It’s Lisa Bilyeu and I’m soooo frikin’ excited to share this episode of Women of Impact with you today!!

Today’s guest has been singing about “GIRL POWER” since the 90s, but secretly dealt with abuse in her toxic marriage for 10 YEARS. She tried to leave SO MANY TIMES but kept going back to him and the vicious cycle of abuse before she finally got her power to leave, once and for all!! 

It’s the inspiring, cheat-print-wearing, the one and only “Scary Spice” of the Spice Girls, Mel B!!   

She is getting so real and honest about how she finally escaped the abuse FOR GOOD and took back her power AND how now she’s helping spread the word and support the strong, amazing abuse survivors allllll around the world. 

Mel is here to help us spot the warning signs and GET OUT of toxic relationships before it's too late.  

We cover soooo much in this interview, including:   

• - Why the abuser is SO GOOD at hunting you down & controlling you 
• - How abuse slowly sneaks up on you and why IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT  
• - The 15 signs of what abuse looks like
• - Why it’s SO HARD to break the abuse cycle and how 1 promise Mel made actually helped her to leave FOR GOOD
• - The 2 words Mel has for ANYONE stuck in an abusive relationship
• - How shame and guilt will keep you trapped & hiding the toxic parts of your relationship
• - How to deal with the 2 questions you will be asked again and again after you stop hiding the abuse and leave 
• - Why you should ALWAYS listen to your gut intuition

So homies, listen to Mel B and don’t let your shame, guilt, and denial keep you abused, used, and trapped in misery!!!

It’s time to stand up and take your GIRL POWER back and never let someone take it from you again!!! 

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You know that split-second when someone seems “perfect” (charming, vulnerable, smart) but your gut says run?

Ever wondered how even the smartest women end up dating (or almost marrying) master manipulators, narcissists, or even psychopaths? Homie, this is your episode.

Our guest this week is world-renowned forensic psychologist Dr. Eric Hickey. He has sat face-to-face with some of the most dangerous serial killers and predators in history, and what he reveals will blow your mind. This conversation pulls back the curtain on exactly how these men fool even the experts, the subtle red flags women miss, and why emotional needs can become our biggest blind spots.

You’ll learn the psychological traps predators use, why low self-esteem isn’t just about looks, and the powerful, tactical moves you can make to protect yourself (and your friends). No fluff, only hard truth and big empowerment.

Here’s exactly what we dive into:

• The mind games even trained professionals fall for (and how to outplay the player)
• How trauma from childhood creates cycles of control, both for women and for men
• The personality traits that attract manipulators (and the mindset shift that disrupts those patterns)
• Real-world tactics for spotting red flags online, in public, and in your own relationships

Chapters

How Predators Play the Nice Guy (and Why That’s Their Best Trick)

Women as Targets: Intelligence & Articulation as Weapons

The Marriage Manipulator: Real Stories of Emotional Abuse

Serial Killers & Sexual Violence: The Dark Path of Escalation

Red Flags You Ignore: From Prison Interviews to Everyday Relationships

Root Causes: Childhood, Dependency & How Strong Women Get Trapped

The Rationalization Trap: Why Women (and Mothers) Excuse Abuse

Stalking, Gaslighting & The Power of Fear

In the Grocery Store: How Predators Engineer Their Opportunities

Crimes of Passion vs. Calculated Evil: Can Anyone “Snap”?

Domestic Violence: Death Rituals, Promises, and Escalation

The #1 Move to Protect Yourself (and Why Good Men Support It)

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Welcome back to part 2 of this episode of Women of Impact with cold case investigator Paul Holes, where we’re continuing to dive deep into how dangerous manipulators and predators hide in plain sight and use subtle, everyday behaviors to manipulate and control without you even realizing it.

And Paul’s breaking down exactly what these predators, manipulators, and dangerous offenders do to fly under the radar, and the subtle signs you need to be looking for so you can spot their manipulation before it’s too late and you're under their control!

So don't miss out on the final part of this eye-opening conversation with Paul Holes. 

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What do you do when someone you thought you could trust does something so out of character that you’re caught completely off guard?

At first you don’t think too much of it, but then you start to notice there’s actually a pattern – of control, manipulation, and coldness. 

It’s those little manipulations where they deny something happened or downplay it that really start to chip away at your sense of reality, your confidence, and your sense of self – and before you know it, you don’t even recognize yourself anymore. 

The sad truth is, manipulators are masters at making you doubt your own reality, and by the time you realize what’s happening, you’re already trapped in their web. 

