If you’re anything like me and are obsessed with true crime and serial killer documentaries then guys, THIS episode is for you!!!

Today’s episode of Women of Impact is ABSOLUTELY PACKED with information and tactics so you can spot manipulators and their sleazy grooming process BEFORE they can sink their teeth into you!! 

Too many women feel helpless and powerless in situations where they realize they fell for the wolf in sheep's clothing. The reality is, 1 in 10 people are either a psychopath, sociopath, or a narcissist. And while there are differences between the 3 types of abusers, one thing they all have in common is that they will manipulate and con you for their benefit. 

This episode, with former CIA spy Andrew Bustamante, is here to educate and equip you to take control and protect yourself from people who don’t have your best intentions at heart. 

Andrew is the absolute expert in spotting these con-artists and has spent years of his life and career studying them! So he is super experienced, knowledgeable, and practical when it comes to spotting & shutting down manipulators. 

We cover SOOO much in this episode, including:

And that’s just in part 1 of this 2 part episode!

Seriously guys, the odds of you coming across a con artist is virtually guaranteed, and whether it’s protecting yourself from a toxic romantic relationship, or protecting your grandma from a “helpful” neighbor that seems a little TOO friendly, learning these tactics can help you STOP the con before it starts and even potentially save your life. 

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Ever wonder what really keeps a 26-year relationship strong when everyone else is telling you “just wait, it fades”? Or how you protect your boundaries when family gets toxic, or what to do if you feel “less than” beside your brilliant, articulate partner?

Homie, this is your episode.

In today’s episode, I’m going all-in, 100% real, answering your top questions about love, loyalty, betrayal, boundaries, sex, and what it truly takes to create a relationship that lasts (and feels amazing from the inside). 

From navigating in-laws who question your worth, to fighting that gut-crushing insecurity when you don’t feel smart enough, I’m giving you my cheat codes, my battle scars, and the real conversations I’ve had with my husband after 26 years together.

Here’s exactly what we dive into:

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The Real Story Behind My 26-Year Marriage: Ups, Downs, and What Changed Everything

Can Relationships Survive If Only One Person Wants to Grow?

“I Hate My Role!”: When You Need to Change Who You Are in a Relationship

Feeling Insecure When Your Partner Is Smarter or More Articulate

Discovering Your Own Superpowers and Building True Partnership

The Surprising Pool Hall Lesson That Shifted Our Relationship Power Dynamic

Shifting Out of Inferiority and Building Real Confidence

Turning Jealousy Into Admiration, and the Work You Must Do

Protecting Your Relationship From Toxic Family and Criticism

Why You Must Set Boundaries With In-Laws (And How To Do It With Respect)

How To Deescalate Triggers and Navigate Major Differences With Your Partner

Recognizing Red Flags: My Exact Game Plan for Trigger Pivots

Agreeing To Disagree… And When Value Differences Mean It’s Time To Walk

Can You Actually Prevent Cheating? (And Why It’s Never About Your Worth)

How Important Is Sex and Intimacy, And The Pact That Changed Everything

“Bed Death” Is Real: How We Keep Intimacy Alive for Decades

Healing After Betrayal: Owning Your Role Without Losing Your Worth

Trust Is Earned, Never Given: What To Do Before Loving Again

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Part 2

If you’ve ever doubted your intuition (or stayed silent because you feared no one would believe you) part two is your wakeup call. Dr. Leslie Dobson is back, and we’re going even deeper into the psychology of predators, the chilling reality of institutional betrayal, and the step-by-step ways you can rebuild your confidence and protect yourself after trauma. We talk through what it really takes to keep yourself AND your loved ones safe, how to recognize when you’re being groomed or manipulated (even inside seemingly safe relationships), and why women HAVE to put themselves first: No apologies, no justifications.

Leslie's stories will haunt you, but her strategies will empower you. We’re not here for fear, we’re here for the truth, the tactics, and the unapologetic confidence every woman deserves. From the darkest corners of the web to the everyday power moves you need as a woman in this world, this is the real talk your future self will thank you for.

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Welcome back to part 2 of this BADASS episode with retired U.S Army Major and combat veteran, divorced mom of 3, AND 8-figure business owner, my homie Dr. Sonja. 

Dr. Sonja is sharing even MORE personal stories, DEEP insights, and mind-blowing tips to help you step up to the plate in your life and not let fear hold you back. 

