July 14, 2025

What Do Dismissive Avoidants Do With Their Alone Time & What Is This Really About?

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Have you ever wondered what’s really happening when a dismissive avoidant partner withdraws? Why do they need so much alone time—and what does that time actually look like?

In this powerful solo episode, Thais Gibson breaks down the misunderstood reality of dismissive avoidant behavior in their free time. Far from restful or emotionally fulfilling, much of that alone time is spent simply surviving—numbing out, self-soothing, or unconsciously avoiding emotional needs. If you’re trying to understand (or heal from) a relationship with a DA, this episode is essential listening.

You’ll learn:

✅ Why DAs crave time alone—and what’s really happening beneath the surface

✅ The difference between solitude and self-connection

✅ How unmet emotional needs in childhood shape adult self-neglect

✅ What “creature comfort” behaviors are actually regulating

✅ Why intellectual growth often replaces emotional growth for DAs

✅ The connection between emotional suppression and nervous system dysregulation

✅ How to shift from survival mode into healing, growth, and connection

Meet the Host

Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

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