And that’s why on today’s episode of Women of Impact, we are diving deep into how these dangerous people – like psychopaths and predators you expect would be SO obvious to spot – are actually the ones hiding in plain sight and waiting for their opportunity. 

Here to pull back the curtain on exactly how dangerous people operate right under our noses is cold case investigator Paul Holes. This guy spent years hunting down some of the most elusive predators out there, including the infamous Golden State Killer. And what he’s sharing today is going to make you rethink everything you thought you knew about spotting danger. 

We go deep into: 

• Signs to look for when dating or meeting someone new that could be giveaways that something is actually “off” about them
• Why some of the most dangerous people are often the ones who seem the most “normal”
• How people like the Golden State Killer can hide in plain sight for DECADES, all while committing horrific crimes
• And how YOU can spot those subtle signs of manipulation and control that most people don’t see until it’s unfortunately too frikin’ late

The reality is guys, that psychopaths are often hiding behind the “normal” people you see every day – the barista making your coffee, your co-worker that everyone loves, or even your boyfriend that you’ve been with for MONTHS. 

But by the end of this episode, you’ll know the giveaway signs that a predator is trying to trick you and blend into everyday life, and how YOU can protect yourself and the people you love from these predators, abusers, manipulators who just want to get power and control over you. 

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When was the last time you said your desires out loud…or even admitted them to yourself? In Part 2, Caitlin V and I dive DEEP into the heart of women’s sexuality: Body count shame, the “good girl” myth, what to do when sex fizzles in a long-term relationship, and why honoring YOUR truth (not just your partner’s) is the only path to lasting pleasure and freedom.

We break down how women can restore their relationship with their own bodies, what to do if you and your partner want different things, and the rules I swear by in my own marriage to keep desire AND honesty alive. Learn the communication tools to revive intimacy after a sexual dry spell, plus the empowering strategies to clear resentment, heal shame, and finally, unapologetically ask for what YOU want, in and out of the bedroom. Homie, your sexuality is your superpower, let’s set it free.

SHOWNOTES

• “Body count,” shame, and the female experience: Whose story are you living?
• Why feeling “too much” or “not enough” keeps us from pleasure
• Moving through betrayal, bed death, and starting the sex talk again
• Navigating mismatched desires and honoring YOUR needs
• Why radical honesty (and permission to say “no”) changes everything
• Building erotic creativity after years: Small steps for big change
• Why tying sex to love and worthiness holds women back (and how to undo it)
• Communication after “bed death”: From silence to true connection
• The single phrase that transforms your relationship (and your sex life)

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Okay ladies, this one’s for YOU. Ever secretly wondered if your wildest desires, romantic daydreams, or untamed fantasies are “normal”? Or maybe you crave more passion, more play, and more pleasure, but aren’t sure how to even start that conversation? Enter the powerhouse Caitlin V: sex therapist, intimacy coach, and the straight-talking woman who's helped thousands of women discover exactly what THEY want in bed.

In Part 1, we’re going behind the scenes of female fantasy: unpacking Twilight, Fifty Shades, why yearning to be desired is at the heart of so much, and how to finally own your erotic power without shame. Caitlin V breaks it all down: why scheduling sex is actually hot (and necessary!), how to safely explore archetypes and kink, and why women’s pleasure is far more creative and expansive than you’ve ever been told. If you’re done hiding, done playing small, and SO ready to claim the sex and intimacy you deserve, start here.

SHOWNOTES

• Why feeling desired is at the core of women's fantasies
• Scheduling sex vs. spontaneity
• Breaking down archetypes: Vampires, dominance, surrender
• Twilight & the erotic pull of restraint and safety
• Taboo, kink, and why your fantasy is more normal (and healing) than you think
• Safely claiming sub/dom play and power dynamics
• Erotic Blueprints: What actually turns women on
• How to break down, name, and ask for your exact desires
• Exploring the edges: consent, taboo, and reclaiming shame as pleasure
• Fantasies about threesomes and queerness: Normalizing what women want
• The animal, the goddess, and every archetype a woman can be

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Welcome back to part 2 of this unbelievable conversation with Dr. Ramani where she is sharing with us her “cheat sheets” of all her best strategies for dealing with the relentless manipulation and games that a narcissist plays. 

Odds are you’ve encountered a narcissist before, and whether it’s someone in the workplace or someone in your own home, each encounter with them can make you question your worth, ignore warning signs, and even give up your power to them. 

