Romantic love has a way of poking at our deepest wounding. Even when life feels steady elsewhere, intimacy can trigger reactions that don’t feel like our true selves. Sarah explains that this is often the work of our parts — younger versions of ourselves that carry past trauma and coping strategies — and that these parts can show up most strongly in our closest relationships.

In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah explores how vulnerable, protective, and self-like parts shape the roles we play with partners, from caretaking to perfectionism. She shares how these patterns are often rooted in childhood experiences and why they can make intimacy feel both desirable and threatening. With somatic insights and practical tools, Sarah shows how to reparent younger parts, anchor into the adult self, and create relationships that feel authentic and safe.

Episode Highlights:

• [00:00] Identifying the parts of us that show up in romantic relationships
• [01:41] How parts form through overwhelming or traumatic experiences
• [06:08] Why parts show up most strongly in romantic partnerships
• [09:51] Three categories of parts: vulnerable, protective, and self-like
• [10:48] How protective parts protect vulnerable parts
• [14:23] Self-like parts: how they mimic adult selves and feel rational
• [17:25] Learning to distinguish your adult self from younger parts
• [28:19] Tools to anchor into your adult self in relationships
• [29:50] Exercises to see your partner clearly and take in the good
• [34:21] The importance of reparenting your parts
• [34:51] How to repair after conflict and name adult vs. younger needs
• [37:48] Question 1: Working with caretaker protector parts in relationships
• [53:15] Question 2: Attraction challenges when seeing your partner’s child parts
• [01:08:07] Question 3: The role of your nervous system in letting go of long relationships

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