Craving love can connect us—or leave us vulnerable to harm we never saw coming. In this episode, I (Lisa Bilyeu) sit down with evolutionary anthropologist Dr. Anna Machin to peel back the science behind why we’re drawn to love, why it can blind us to red flags, and how manipulators like narcissists and psychopaths use our own biology against us. With fascinating research, actionable advice, and hard-earned empathy, Anna breaks down not only how we get trapped but also the precise path out—so you can reclaim your confidence, trust your instincts, and invite in the healthy love you deserve.

SHOWNOTES

How love can biologically blind you to manipulation—and what to do about it

The “dark triad”: What makes narcissists, psychopaths, and Machiavellians so dangerous in relationships

Why our brains shut down red flag detection at the euphoric start of falling in love

The addictive chemistry of love: Oxytocin, dopamine, serotonin, and beta-endorphin explained

How emotional abusers isolate you and make you question your reality

The real science behind jealousy, what it signals, and when it turns toxic

Understanding attachment styles and why anxious-preoccupied types are more vulnerable

What makes leaving so hard (hint: withdrawal and isolation) and how to rebuild your life afterward

The crucial role of friends, support networks, and self-trust after an abusive relationship

Hope after heartbreak: Why real, healthy love is still out there for you

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Book: “Why We Love: The Definitive Guide to the Most Fundamental Need” (available at major retailers)

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