Trauma Rewired

When a child's needs aren't being met by their caregiver, by not being fed or feeling safe, they develop a distorted view of relationships. This attachment schema is the lens through which they examine the behavior of others, impacting their ability to form relationships and lead a healthy, happy life.

In past episodes, hosts Jennifer and Elisabeth have talked about connection being one of our survival needs, but an insecure attachment directly challenges this need. Being close to others, feeling vulnerable and connected, can also be very dysregulating to those who learned to survive with unemotional or unreliable caregivers.

So, how can you overcome your learned patterns to create healthy relationships with yourself and others? The answer is nervous system training.

In this episode, Jennifer and Elisabeth will walk you through attachment schema, how the three insecure attachment styles develop and show up as behavioral outputs, and how nervous system regulation has helped them work toward lasting change.

Tune in for all this and more!

Topics discussed in this episode:

• Attachment style from the NSI perspective

• How insecure attachment schema affects social development

• Nervous system regulation as a way to change our patterns

• The areas of the brain responsible for creating neuro tags

• How the 3 insecure attachment styles develop and are expressed

• Misconceptions about avoidant attachment style

• Disorganized attachment and complex trauma

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Head to https://calendly.com/traumarewired/consultation for a consultation to identify trauma responses in your own life and learn how to train your nervous system to move out of behaviors that aren't serving you!

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Trauma Rewired has talked a lot about threat, including its neurobiology, what happens in the body when we don't feel safe, and how a history of trauma affects what we perceive as a threat.

In this episode with Victor Jones, a resilience educator and neurosomatic intelligence coach, we dive deeper into threat, focusing on our relationship with others and society as a whole, as well as how trauma impacts our ability to regulate our nervous system. For example, connection is a survival need but feelings of vulnerability and intimacy can be threatening to the nervous system of those with a history of trauma. This inability to connect not only affects the health of an individual, but also the bond and trust within society.

The good news is that neurosomatic intelligence is a powerful tool that can help you settle your nervous system, allow you to connect, and live a life in line with your ethics. As we cover topics like stacked trauma and co-regulation, Victor and hosts Jennifer and Elisabeth all share their personal journeys to feeling safe in their body, and regulating their nervous system when they experience threat — something that's nearly impossible to avoid in our dysregulating world.

Victor advocates for everyone to learn the language of the nervous system, teaching NSI tools to help people in his community in the hopes of driving more compassion in our world.

If you want to get out of survival mode and start helping others around you too, tune in now!

Topics discussed in this episode:

• Victor's and Elisabeth's journey to discovering NSI

• How Victor's childhood affected his relationship with himself and the world

• The threat and safety of finding connection

• The consequences of being consistently exposed to threat

• Nervous system regulation as a means to help yourself and others

• How Victor is bringing NSI tools into the community

• How NSI work can help first responders and high-trauma fields

Get started training your nervous system with our FREE 2-week offer:

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Learn more about the Neuro-Somatic Intelligence Coaching program here: https://www.neurosomaticintelligence.com/?utm_medium=aff-traumarewired&utm_content&utm_source

Connect with us on social media:

@trauma.rewired

Connect with Victor Jones

[email protected]

Rocky Mount, NC 27804

252-382-0682

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Spiritual practices, like meditation or spending time outdoors, have the ability to expand our consciousness and cultivate connection with ourselves and the universe.

But today’s guest, NSI practitioner and educator Melanie Weller, is sharing something important for you to remember: “Any evolution that we aspire to experience for ourselves starts with nervous system regulation.”

To get the most out of your spiritual practices, for them to truly impact behavior and change your perspective, you must have the capacity and resiliency to experience moments of “awe” or stress without dysregulation. That’s why Melanie and hosts Jennifer and Elisabeth are diving deeper into the power of nervous system regulation, sharing how presence and embodiment transformed their own healing practices and resulted in expanded spirituality and self-expression.

This episode also covers the science behind loneliness and our health, how cosmology affects the nervous system, and the concepts of species loneliness and fearless presence. Nervous system regulation IS the path to spirituality and the divine. Tune in to learn more!

Topics discussed in this episode:

• The connection between cosmology and our bodies

• How nervous system regulation transformed Elisabeth’s healing practices

• Species loneliness

• The power of intention in NSI work

• How astrology impacts the nervous system

• Presence, nervous system regulation, and spirituality

• Reducing stress on the body by giving meaning to your trauma

• The role of empathy and embodiment for healers

• Personality as a nervous system output

• Finding spirit in nature

• Fearless presence and how to reach it

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Learn more about the Neuro-Somatic Intelligence Coaching program here: https://www.neurosomaticintelligence.com/?utm_medium=aff-traumarewired&utm_content&utm_source

Connect with us on social media:

@trauma.rewired

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Head to https://calendly.com/traumarewired/consultation for a consultation to identify trauma responses in your own life and learn how to train your nervous system to move out of behaviors that aren’t serving you!

