January 28, 2026

Why Dismissive Avoidants Want to Act Like They're In A Relationship Without Actually Committing

14 minutes

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If you’re dealing with someone who acts emotionally involved but pulls away when commitment comes up, or if you resonate with the dismissive avoidant attachment style, this episode will bring clarity, relief, and a clear path forward.

Episode Summary

Dismissive Avoidants often desire connection, but without the vulnerability and commitment that deeper relationships require. In this episode, Thais Gibson breaks down the core subconscious reasons behind this pattern, including unmet emotional modeling in childhood, fear of vulnerability, difficulty resolving conflict, and feeling misunderstood or criticized in relationships.

You’ll learn how these attachment wounds form, why they lead to commitment resistance, and how healing your attachment style can help you build emotionally secure, fulfilling relationships, without losing your sense of independence.

Key Takeaways

What defines the dismissive avoidant attachment style

How unmodeled emotional connection impacts adult relationships

Why vulnerability can feel unsafe or threatening

How unresolved conflict fuels fear of commitment

Why dismissive avoidants often feel misunderstood or criticized

How attachment-style healing creates safety, clarity, and deeper intimacy

Timestamps

00:00:00 – Intro

00:00:27 – The Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style

00:01:05 – Reason #1: Unmodeled Pillars Of Emotional Connection

00:04:26 – Reason #2: Struggle With Vulnerability

00:06:41 – 7-Day Free Trial: Dismissive Avoidant In The 6 Stages Of A Relationship

00:07:02 – Reason #3: Unable To Resolve Conflict

00:10:15 – Reason #4: Feeling Misunderstood And Criticized

00:12:32 – Summary

Meet the Host

Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

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