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Top 10 Signs You Have A Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style
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If you resonate with intense emotional highs and lows in relationships, fear both abandonment and commitment, or feel overwhelmed by closeness yet terrified of distance, you may have a Fearful Avoidant (Disorganized) Attachment Style.
This episode breaks down the signs, clearly, compassionately, and at the subconscious level, so you can finally understand what’s happening inside you and how to heal it.
Episode Summary
Fearful avoidant attachment is one of the most emotionally complex attachment styles, often shaped by early experiences of inconsistency, chaos, or unpredictability in relationships. In this episode, Thais Gibson walks through the top 10 signs of fearful avoidant attachment, explaining why these patterns form and how they show up in adult relationships.
You’ll learn why fearful avoidants flip-flop between closeness and distance, struggle with emotional regulation and boundaries, jump to worst-case conclusions, and experience deep guilt, shame, and empathy—all while longing for safety and connection. Most importantly, you’ll discover how somatic healing and nervous-system regulation can help you feel secure, grounded, and emotionally safe again.
Key Takeaways
Why fearful avoidants fear abandonment and commitment
How activation–deactivation cycles form in relationships
Why you may push people away even when you want closeness
The link between empathy, boundary struggles, and emotional overwhelm
Why vulnerability can feel unsafe—even when you’re sharing
How guilt, shame, and emotional dysregulation develop
Why somatic healing is essential for lasting attachment repair
Timestamps
00:00:00 – Intro
00:01:47 – Sign #1: Flip-Flopping Between Fear of Abandonment and Commitment
00:04:38 – Sign #2: Actively Pushing Away
00:05:19 – Sign #3: Jump to Worst-Case Conclusions
00:07:24 – Sign #4: Terrified of Feeling Helpless
00:08:49 – Sign #5: Tend to Be Highly Empathetic
00:11:12 – Sign #6: Struggle with Boundaries
00:12:21 – Sign #7: Difficulty Regulating Emotion
00:13:35 – 7-Day Free Trial + Somatic Course
00:15:01 – Sign #8: May Seem Vulnerable without Actually Sharing
00:17:10 – Sign #9: Frequently Experience Guilt and Shame
00:17:50 – Sign #10: Strong Activation-Deactivation
Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1
📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/
Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
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Get the Somatic Attachment Healing Course Free for Life When You Start Your 7-Day Trial of the All-Access Pass:
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/somatic-attachment-healing?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=somatic-attachment-healing&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-02-02-26&el=podcast
If you resonate with intense emotional highs and lows in relationships, fear both abandonment and commitment, or feel overwhelmed by closeness yet terrified of distance, you may have a Fearful Avoidant (Disorganized) Attachment Style.
This episode breaks down the signs, clearly, compassionately, and at the subconscious level, so you can finally understand what’s happening inside you and how to heal it.
Episode Summary
Fearful avoidant attachment is one of the most emotionally complex attachment styles, often shaped by early experiences of inconsistency, chaos, or unpredictability in relationships. In this episode, Thais Gibson walks through the top 10 signs of fearful avoidant attachment, explaining why these patterns form and how they show up in adult relationships.
You’ll learn why fearful avoidants flip-flop between closeness and distance, struggle with emotional regulation and boundaries, jump to worst-case conclusions, and experience deep guilt, shame, and empathy—all while longing for safety and connection. Most importantly, you’ll discover how somatic healing and nervous-system regulation can help you feel secure, grounded, and emotionally safe again.
Key Takeaways
Why fearful avoidants fear abandonment and commitment
How activation–deactivation cycles form in relationships
Why you may push people away even when you want closeness
The link between empathy, boundary struggles, and emotional overwhelm
Why vulnerability can feel unsafe—even when you’re sharing
How guilt, shame, and emotional dysregulation develop
Why somatic healing is essential for lasting attachment repair
Timestamps
00:00:00 – Intro
00:01:47 – Sign #1: Flip-Flopping Between Fear of Abandonment and Commitment
00:04:38 – Sign #2: Actively Pushing Away
00:05:19 – Sign #3: Jump to Worst-Case Conclusions
00:07:24 – Sign #4: Terrified of Feeling Helpless
00:08:49 – Sign #5: Tend to Be Highly Empathetic
00:11:12 – Sign #6: Struggle with Boundaries
00:12:21 – Sign #7: Difficulty Regulating Emotion
00:13:35 – 7-Day Free Trial + Somatic Course
00:15:01 – Sign #8: May Seem Vulnerable without Actually Sharing
00:17:10 – Sign #9: Frequently Experience Guilt and Shame
00:17:50 – Sign #10: Strong Activation-Deactivation
Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1
📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/
Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
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