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Start Healing Your Attachment Style With Personalized Courses Taught by Thais Gibson. Free for 7 Days (Enough Time to Complete a Full Course). Limited-time Offer:
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When you love someone deeply but every argument feels like hitting the same wall — one partner chasing, the other shutting down — it can be excruciating. You want connection and resolution, but every attempt only pushes you further apart.
In this episode, Thais Gibson reveals five crucial steps to break free from the Anxious–Dismissive Avoidant argument cycle. You’ll learn how to de-escalate conflict, communicate your needs without triggering defenses, and turn disagreement into emotional closeness and repair.
You’ll learn:
✅ The core triggers for both Anxious and Dismissive Avoidant partners
✅ How to identify emotional patterns that keep you stuck in painful cycles
✅ A powerful somatic technique to calm your body during conflict
✅ The “one topic per conversation” rule that prevents spiraling arguments
✅ The step-by-step framework for validation, communication, and resolution
✅ Why learning your needs — and expressing them — transforms every relationship
Episode Breakdown:
00:00 – When A Dismissive Avoidant Argues with An Anxious Attachment Style
01:30 – 5 Steps To Change How You See Conflict
02:27 – Step 1. Know Your Triggers.
02:53 – Anxious Attachment Style Biggest Core Wounds
03:20 – Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Biggest Core Wounds
04:48 – Step 2. Practice a Somatic Processing Skill
05:25 – Research on Triggering Experiences
06:54 – Step 3. Stick To One Topic Per Conversation
07:26 – 7-Day Free Trial Promo
08:15 – Steps 4 & 5. The Validation, Need, Validation Framework
09:20 – Locked in Trigger Cycles
10:00 – Framework for Conflict Resolution
11:50 – Arguing Isn't About Right or Wrong
12:26 – Announcement: New Livestream Podcast!
Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1
📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/
Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
#AttachmentStyles #AnxiousAttachment #DismissiveAvoidant #RelationshipCommunication #ThaisGibson #PersonalDevelopmentSchool
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Start Healing Your Attachment Style With Personalized Courses Taught by Thais Gibson. Free for 7 Days (Enough Time to Complete a Full Course). Limited-time Offer:
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_term=haGEv_CHOq4&utm_content=yt-11-21-25&el=podcast
When you love someone deeply but every argument feels like hitting the same wall — one partner chasing, the other shutting down — it can be excruciating. You want connection and resolution, but every attempt only pushes you further apart.
In this episode, Thais Gibson reveals five crucial steps to break free from the Anxious–Dismissive Avoidant argument cycle. You’ll learn how to de-escalate conflict, communicate your needs without triggering defenses, and turn disagreement into emotional closeness and repair.
You’ll learn:
✅ The core triggers for both Anxious and Dismissive Avoidant partners
✅ How to identify emotional patterns that keep you stuck in painful cycles
✅ A powerful somatic technique to calm your body during conflict
✅ The “one topic per conversation” rule that prevents spiraling arguments
✅ The step-by-step framework for validation, communication, and resolution
✅ Why learning your needs — and expressing them — transforms every relationship
Episode Breakdown:
00:00 – When A Dismissive Avoidant Argues with An Anxious Attachment Style
01:30 – 5 Steps To Change How You See Conflict
02:27 – Step 1. Know Your Triggers.
02:53 – Anxious Attachment Style Biggest Core Wounds
03:20 – Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Biggest Core Wounds
04:48 – Step 2. Practice a Somatic Processing Skill
05:25 – Research on Triggering Experiences
06:54 – Step 3. Stick To One Topic Per Conversation
07:26 – 7-Day Free Trial Promo
08:15 – Steps 4 & 5. The Validation, Need, Validation Framework
09:20 – Locked in Trigger Cycles
10:00 – Framework for Conflict Resolution
11:50 – Arguing Isn't About Right or Wrong
12:26 – Announcement: New Livestream Podcast!
Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1
📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/
Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
#AttachmentStyles #AnxiousAttachment #DismissiveAvoidant #RelationshipCommunication #ThaisGibson #PersonalDevelopmentSchool
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