... being.

In this episode, we explore development psychology, what happens during the third year of our lives, what parents, entirely unwittingly because they're not properly present, do to their children... obviously being completely unaware of it.

We explore adolescence - not the Netflix series although what happens in the Netflix series provides a useful foil for the subject matter of this episode. We explore adolescence in the context of how, if we have done things to our children when they were growing up, we can undo those things.

The lessons are simple - it's never too late to love: to love yourself and truly love your "loved ones". It's never too late to raise the lives of those around you by raising your own game, by becoming properly present.

And, of course, it's never to late for anything because... all we have is now - this is where and when we need to be at our best, to do our best, to create a better world.

This episode goes beyond caring in a variety of different ways.

First of all, most people don't care about themselves first of all! You are the most important person in your life and, if you don't care for yourself, you're in no position to care for anyone else.

Not just that, if you don't care for yourself, you're currently missing and will continue to miss your own life.

But we go further beyond caring in this episode because, it's only when you literally "go beyond caring" that all that's best starts flowing for you.

In this context, caring is synonymous with wondering - "when will my Perfect Moment happen?" - which leads to worrying, which leads to frustration, which leads back into the dark vortex created by thought that divorces you from the here and now where, if you've gone beyond caring, you'll simply be aware of and embrace the opportunities or synchronicities that will allow all good things "fall into your lap".

Laced with a few good, practical, stories - from people who, having gone beyond caring, have had their "ideal" scenarios "just happen" - this episode is like a user's manual on how to great your ideal life.

Well, actually, this episode is about so much more than that!

Manifestation is grossly misunderstood, dare I say it, grossly... mis-sold.

You are already good at "manifesting" - because, not only can everyone do it, everyone is manifesting - all of the time.

It's just that most people - unaware "normal crazy people" - are manifesting what they don't want!

So, what is manifesting? How can you manifest what you actually want? Or, more to the point and better again, how can you manifest what's best for you?

All your questions about manifesting and manifestation are answered in juts over thirty minutes. Worth a listen...

Everything that's wrong in your life comes from thought. All good things flow, when you're in flow.

In this episode we explore how people get stuck, how they can be paralysed by fear to the point of panic, how people end up by putting themselves in the nearest cardiac unit.

For example, the physical effects of stress are very real indeed but the root cause is imagined - an automatic flurry of thoughts that tigger all the wrong things to happen in your body.

A mind that is ill at ease creates a body of disease.

Never mind. It's all normal and it will pass!

All you have to do is not think - we're at our very best when we're not thinking.

Then, you can tune in to what's going on, notice the synchronicities, allow yourself be guided by them in harmony with your gut instinct and... do.

And the doing comes effortlessly. All good things flow when you're in flow.

This episode starts by exploring the feelings and sentiments of a bruised and battered leadership team - and their discovery that they had something to celebrate.

Life throws us curved balls every day. For most (read "Normal Crazy People"), the automatic way in which the thinking mind reacts only magnifies life's everyday challenges, making dealing with them all the more difficult.

For starters, in this episode, we celebrate coping. When we cope with a challenge - or, to put it in proper terms, when we rise to a challenge and deal with it - we provide ourselves with an important opportunity to encourage ourselves to move forward in our lives.

Coping produces Perfect Moments. And, yet, coping is just the beginning.

When you take control of your state of mind, when you stop thinking and start acting, when you "go beyond caring", you're ready for real action. And every, however small, demonstration of real action encourages us to "trust the process".

This "process" is one where, by taking control of our state of mind, we become action heroes - no more thinking and overthinking, no more making the simple complex, no more questioning our ability to change our lives. We just do.

And, when we just do - starting with coping - we learn to trust a process that is, in fact, a process in developing our ability to trust ourselves.

There's an inner you that you can trust implicitly - explicitly. This inner you rises from within when you rise to the occasion of the here and now.

It's time to liberate that inner you.

Imagine investing your attention, focus and energy in what you don't want to happen.

You don't need to imagine - it's something that comes naturally to the normal crazy mind - it's called worry.

And only an idiot would go there. But, we're all idiots until we take responsibility for what's going on in our head and take control of our state of mind.

In this episode, we explore how thinking leads to over-thinking, how wondering leads to worrying, we explore the delusional dangers of positive thinking and, obviously, we consider the detailed instructions on how to take that responsibility and control that leads to an end of worry, an end to stress and the beginning of an everyday experience of everyday life that is... a joy to behold.

We explore how taking control of your state of mind is actually simple, an easy task: you don't have to fight the thoughts in your head that lead to worry, you don't even have to fight the 1.8m years of evolution that designed your mind to err in the negative.

You simply have to allow yourself be. And, to do that, you can simply use the everyday tasks at hand to... change your life beyond recognition.

And, oh, beware of red BMWs!

You don't find flow, nor peace of mind... they find you.

In this episode, we explore how to allow this happen - it is, as the very title of this whole podcast would suggest, a process of letting go.

Before we get into that, though, we explore what flow is, in actuality, in practical terms and we explore the nature of peace of mind and its implications.

We learn that, with peace of mind, comes an understanding, an experience of not having a care in the world. And we learn that, with flow, not only do we discover that we can do what we need to do effortlessly, we discover that we can do things that we never imagined ourselves doing or being capable of doing.

We discover how to live the kind of life our heart desires, without having to work hard to get there or, perhaps, without having to work... at all.