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How do you show up in the world, in relationships, at work? Even just sitting in a sauna. Can you safely say you are fully present in these situations? If you feel you aren't present most of the time, you're not alone. Most people aren't, especially if you've experienced complex trauma. On the bright side, presence can be learned by using the right tools to get you there. Presence is a topic that is near and dear to our hosts Jennifer and Elisabeth's hearts, precisely because of how they both struggled to be present after experiencing trauma, but also the gift presence provided them in all aspects of life once re-learned. In today's episode, Jennifer and Elisabeth discuss how not being present, repressing emotions and dissociation can lead to health issues and deteriorate relationships. While offering the tools required to become present to live a fulfilling and healthy life with secure attachment styles in relationships.

This episode dives deep into the science behind presence as well as what happens when you are in your body for the first time in a long time and how using the tools provided in the NSI training can help. Understanding how your brain operates when it is fully present and how it affects your body, while having tools to help you get there, can literally put years back on to your life.

Tune in for this and more!

Topics discussed in this episode:

• How Jennifer and Elisabeth define presence

• Why presence is important for healing complex traumas

• Empowerment that comes from presence

• How presence is a time expander

• What is a trigger?

• How intentional training can lead to presence

• The time it takes to cultivate full presence in the body

• The struggle behind showing up in the world differently

• Health implications behind repressed emotion and not being present

• One big reason to start being present: a study on telomeres

• Why it is important to work with your interoceptive system

• Re-patterning of relationship attachment style

Get started training your nervous system with our FREE 2-week offer:

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Learn more about the Neuro-Somatic Intelligence Coaching program here: https://www.neurosomaticintelligence.com/?utm_medium=aff-traumarewired&utm_content&utm_source

Connect with us on social media:

@trauma.rewired

Join the Trauma Rewired Facebook Group! https://www.facebook.com/groups/761101225132846

Head to https://calendly.com/traumarewired/consultation for a consultation to identify trauma responses in your own life and learn how to train your nervous system to move out of behaviors that aren't serving you!

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Following our episode on embodiment, we're diving into the topics of parts of self, sex and pleasure because without presence, we are cheating ourselves out of healthy relationships and empowered sexual experiences.

Hosts Jennifer and Elisabeth have brought back Dr. Joli Hamilton, relationship coach and sex educator, to help them further examine how the relationship with our parts of self impact the way we behave towards ourselves and others.

A disconnection between our parts of self causes dysregulation, a lack of safety and intimacy in relationships, and even projection. But in this episode, you'll learn how to have conversations with your parts of self, how to take ownership of your orgasm, and how NSI practices can help you heal.

We also discuss the concept of multiplicity, how trauma affects our ability to connect with our parts, and if dissociation during sex and sexual fawning changes the rules of consent. Plus, can a cervical orgasm stimulate the vagus nerve?

Listen in as we share the NSI tools that have helped us regulate our nervous system and connect with our body!

Topics discussed in this episode:

• Honoring your parts of self by giving them a voice

• Projection of our disintegrated parts onto others

• What we've gained from using NSI tools

• Exploring pleasure and improving intimacy

• The connection between nervous system regulation and orgasm

• Dissociation during sex, sexual fawning and consent

Learn more about the Neuro-Somatic Intelligence Coaching program here: https://www.neurosomaticintelligence.com/?utm_medium=aff-traumarewired&utm_content&utm_source

Learn more about Dr. Joli Hamilton and her work at https://www.jolihamilton.com

Interested in exploring your sexual self in Dr. Joli's Sexual Shadow Masterclass? Head to sexualshadowmasterclass.com for more information!

Get started training your nervous system with our FREE 2-week offer:

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Head to https://calendly.com/traumarewired/consultation for a consultation to identify trauma responses in your own life and learn how to train your nervous system to move out of behaviors that aren't serving you!

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Embodiment has many different meanings, but to be embodied from a neurosomatic intelligence perspective relates to the integration of the body, mind and spirit. It means you are aware of the connection between your body and its internal sensations, your emotions, and your behaviors.

Sharing her journey to embodiment and how she uses it in her work as a mindset coach is Tracy Litt, speaker and founder of The Litt Factor. Tracy is also a bestselling author and her new book, "Expander: For Trailblazing Women Building a New World," outlines the damaging paradigms that hold us back and what we can do to replace them.

