Beyond Success

Why Your Achievements Make You Feel Miserable: The Harsh Truth


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Neediness plagues every relationship, and achievers tend to be more needy than other people.

Why? 

Well, the achiever’s desire to achieve often stems from neediness itself. Achievers think they have to earn every bit of love and approval in their lives. And then the success you achieve from this mindset tricks you into believing that this is a good trait. 

However, look closely into a successful achiever’s life, and you’ll see that no matter how much they achieved, there’s a deep void of loneliness in their lives. Look closely into their relationships, and they’re riddled with neediness. 

But you know what? 

Listening to this week’s episode is a good first step to help you take off the mask of achievement that leads to loneliness and neediness. 

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

  • The insidious “Do More” trap achievers fall into to eliminate their neediness that only makes it surge (0:42) 
  • 3 survival strategies you tried as a kid and how they still dominate your behaviors today (4:05) 
  • How needing external validation poisons every relationship you have from the inside out (7:38) 
  • Why success serves as a mask for your deepest insecurities (and how to take the mask off) (9:38) 
  • A key questions achievers must ask themselves to stop feeding their neediness (14:33) 
  • Downloading this app is the first step towards eliminating your neediness (23:22) 
  • Will you lose your edge if you stop striving for success and achievements? (26:54) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 17 years, I’ve helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I’m therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://dtphd.com/quiz now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Emotional Mastery is David Tian’s step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

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