The Thais Gibson Podcast

What A Dismissive Avoidant Feels When They Start Dating An Anxious Attachment Style


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When a Dismissive Avoidant starts dating an Anxiously Attached individual, the attraction is instant, but so are the triggers. What begins as magnetic chemistry often becomes a cycle of closeness and withdrawal, as both partners try to meet old needs in new ways that feel both familiar and painful.

In this video, Thais Gibson explores the hidden dynamics between Dismissive Avoidant and Anxious attachment styles during the dating stage, revealing what draws them together, what drives their early challenges, and how they can navigate the push-pull cycle with awareness and communication.

You’ll learn:

✅ Why Dismissive and Anxious types feel such strong initial chemistry
✅ What early needs and wounds this pairing unconsciously fulfills
✅ How their opposite traits — independence vs. connection — create both attraction and conflict
✅ The most common breakdown points in the dating stage
✅ How to recognize and stop the “trigger cycle” that keeps them repeating painful patterns

Episode Breakdown: 

00:00 – When a Dismissive Avoidant Dates An Anxious Attachment Style
01:14 – Exclusive Series for the Entire Month
02:06 – 1. They Are Attracted to Each Other Early On via Trait Variety 
04:20 – Black Friday: 14-Day Trial Promo
04:40 – The Mystery of the Dismissive Avoidants
06:43 – 2. The Dismissive Avoidant’s Unmet Needs From Childhood Are Met When Dating 
07:32 – 3. Anxious Preoccupied Individuals Struggle to Move Slowly in Relationships
09:33 – How They Trigger Each Other 
12:51 – The Neuroscience Behind Dismissive Avoidants and Anxious Preoccupied Individuals 
15:36 – The AP (Anxious Preoccupied)/DA (Dismissive Avoidant) Trigger Cycle  
17:20 – Coming This Month: How to Navigate Relationships

Meet the Host

Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

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