In this episode, Tracy helps us look at embodiment through the lens of neurosomatic intelligence, including how it impacts our relationships, career, and health. You'll learn more about dissociation, what keeps us from feeling and being in our bodies, and how emotional expression will transform your life.

There is a natural fear to change and embodiment, but you have to remember that YOU are the creator of your own life. Tune in to find out how to start healing through nervous system work!

Topics discussed in this episode:

• What embodiment truly means

• Embodiment as necessary for change

• Our personal paths to embodiment

• The importance of slowing down

• What disconnects women to their bodies

• The freedom of emotional expression

• Training your nervous system to safely process emotions

• How Tracy uses NSI tools to help clients

• Tracy's new book, Expander

• What Tracy took away from the NSI Certification course

Learn more about Tracy Litt and her company, The Litt Factor! www.thelittfactor.com

Read Tracy's FREE eBook, Expander: For Trailblazing Women Building a New World!

https://www.theexpanderbook.com/

Want to learn more about neurosomatic intelligence, and how it can help you and your clients?

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In order to talk about boundaries, we must first understand what they are and why they're important. That's why we start off this episode with a definition by somatic practitioner, Prentis Hemphill: "Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously."

Joining hosts Jennifer and Elisabeth for a second time is Margy Feldhuhn, CEO of Interview Connections and neurosomatic intelligence coach. They'll explore the role of boundaries in our lives, including how they open the door for authentic self-expression and deeper relationships.

You'll also learn more about codependency, fawn response, the neuroscience of emotions, how boundaries cause disease, and the connection between attachment and the ability to set and respect boundaries.

Tune in as we dive deeper into boundaries, and find out how you can use NSI tools to feel safe enough to discover and express your boundaries!

Topics discussed in this episode:

• Why boundaries are so important

• Boundaries and our need for connection versus autonomy

• How the 3 F's lead to self-abandonment and lack of boundaries

• Self-expression and authenticity

• What leads to codependency

• Margy's experience with quiet manipulation

• Cultural body boundary violations

• The neuroscience of emotions and emotional processing

• Respecting other people's boundaries

• The impact of emotional neglect on our ability to set/receive boundaries

• How boundaries affect our emotional and physical healthy

• Using neurosomatic tools to move stress through the body

Get more information on Margy Feldhoun's company, Interview Connections, here: https://interviewconnections.com

Connect with Margy:

https://www.instagram.com/heymargy/ https://www.tiktok.com/@heymargy

Get started training your nervous system with our FREE 2-week offer:

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Learn more about the Neuro-Somatic Intelligence Coaching program here: https://www.neurosomaticintelligence.com/?utm_medium=aff-traumarewired&utm_content&utm_source

Connect with us on social media:

@trauma.rewired

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Head to https://calendly.com/traumarewired/consultation for a consultation to identify trauma responses in your own life and learn how to train your nervous system to move out of behaviors that aren't serving you!

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Believe it or not, the brain and nervous system process social threat and physical threat the same way, making them equally as harmful to our health. That means that the cultural beliefs that shape our society are causing real trauma and dysregulating our nervous systems.

Today, Jennifer and Elisabeth are talking to Christy Chung, a certified NSI practitioner, advocate and healer, on this episode centered around culture, community, and the nervous system. They discuss how social stressors (such as gender, sexual orientation, race, socioeconomic status, etc.) can cause unsafe relationships with people and society, and the NSI tools that have helped Christy in her racial equity work, as well as on a personal level as a queer, Asian woman.

Christy also sheds light on the impact that long-term social threat, especially racism, has on the health of those affected. Plus,you'll learn a few interesting facts you might not know — like how culture has shaped our anatomy and biased our brains!

This episode is a must-listen for anyone who wants to find out how they can not only support their own nervous system and stay healthy, but change the harmful system of our society. Tune in now!

Topics discussed in this episode:

• Christy's businesses and activist work

• Unsafe relationships with people, society, and culture

• Dealing with conflict and repair work with NSI

• The relationship between social stress and attachment

• Minority stress theory and social safety theory

• The impact of chronic stress on the body from an NSI perspective

• Examples of how culture shapes brain function

• How Christy uses NSI tools in her work and personal life

• Making an impact and sacred responsibility

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Sonya Renee Taylor

Gabor Maté

"The neurobiology of social stress resulting from Racism: Implications for pain disparities among racialized minorities" by Joanna M. Hobson, Myles D. Moody, Robert E. Sorge, and Burel R. Goodin

The Neuroscience of Human Relationships: Attachment and the Developing Social Brain by Louis Cozolino

Want to learn more about neurosomatic intelligence, and how it can help you and your clients? Join our free workshop with Matt Bush and Melanie Weller on July 27th!

https://neurosomaticintelligence.com/?utm_medium=aff-traumarewired&utm_content&utm_source

Get started training your nervous system with our FREE 2-week offer:

https://www.rewiretrial.com

Learn more about the Neuro-Somatic Intelligence Coaching program here: https://www.neurosomaticintelligence.com/?utm_medium=aff-traumarewired&utm_content&utm_source

Connect with us on social media:

@trauma.rewired

Join the Trauma Rewired Facebook Group! https://www.facebook.com/groups/761101225132846

Head to https://calendly.com/traumarewired/consultation for a consultation to identify trauma responses in your own life and learn how to train your nervous system to move out of behaviors that aren't serving you!

