This week on What’s Your Position, we’re talking erections, testosterone, ancient gods, and a smart cock ring that tracks your nighttime performance. Yes, really. Ashley sits down with Dr. Elliot Justin, ER physician and founder of FirmTech, the company behind the TechRing, to unpack why erections are more than a bedroom issue. They’re a window into men’s health, sleep, blood flow, and confidence. Along the way, we get into real data, real science, and why erectile health might be one of the most ignored early warning systems in the body. We also discuss what's new at FirmTech in the way of women's orgasmic health!

This episode takes some delightful, unexpected detours. From testosterone myths to Aphrodite, from quantified pleasure to philosophical musings on masculinity, this conversation zigzags in the best possible way. It’s smart, strange, sexy, occasionally unhinged, and deeply informative. If you like your sex ed with science, sass, and a little “wait… what did he just say?” energy, this one’s for you.

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Hello Humans! Ever wondered how to take sex to the next level in your relationship?

Well this episode is pure joy. 💛 I got to sit down with one of my absolute heroes, Dr. Nicole McNichols, and it somehow managed to be deeply insightful, nerdy as hell, laugh-out-loud fun, and genuinely moving all at once. Nicole is the powerhouse behind the largest human sexuality course in Washington state, a brilliant educator who creates spaces where people feel safe asking the questions they’ve been carrying for years. We talk pleasure as health, why so many of us were never taught the foundations of good sex, the myths that just won’t die, and her brilliant Hierarchy of Sexual Needs that honestly should be required learning for all adults. This conversation felt like sitting in the front row of your favorite class with a professor who makes you feel seen, curious, and way less alone.

We also dive into her brand-new book, You Could Be Having Better Sex, out February 3rd, which is a science-backed, shame-free, permission-slip-of-a-book about reconnecting with your sexual self and remembering that pleasure isn’t indulgent, it’s essential. This episode is full of love, laughter, honesty, and those “oh wow…that explains so much” moments. Do yourself a favor: listen, grab the book, and go follow her on Instagram @nicolethesexprofessor. You’re going to want more of Nicole in your life.

There was a time when Rae woke up every single day and cried.

And then one day… she didn’t.

In this deeply honest, brave, and beautiful episode, Rae shares what it was like to get married in her 20s, spend nearly a decade inside a life that slowly stopped fitting, and ultimately make the hardest decision of her life: to leave. We talk about the grief of divorce, the shame society puts on women who choose themselves, and the quiet fear of starting over when you’ve spent so long being someone’s wife.

But this isn’t a story about failure.

We talk about strength you don’t know you have until you’re forced to find it. About reclaiming your body, your voice, and your identity. About dating again, rediscovering desire, and learning who you are when you’re no longer shrinking to survive. We talk about the moment you realize the pain isn’t permanent. That the crying doesn’t last forever.

Rae’s story is a reminder that divorce is not the end of a life.

This episode is a swan song. A love letter to anyone who has grieved a marriage, questioned their worth, or wondered if choosing themselves was a mistake. It wasn’t. And Rae is living proof.

Listener note: We had some unexpected technical challenges during this recording. I did my absolute best in post-production, but you may notice a few moments where the music or sound effects feel a little wonky. Thank you for your patience — this conversation mattered too much not to share.

Pack your passports and your pleasure maps because this Full Frontal we’re getting worldly. In this episode of What’s Your Position, we talk to “Hugh” and “Chris,” a married pair of digital nomads celebrating 20 years together and over a decade of consensual non-monogamy. From Colombia to Argentina, Thailand to Bali, they’ve explored how different cultures embrace sex, polyamory, and the art of open desire. We dive into their favorite places to live out the lifestyle (spoiler: South America’s got a heat of its own), and why watching each other’s deepest fantasies unfold isn’t jealousy—it’s joy.

With nearly 1 in 5 couples reporting some form of non-monogamous experience, CNM isn’t fringe—it’s freedom. Hugh and Chris share how travel stripped away shame, made communication a daily ritual, and deepened their connection far beyond what monogamy ever did. It’s raw, romantic, and just a little bit risqué—proof that love, like a passport, is meant to be stamped often.

Ready to fall in love… scientifically? In this Quickie we dive into the famous 36 Questions That Lead to Love — the psychology-backed intimacy experiment that once made two complete strangers marry six months later. Created in 1997 by Dr. Arthur Aron, these questions have been shown to make people feel closer to someone they just met than the average person feels toward their actual friends. Yes, vulnerability is that powerful… and that sexy.