In part 2, we get into: 

• - Why you need to learn to listen to your body for the red flags
• - How to effectively deal with the charm AND lack of empathy of a narcissist
• - Dr. Ramani’s 3 steps to narcissistic resistance so you can break free from the abuse
• - & MORE!

The reality is the narcissist will never change, so it’s up to you to make a change and take your power back so you can live your life without losing confidence in who you are. 

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Welcome to another amazing episode of Women of Impact! I’m Lisa Bilyeu and today we’re tackling how to deal with narcissists in all sorts of situations, from the workplace and professional settings, to family, friendships and romantic partners. 

The amazing world renowned psychologist and narcissist expert Dr. Ramani is back and she’s got even more wisdom to share from her 20+ years of experience studying narcissists and working with narcissistic abuse survivors. 

With sooo much love and compassion, Dr. Ramani is giving us the advice we need, but might not WANT to hear when it comes to THAT narcissist in our lives. 

In Part 1, we’re going deep into:

• - Why you MUST DISENGAGE with the narcissist when they are playing the victim
• - How “soul distancing” can protect your well-being when the narcissist is gaslighting and invalidating you
• - The counter-intuitive way to take your power back & ending a narcissistic relationship 
• - Why you WANT to explain & defend yourself to the narcissist, but NEVER, EVER should
• - & SOOOO much more!!! 

Let’s be real guys, we’ll all have to face a narcissist at some point or another, and this episode will arm you with the strategies you need to come out of each encounter without losing yourself. 

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You know when heartbreak feels like it’s not just the loss of a person, but a total betrayal by LIFE itself? When every friend’s “just get over it” sounds like an insult, and you’re sick of pretending you’re OK? Well homie, then this is your episode. And Matthew Hussey is here to guide you through not just surviving, but actually thriving after heartbreak.

In this juicy second half, we get real about what keeps women from healing (spoiler: it’s about WHO you let headline your life). Matthew breaks down the four main types of heartbreak, how to make sure you’re ACTUALLY mending (not just spinning), and the signs you’re finally ready for real, healthy love. Plus, how to spot the real green flags in men so you never waste precious years on toxic cycles again.

SHOWNOTES

• Stop blaming yourself: time wasn’t wasted, and anger is your friend
• Why the pain threshold is often what finally sets you free (and why amnesia is your enemy)
• The hidden addiction to heartbreak, and why it keeps you “safe” but small
• Hyper-vigilance, wounds, and breaking the generational cycle
• Your pain serves a purpose, but does it deserve to be the headline of your next 20 years?
• Don’t let pain write your life: How to separate emotion from the story you attach to it
• Matthew’s “Five Days to Mend”, where to go now if you’re stuck in the darkness
• The four green flags: consistency, feeling accepted, meeting you where you are, and surviving the hard stuff
• Rapid fire game: Masculinity, femininity, and finding the person who will actually cherish ALL of you

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Ever feel like love is just one giant, nerve-wracking gamble? Like the people who are supposed to love you the most end up hurting you beyond belief, and you’re left questioning your own reality? Trust me, you are not alone. In this raw and must-listen episode of Women of Impact, I sit down with Matthew Hussey, relationship coach, New York Times bestselling author, and the straight-talking Brit who has helped millions of women get real about love, self-worth, and healing after trauma.

Matthew and I are diving deep into the sneaky world of coercive control, manipulation, and narcissistic relationships. We’re uncovering why nearly half of women find themselves with controlling partners, what keeps so many of us stuck in toxic cycles, and the miracle of breaking free. Learn the actual steps to stay guarded enough to protect your heart, but open enough to receive real love again. I demand honesty on this show, and you’re about to get it.

SHOWNOTES

• The case for slowing down: why we lose objectivity in love
• Advancing in love like a boxer: how to protect yourself without closing off
• The context clues you must look for: how do they handle stress, family, friendships, conflict, and YOU when you’re sick?
• The science: up to 63.3% of women with abuse will develop PTSD, and why psychological wounds are the slowest to heal
• The cult of two: Why leaving is a miracle, not a failure
• Why so many women opt out of dating, and the real risks of closing your heart for good
• The story of Gisele Pellicault, and how finding love again after unimaginable trauma is still possible
• Self-love after heartbreak: can the next chapter be the best one?
• Why going no contact with parents or partners is sometimes the only way (you are NOT a snowflake for protecting your peace). 
• The four types of heartbreak: why you can feel grief for someone you never even dated

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