FREE 1 Year Supply of Vitamin D + 5 Travel Packs from Athletic Greens when you use my exclusive offer: https://www.drinkag1.com/rewired This episode was produced by Podcast Boutique https://www.podcastboutique.com

Our last episode introduced the brain as a social organ, and how this topic relates to the neurobiology of relationships. Today, we dive deeper into how the brain develops through social interactions, why social connection is a survival need, and what happens in the body when we experience connection with other people.

Matt Bush of Next Level Neuro is joining Jennifer and Elisabeth to discuss the impact of trauma on the brain's functioning, and therefore, our relationships, expression, sense of safety, and overall health. They talk about what happens when you're not primed for connection in childhood, how the brain is wired to be part of the social structure in relationships, what part of the brain guides us toward dysregulation and protective outputs, and lots more.

If any of this sounds confusing, be sure to listen for Matt's definitions of attachment schema and C-PTSD from a neurosomatic perspective, which make it easier to understand how these systems and inputs come together for integration.

You'll also finally learn why complex trauma is an attachment would, and most importantly, that change is possible and how you can get started NOW. Tune in for all this and more!

Topics discussed in this episode:

• The impact of attachment patterns on brain function
• How the brain develops through social interactions
• The role of the insular cortex
• John Bowlby's attachment theory
• How a mother's nervous system impacts a child's
• The resiliency of our nervous system
• Attachment styles and Bowlby's experiment
• Matt's neurosomatic definition of attachment schema and C-PTSD
• How we can rewire attachment

Want to learn more about neurosomatic intelligence, and how it can help you and your clients? Join our free workshop with Matt Bush and Melanie Weller on July 27th! https://neurosomaticintelligence.com/

Get started training your nervous system with our FREE 2-week offer:

https://www.rewiretrial.com

Connect with us on social media:

@trauma.rewired

Join the Trauma Rewired Facebook Group! https://www.facebook.com/groups/761101225132846

Head to https://calendly.com/traumarewired/consultation for a consultation to identify trauma responses in your own life and learn how to train your nervous system to move out of behaviors that aren't serving you!

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Connect with Matt Bush:

https://www.nextlevelneuro.com/

[email protected]

This episode was produced by Podcast Boutique https://www.podcastboutique.com

Hosts Jennifer and Elisabeth jump right into this season's theme of attachment by discussing the neurobiology of relationships, covering our development from the womb to forming attachments throughout our life.

Using the work of Louis Cozolino in his book, The Neuroscience of Human Relationships: Attachment and the Developing Social Brain, this episode explores the concepts of the social synapse and our brains as social organs. You'll learn how the brain and nervous system evolved to help us communicate, the impact of dysregulation on relationships, and how attachment styles develop and affect social connection.

By the end of this episode, expect to also have a better understanding of how the brain and nervous system work together, the physiological signals that shape our reality and health, why attachment is a survival need, and MORE.

Tune in to discover the power you have to train your nervous system and change your relationship patterns!

Topics discussed in this episode:

• Louis Cozolino's social synapse and the brain's development

• An example of how trauma affects attachment

• Co-regulation from a neurosomatic perspective

• The brain as a social organ

• Blushing and pupil dilation as social signals

• Why training your visual system is so important

• Emotional expression and our physiological releases

• The impact of loneliness on our health

• Why attachment is a survival need

• Attachment styles and how they develop

• How regulating your nervous system improves social connections

Want to learn more about neurosomatic intelligence, and how it can help you and your clients? Join our free workshop with Matt Bush and Melanie Weller on July 27th! https://neurosomaticintelligence.com/

Books mentioned in this episode:

The Neuroscience of Human Relationships: Attachment and the Developing Social Brain by Louis Cozolino

Lost Connections by Johann Hari

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FREE 1 Year Supply of Vitamin D + 5 Travel Packs from Athletic Greens when you use my exclusive offer: https://www.drinkag1.com/rewired This episode was produced by Podcast Boutique https://www.podcastboutique.com