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When Your Ex-Husband Tries to Use Your Kids to Control You After the Divorce [188]


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“I feel like a massive failure as a Christian and a mom. Like a puppet—and he’s pulling the strings.”

 

Too many women finally muster up the courage to leave their abusive husbands and face an even more painful betrayal: Their exes turn their own children against them. Lying, manipulating, bribing, even using threats in order to get the kids on their side. 

 

It’s sickening. And it can feel like there’s no hope, no justice, and no way forward. 

 

If this is you—wherever you are, whatever you’re doing, no matter how bad things are—I need you to stop and listen to me.

 

Because I’ve seen terrible cases of parental alienation turn around. I’ve lived it. 

 

No matter what happens: Your future depends on cutting the strings of your puppeteer. 

In this episode:

  • How to start making the most of your rights as a parent (without guilt or fear)
  • Why a lack of focus is often the biggest problem (it’s the perfect setup for your ex to succeed at his crappy mind games)
  • How to turn the volume of his voice down (and come to trust your own)
  • The story of 1-hour a week visitation making all the difference in a restored relationship between a mom and her son
  • The danger of believing your ex-husband (remember the term “self-fulfilling prophecy”?)
  • Why your ex acts like a quack (because he’s a duck, not a cat)
  • A tale as old as time: The ex who is suddenly the sweetest person in the world (grab your BS-vision goggles)

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If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com

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