Where Do We Go From Here?

February is the month of love people say, but whether or not Valentines Day makes you cringe or gives you cheer, we can all celebrate our favourite pals. How about a Palentines Day party (or a Galentines?!)? The Lazy Genius herself, Kendra Adachi, joins us with her best party planning tips. We even talk about Zoom parties and how to make one sparkle. Don't forget to check our Instagram page this week for some specific party ideas for your very own party. Full show notes here Partner with us to hear this month's rom com recap: While You Were Sleeping. Does it this 1995 hit hold up in 2022? We do a lot of gushing in this one. Get it here for $3/month. Kendra Adachi is the New York Times bestselling author of The Lazy Genius Way and the upcoming The Lazy Genius Kitchen, releasing in March 2022. Her podcast, The Lazy Genius Podcast, has over 11 million downloads and covers everything from cooking chicken to making friends. As a systems expert and professional permission-giver, Kendra helps others stop doing it all for the sake of doing what matters. She lives in North Carolina with her husband and three kids. Connect with Kendra on Instagram Website: https://www.thelazygeniuscollective.com/

*Trigger Warning: This episode contains reference to childhood rape, every manner of sexual abuse and violence toward women. We encourage you to proceed with caution and kindness toward yourself if these are areas of personal experience or concern.

Francine Rivers' novel Redeeming Love, released to a Christian audience in 1997, made an enormous impact on white evangelical women in the 90s and 00s. Pastors gave it to women to read, mothers passed it on to their daughters, and for many of you, it was a taste of God's love you'd never experienced before.

With the movie out now, it's a perfect time to revisit this book to ask some questions. What is this saying about women? What is it saying about "sexual sin"? Does this book have any similarities to the book of Hosea in the Bible? We have big thoughts - we're sure you do to.

Full show notes here

Instagram Twitter

Watch on YouTube

Partners of the show get rom com recaps (we'll be doing one on the Redeeming Love movie when it comes out in Australia), Purity Culture News & Views, uncut interviews and a ticket to the Green Room. Join us for all this exclusive content for $3/month (USD).

We wrap up our series On Premarital Sex by talking to Professor David Ayers who has studied the sex lives of young evangelicals for the past 30 years. We also share the results of our survey and YOUR responses. What comes next for evangelicals when it comes to sexuality and sex education? We have all the thoughts.

Full show notes here

Watch on YouTube here

Partner with us for $3/month and get an episode weekly of The Jess & Devi Show. This week it's Purity Culture News and Views where we talk about sex after 70, the morning after pill, and why men's social circles are shrinking plus all the shows you should be watching. Get it here!

Instagram Twitter David Ayers is Professor of Sociology in the Department of Economics and Sociology at Grove City College, where he has also served previously as Dean of the Alva J. Calderwood School of Arts and Letters, and as Interim Provost and Vice President for Academic Affairs. He is author of two textbooks, most recently of Christian Marriage: A Comprehensive Introduction (Lexham, 2019). His book After the Revolution: Sex and the Single Evangelical will be released in Spring, 2022 by Lexham Press. He holds his Ph.D. in Sociology from New York University.

What if there was more to being men and women than cultural roles and expectations? Aimee Byrd joins us with an invitation to study the Song of Songs as something beautiful, glorious, and re-invigorating for our imaginations.

Join our partners for $3/month to hear Aimee talk about her book Recovering from Biblical Manhood and Womanhood and the resulting backlash against the book. Partners also get weekly podcast episodes recapping romcoms and purity culture news.

Join the conversation on Instagram and Twitter

Full show notes here

Aimee Byrd lives in her hometown in Frederick, MD with her husband, Matt, with one teen, one young adult with her foot out the door, and one in grad. school. A former coffee cafe owner, Aimee now uses many of her conversational barista skills in writing and speaking. She is the author of Recovering from Biblical Manhood and Womanhood and the upcoming book The Sexual Reformation: Restoring the Dignity and Personhood of Man and Woman. Visit Aimee's blog here and connect with her on Twitter @aimeebyrdhwt.

This movie has something for everyone - family drama, romance, and that holiday sparkle. It's the story of a tight-knit, wacky family, and the oldest son's "uptight" girlfriend. But does this 2005 movie hold up today?

We talk about grief, bad boyfriends and girlfriends, and what makes a good relationship. Get into it!