We’ll explore why these questions work, how to use them to deepen your current relationship, and what your answers might reveal about your desires, fears, fantasies, and emotional needs. You’ll even get interactive moments throughout the episode to play along — think flirty eye contact, juicy personal confessions, and a few “oh no, I wasn’t ready to go that deep today” giggles. We ask each other some pretty deep stuff and give our honest answers. Research shows that couples who engage in novel, vulnerable conversations report higher relationship satisfaction and stronger sexual passion, so consider this your invitation to turn your next date night into a science experiment with benefits. Grab a partner, grab a mirror, or just grab some headphones… love is about to get real.

In this Full Frontal with Matt and Corey—two former insiders of Teen Mania, the evangelical youth empire that packed stadiums, preached purity, and operated with the psychological control of a cult. With an estimated 10,000 cults currently active in the U.S. and cult survivors reporting PTSD at rates over ten times higher than the general population, this conversation gets real about how “just a youth group” can become spiritual warfare with a side of sexual repression.

Together, they dive into the hype of Acquire the Fire, the brutal discipline of the Honor Academy, and the purity culture rules that taught millions of teens that their bodies were dangerous and desire was demonic. But it’s not all trauma—there’s laughter, liberation, and the sexy, joyful truth of what happens when you finally reclaim your pleasure. This episode is messy, honest, political, hilarious, and deeply human. Come for the cult tea, stay for the healing.

Ever wonder why haunted houses make your heart race and your jeans feel a little tighter? In this episode, we dive headfirst into the science of fear and arousal — where the line between being scared and being turned on gets deliciously blurry.

We’ll explore how your amygdala, that tiny almond-shaped part of your brain, lights up when you’re terrified and when you’re turned on. That’s right — your fear response and your sexual excitement run on the same neurochemical fuel: adrenaline, dopamine, and cortisol.

We’ll talk about why horror movies on first dates work so well (hint: your body doesn’t always know if you’re turned on from fear or from the hottie next to you). Plus, we’ll get into “benign masochism” — the psychological thrill of choosing to be scared, sweaty, and screaming, knowing deep down that you’re safe.

So whether you’re making out in a haunted hayride, screaming through The Conjuring, or just wondering why you love being scared half to death, this episode is your sexy crash course in the chemistry of fear, pleasure, and why your brain loves to flirt with danger.

In this episode of What’s Your Position?, we unzip the messy, seductive world of vanity sizing and how it quietly shapes our bodies, brains, and sex lives. From the hourglass worship of the 1940s and 50s to the waif-thin “heroin chic” of the 90s and the Instagram body of today, we walk through the history of women’s clothing sizes in American and European fashion and why a “size 8” means something totally different in every store. We break down how brands use shrinking numbers as a marketing trick, why women’s sizes were never truly standardized, and how all of this mess fuels body dissatisfaction and unrealistic beauty ideals.

You’ll hear about the psychology behind that little dopamine hit when you fit into a smaller size, the mental health fallout when the tag goes up, and how feeling “wrong” in your clothes can follow you straight into the bedroom. Most importantly, we reclaim the idea that sexy has never been a number on a tag—it’s confidence, comfort, and the ability to feel good naked in the body you have right now.

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In this episode of What’s Your Position?, we take a playful, evidence-based tour through the history of sex toys — from sacred ancient objects and carved stone dildos to “respectable” medical massagers, all the way to the Bluetooth-enabled, app-controlled toys in your nightstand today. We unpack the persistent (but largely debunked) myth that Victorian doctors used vibrators to treat “hysteria,” dig into censorship like the Comstock Act and modern laws that still try to police pleasure, and highlight how feminist, queer, and disability communities have reshaped sex toys into tools of autonomy and joy rather than shame.

Along the way, we talk about how big this world really is: the global sex toy market is estimated in the tens of billions of dollars, and research suggests that well over half of women — and around half of men — have used a sex toy at least once. From ancient temples to Texas courtrooms to your group chat, this episode shows how the story of sex toys is really the story of who gets to feel good, and who’s been trying to stop them.

Hello Humans! In this awesome, stat filled, research driven quickie we dive into some of the sex research currently shaping our world! From menstrual bloods MAGICAL healing powers to the first time we have had male broth control make it past phase 2, to research on strippers and ovulation! This is an episode for all you sexy nerd lovers. Stay safe, stay kind, and stay sexy 🤓