Been There Got Out Podcast

What Reunification Therapy REALLY Is (And Why Courts Get It Wrong)


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🔁 Dr. Premela Deck is back — and this time, she's going deeper.

If you're navigating reunification therapy, supervised visitation, or simply trying to understand why court-ordered therapy isn't fixing anything, this is the conversation you've been waiting for.

Dr. Premela Deck holds a rare trifecta of credentials: she's a family law attorney, a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker (LICSW), and a PhD-level social worker who has spent her career studying high-conflict families. Her practice, ST Family Services in Massachusetts, brings together psychologists, social workers, attorneys, and even a retired judge under one roof.

In this episode, Lisa and Premela do something a little different: they brainstorm the questions that most parents in our community are too scared — or too confused — to ask. And what comes out of that conversation is some of the most practical, grounding guidance we've ever put on this channel.

⏱ TIMESTAMPS

00:00 Introduction — Dr. Premela Deck Returns
00:55 Real client case: the supervised visit that fell apart before it started
04:10 Why court orders and clinical interventions are often in conflict
06:30 The prep work that HAS to happen before any supervised visit
09:00 What you should ACTUALLY tell your child about supervised visitation
11:20 How removing the loyalty bind can unlock the relationship
13:10 Dr. Premela Deck introduces herself and ST Family Services
15:30 The collaborative model: why siloed professionals fail families
17:45 What should a child be told about supervised visits? (Full question)
20:00 How to handle transitions when a child is crying or dysregulated
22:15 "I can't force her — she's traumatized": how to respond to this message
25:10 How parenting plans (and their vagueness) impact reunification
27:30 The silver bullet strategy — and why it blows up cases
30:20 Your attorney is your employee: taking strategic oversight of your case
32:00 Coercive co-parenting: "my ex is abusive — what do I do?"
34:15 What to prepare before meeting a reunification therapist for the first time
36:40 When a child is a teenager: what force is (and isn't) in this work
38:50 Making a good impression on therapists and court professionals
40:30 Who should pay for therapy when "you're the problem"?
42:10 Will a charismatic, narcissistic ex fool the therapist?
44:20 What is a parentectomy?
46:00 "Breadcrumbs": how to keep the door open when you need to step back
48:30 Parental rights vs. children's best interest — when they collide
50:00 Looking ahead: webinars, court order strategy, and what's coming next

#ParentalAlienation #ReunificationTherapy #HighConflictDivorce #CustodyBattle #FamilyTherapy #SupervisedVisitation #NarcissisticAbuse #CoParenting #FamilyCourt #BeenThereGotOut #DrPremelaDeck

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