July 28, 2025

Why the Dismissive Avoidant Shuts Down Sex

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Does your partner suddenly pull away from sex once things start getting serious? Has intimacy gone cold after a strong beginning? If you're in love with a dismissive avoidant—or healing these patterns yourself—this episode brings clarity and compassion to a confusing relationship dynamic.

Thais Gibson explores why dismissive avoidants often shut down around intimacy after the honeymoon phase, what’s happening neurologically and emotionally behind the scenes, and how to tell whether your relationship can be healed—or whether it’s time to walk away. This is a must-listen for anyone seeking clarity around love, intimacy, and self-worth.

You’ll learn:

✅ Why sex becomes triggering for DAs after emotional bonds deepen

✅ The subconscious childhood programming that fuels intimacy fears

✅ How DA self-protection kicks in through emotional and sexual withdrawal

✅ The real reason dismissive avoidants dissociate during sex

✅ How performance anxiety and fear of criticism shut down desire

✅ Communication tools to reestablish trust and connection

✅ Why unconditional acceptance (not pressure) reopens emotional safety

✅ When to set a deadline—and how to decide if the relationship is worth it

Meet the Host

Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

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