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Why Being Rejected by Your Church and Family Hurts So Bad [186]


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“I don’t think I’ll ever heal from this,” she said. “You expect harm from people who only harm you. From him. Not the ones who know you, who grew up with you, who you went to church with.” 


Do you know the pain of rejection by your family, friends, and church? I do. I’ve lost entire nights of sleep swimming in that pain. It’s mind-numbing. Excruciating. 


A listener told me that after being rejected by her church and family, she felt like she was standing on an alien ship watching her home planet being blown up. Then she asked the questions you might be wondering too:


How do we survive such great loss? Is there any healing for grief that goes deeper than your bones? Hurts that nearly fracture your body?


Yes, dear one. But the truth is that as painful as the facts are, your hurt is increased 100 fold by the story you’re telling yourself about it. And the meaning you’re giving that story.


From one heart-weary woman to another, here’s the scoop on the most important story of your life..and the secret to changing it


Because rejection hasn’t ended the good of your story. Not by a long shot.


In this episode:

  • A prickly cactus, Jesus getting slapped, lots of Pirate’s Booty, and 8 billion people. If that’s not enough to tickle your fancy…
  • How what happened (the facts) and what we make it mean ( the story) creates our emotions (pain)
  • Why beliefs create the result (often extra pain)
  • The way to discover what you believe (the whole story)
  • 2 things that have helped me after losing most of my relationships (based on things I CAN’T lose)
  • How Jesus’ pain and his responses are great examples for us to follow
  • The one relationship you have from which all other relationships flow (SURPRISE: It’s not with God)

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