Partner with us for $3/month. You get to hear romcom recaps like this one, and December's is the Netflix movie Love Hard.

Full show notes here

Dr. Celeste Holbrook is a sexologist and speaker who helps her clients evolve into the women they were created to be, in and outside of the bedroom. She speaks on a variety of topics from sex drive and sexual shame to painful intercourse, purity culture, and more. Connect with Dr. Celeste on Instagram

If you thought purity culture was a thing of the past, guess again. Turns out there are new forms in 2021. We're calling it Purity Culture 2.0, and it's found on YouTube and Instagram and in new books. What do these new-but-old messages have in common? How do they exhibit characteristics of purity culture from the past? Listen in to find out more.

Take our *new* anonymous survey on premarital sex

Full show notes here

Partner with us for $3/month (USD) and get episodes of The Jess & Devi Show. This week it's a romcom recap of The Family Stone.

Watch this episode on YouTube

Instagram Twitter

No chewed up gum metaphors allowed in this episode about abstinence. You'll hear the thoughts and lived experience of a single woman in her 30s who chooses abstinence now. What makes this abstinence different from the True Love Waits pledges of the teen years? How is it lived out when it comes to app dating in 2021? Kathryn Freeman has all the insights for us in this fantastic episode.

Watch this episode on YouTube

Partner with us for $3/month. You get to hear our conversation with DeVon Wade also about abstinence, and why he chooses abstinence now.

Full show notes here

Kathryn Freeman is a leader, writer, and speaker at the intersection of faith, justice, and culture.Kathryn has a degree in English from Texas A&M University, a law degree from the University of Texas, and a Masters of Divinity from Baylor University's Truett Seminary. Kathryn is one half of the podcast, Melanated Faith, a conversation about race, faith, and culture from the perspective of two Black Christian women. She has written for Christianity Today, Christ and Pop Culture, The Baptist Standard, The Houston Chronicle, Think Christian, and Austin Woman Magazine. Connect with Kathryn on Instagram and Twitter.

A portion of our Partner-only conversation with fat activist Amanda Martinez Beck. Beck joins us to talk about fatness and sexuality.

We incorrectly referred to Amanda as Amanda Beck Martinez throughout the episode. Her name is Amanda Martinez Beck.

Partner with us for $3/month.

Original Show Notes here

Amanda Martinez Beck is a fat activist and author of More of You: The Fat Girl's Field Guide to the Modern World, coming in May 2022. She is the host of the Fat & Faithful podcast and has a passion for helping others learn about the goodness of their bodies just as they are, today. Connect with Amanda on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. You can find her Etsy shop here and join her Facebook group All Bodies Are Good Bodies.

The conversation about human sexuality after purity culture is a conversation about bodies. All kinds of bodies. We know what our culture promotes as the "acceptable" body, but what does the church say? Is there a difference? And what does this mean for people who don't fit that mold? Fat activist Amanda Martinez Beck joins us to talk about fatness and sexuality, and we even get into the five myths about fatness and sexuality.

We incorrectly referred to Amanda as Amanda Beck Martinez throughout the episode. Her name is Amanda Martinez Beck.

Watch this episode on YouTube

Partner with us for $3/month. The Green Room is October 28/29, and we'd love for you to join the zoom call!

The call is October 28 9pm EST/6pm PST and October 29 noon Melbourne time!

Full show notes here

Amanda Martinez Beck is a fat activist and author of More of You: The Fat Girl's Field Guide to the Modern World, coming in May 2022. She is the host of the Fat & Faithful podcast and has a passion for helping others learn about the goodness of their bodies just as they are, today. Connect with Amanda on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. You can find her Etsy shop here and join her Facebook group All Bodies Are Good Bodies.

Every month our partners get to hear us debrief purity culture in the news and pop culture that has purity culture resonance. This month we talk about:

• Lizzo's Ted Talk on the history of twerking
• criminalization of stealthing in California and the ACT
• SBC drama over sexual abuse coverups
• In The Heights, Impeachment, Dear..., and The Baker & The Beauty

We get into what these stories mean for us and the world, AND we talk about why these shows are must-watchable. You get a teaser today, and if you like what you hear, it's time to sign up!

Partner with us for $3 USD/month to get this full episode plus all the other fabulous episodes with guests, rom com recaps, and a ticket to the Green Room (next week!).