We Can Do Hard Things

TW // eating disorders

1. Glennon’s “final frontier”—her attempt to stop controlling her body.

2. The opportunity costs of a lifetime spent obsessing about our size and shape.

3. How we’ve been taught to fixate over every hair, wrinkle, and pound—but have never been taught how our bodies actually work.

4. How to quit conditioning girls to stay small in body, hunger, ambition, and desire.

5. The tyranny of the weigh-in at the doctor’s office—and why BMI is horseshit. 

1. How Abby learned from church as a child to hate herself—and the healing moment she realized that God and religion are not the same.

2. The miraculous letter Glennon received from a reader the day after she came out. 

3. Glennon’s response to the statement “I disagree with your lifestyle, but I love you anyway.”

4. When it’s time to either raise hell inside of—or leave—the institutions that require us to deny who we are or what we know.

1. How to create lives that we don’t need to escape from.

2. Why our resentment toward others is our Secret Self-Care Signal.

3. Why refusing to be selfless is the best way to care for others and the world.

4. How to stop passing down the brutal legacy of martyrdom to our children.

5. Glennon’s life-changing spiritual practice: Habitual Quitting.

In this episode, in which Abby joins Glennon and Amanda, discover: 

1. How Glennon and Abby realized that each of their recurring Five Fights (about money, food, etc.) are all actually about the exact same thing—and how it all goes back to their childhoods.  

2. The guardrails Abby and Glennon built to protect each other when they fight.  

3. How to handle a relationship in which one partner runs from conflict (Team Abby), and the other rushes toward conflict (Team Glennon).

4. The one red flag that Amanda insists is a relationship-ender.

TW // eating disorders

In the episode discover:

1. How the constant to-do list ticker looping in Amanda's brain makes her feel like a dormant volcano.

2. The job description we've somehow accepted for motherhood—and whether self-abandonment is a job requirement.

3. The way gender expectations even creep into Glennon and Abby's marriage.

4. How to know whether your partner is a co-builder or an assistant.

5. How to make the invisible load of caretaking visible—and potentially bearable.  

TW // abortion, bulimia, addiction 

In this episode discover:  

1. How Amanda protected their sisterhood from Glennon’s addiction.

2. Which of the 12 steps Glennon refused to take.

3. What it took for Amanda to finally quit the wine.  

4. The answer to the Pod Squad’s question about quarantine drinking and how much is too much.  

In this episode—in which Abby confronts my sister and me about our inability to have fun—discover:

1. The one “fun” post that caused more people to unfollow me on social media than any other.

2. Why girls may disassociate early from their ability to access fun.

3. Science’s insistence that when we’re gloomy, rest won’t fix us. We gotta play the blues away.

4. A playlist I created for YOU—if you, like me, need daily help awakening your dormant Fun Self:https://open.spotify.com/user/f50axmsbwkhwq81ttiwovo1yf?si=707cb22232aa4cdf

In this episode, discover:

1. The messed up way my sister Amanda learned her marriage was over -- and how that sabotaged her healing process.

2. How we often cling to unforgiveness because it’s the last connection we have left.  

3. The one question not to ask someone who is recovering from infidelity and what you can say instead.  

In this Episode, discover:

In this episode discover:

1. Glennon’s description of an anxiety attack.

2. The 3 strategies that help her find calm.

3. The original We Can Do Hard Things anthem, written and performed by Glennon's daughter Tish Melton and produced by Brandi Carlile.