Most people think boundaries are about control but real boundaries create freedom.

 

In this episode of Awakened Love, we explore what boundaries truly are (and what they’re not). You’ll learn the difference between boundaries, limits, needs, and preferences, and how to protect your truth without shutting down connection.

 

I’ll also walk you through the Four Rs of Repair: a simple framework for what to do when a boundary has been crossed, so you can rebuild trust without blame, control, or withdrawal.

 

Whether you’re navigating conflict with a partner, friend, or family member, this conversation will help you find the space between rigidity and surrender, where intimacy can actually grow.

 

00:00 — Boundaries Aren’t Rules, They’re Clarity

00:11 — Boundaries Aren’t Rules, They’re Clarity
Why boundaries are about knowing yourself — not controlling others.

01:32 — Boundary vs. Limit: What Most People Get Wrong
How to recognise the difference and why rigidity often masks fear.

04:28 — Compromise Without Self-Abandonment
Learning the art of flex space — protecting your truth and connection.

07:12 — Needs vs. Preferences: The Real Source of Relationship Tension
How confusing the two leads to conflict — and what true needs actually are.

10:45 — Intimacy Begins Where Defensiveness Ends
Dropping deeper than “being right” to find the truth underneath.

13:14 — Boundaries, Limits, Needs, and Preferences: A Simple Framework
A clear map to navigate safety, self-expression, and relational harmony.

14:02 — The Four Rs of Repair: Rebuilding Trust After a Boundary Breach
Recognise, Reveal, Reinstate, Rebuild — how to heal after conflict.

17:48 — Repair Without Control or Withdrawal
How to invite collaboration instead of blame, silence, or ultimatums.

18:24 — Why Boundary Work Is the Gateway to True Intimacy
The heart of awakened love — where self-responsibility meets freedom.

 

 

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Boundary work is at the heart of my coaching. Whether it’s private couples work or my women’s coaching containers. It’s what allows intimacy to be both deep and free.

 

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