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This episode is going to challenge everything you've been told about abusive men and why they do what they do. We're ditching the "he's just hurt" narrative and getting real about what's actually happening here.
What You'll Learn:
• Why therapy can't fix what isn't actually broken (spoiler: it's working exactly as designed)
• The difference between trauma responses and entitlement
• How seven systems work together to normalize abuse and make you question your reality
• Why asking "why won't he change?" is the wrong question entirely
• The truth about how you were groomed to abandon yourself
Key Takeaways:
His behavior isn't about his childhood trauma - it's about a belief system that says he's entitled to your compliance. Individual and couples therapy won’t make him get better. The systems protecting him aren't broken; they're working perfectly. You weren't overreacting - you were adapting to survive in a culture designed to keep you small. Understanding this isn't about blame; it's about clarity and your freedom
This one's heavy but necessary. If you've ever wondered why he seemed so aware of his impact but kept doing it anyway, or why everyone around you kept making excuses for his behavior, this episode will give you the clarity you've been searching for.
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👉 Find me at strongerthanbefore.ca
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New episodes drop every Tuesday.
Subscribe, share it with someone who needs the truth — and remember:
You’re stronger than they ever wanted you to believe.
By Lisa Sonni4.6
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This episode is going to challenge everything you've been told about abusive men and why they do what they do. We're ditching the "he's just hurt" narrative and getting real about what's actually happening here.
What You'll Learn:
• Why therapy can't fix what isn't actually broken (spoiler: it's working exactly as designed)
• The difference between trauma responses and entitlement
• How seven systems work together to normalize abuse and make you question your reality
• Why asking "why won't he change?" is the wrong question entirely
• The truth about how you were groomed to abandon yourself
Key Takeaways:
His behavior isn't about his childhood trauma - it's about a belief system that says he's entitled to your compliance. Individual and couples therapy won’t make him get better. The systems protecting him aren't broken; they're working perfectly. You weren't overreacting - you were adapting to survive in a culture designed to keep you small. Understanding this isn't about blame; it's about clarity and your freedom
This one's heavy but necessary. If you've ever wondered why he seemed so aware of his impact but kept doing it anyway, or why everyone around you kept making excuses for his behavior, this episode will give you the clarity you've been searching for.
Support the show
This is the podcast they don't want you listening to.
👉 Find me at strongerthanbefore.ca
Book A Session with Lisa
Follow on IG: @_stronger_than_before_coach
Watch on YouTube: Stronger Than Before
Get My Books Here
Want to pitch a topic or guest to me? Click here.
New episodes drop every Tuesday.
Subscribe, share it with someone who needs the truth — and remember:
You’re stronger than they ever wanted you to believe.

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