We dive into: 

This episode is sooooo good guys, so don’t miss the conclusion of this amazing interview with Dr. Sonja!

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It’s Lisa Bilyeu and get ready for an inspiring and super insightful episode of Women of Impact that is all about how to actually change your life so you’re always moving towards living a life with more purpose and confidence and that’s actually authentic to YOU!! 

Today’s guest is sharing her step-by-step roadmap that she’s taught to thousands of women to do just that, it’s my homie, Dr. Sonja! 

Dr. Sonja is a retired U.S Army Major and combat veteran, a mother of 3, and an 8-figure business owner. From the battlefield to the boardroom, this woman is a TOTAL BADASS, and she has overcome SOOOO many challenges in her life – including a long, painful divorce – BUT despite all of that she has endured and she’s sharing her stories and lessons to help women like you and me learn from her hardships and be able to get back up every single time you get knocked down!!

In this episode we’re talking all about: 

And that’s just in part 1 of this 2 part episode!

This episode is FULL of tactical tips and takeaways to elevate your life, so make sure to listen up homie, because it’s NEVER too late to be a warrior woman, but you HAVE TO take action to make it happen!!!

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Real talk: How do you quit falling for dangerous charmers, manipulative narcissists, or men who only reveal their true colors after you’re already invested? Welcome to Part 2 of my mind-blowing conversation with Dr. Gad Saad: Evolutionary Behavioral Scientist, best-selling author, and relentless unraveler of human behavior. We go ALL IN on the psychology of self-sabotage, how to finally take ownership of your choices, and why your “type” might be holding you back.

In this unmissable second half, we dissect self-serving bias, breaking destructive patterns, and how to stop being your own worst enemy. Plus: what is “Alpine Divorce” (and why is it blowing up right now!), what the heck is the dark triad, the evolutionary roots of psychopathy, sperm wars, why men AND women cheat, and how your bundle of traits determines lifelong happiness. It’s not just about finding the right partner: It’s about understanding YOURSELF and protecting your heart before it gets broken (again).

SHOWNOTES

Why Empathetic Women Fall for Narcissists

How Childhood and Attachment Styles Influence Your Choices

Ambition as Bait: How Predators Use Your Dreams Against You

Lisa’s Personal Story: From People-Pleaser to Powerhouse

What Is an “Alpine Divorce” and Why Is This Trend SO Messed Up?

The Dark Triad (And Why You Need to Watch for It)

Machiavellianism: Always Bad, or Sometimes Useful?

Why Are Some People Psychopaths? The Evolutionary Argument

Personality Types, Tribe Dynamics & Why “One Size” Does NOT Fit All

Why Evolution Didn’t Erase Psychopathy

Would You Rather Face a Bear or a Man in the Woods? (The SURPRISING Answer)

What Women REALLY Fear, and What Evolution Says About It

Why Women Cheat (and When). Science vs. Stereotype

The Sperm Wars Theory & Hidden Truths of Monogamy

Do Men Cheat When Their Wives Are Pregnant?

How Fatherhood Changes Male Testosterone (and Behavior)

When Men’s Testosterone Spikes, And What It Means for Your Relationship

When Winning (Or Losing) Drives Sex and Violence

Why We Choose the Wrong Men: The Problem with Shallow “Types”

The Secret to Lasting Relationships: Bundle of Attributes > One Trait

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You guys know I am obsessed with understanding why we do the things we do, especially the things that get us hurt. And today’s guest is the perfect guide. Dr. Gad Saad is an evolutionary behavioral scientist, professor, bestselling author, and one of the world’s boldest truth-tellers when it comes to the hard science behind jealousy, abuse, attraction, and the dark side of human relationships. If you’ve ever wondered why the “bad boy” draws you in, why jealousy can be so dangerous, or why some relationships escalate into control and even violence, this is the episode you need. Dr. Saad pulls no punches, and you’ll be SHOCKED by how much of your love life can be explained by ancient evolutionary pressures.

In Part 1, we dig deep into the evolutionary truths behind why women are repeatedly drawn to the same red-flag men, why men get so possessive and jealous, and the biological reasons behind dangerous behavior in relationships. Get ready to have your mind blown (and maybe cringe a little) as we unpack child abuse, infidelity, the real meaning of jealousy, red flags to watch for, and why “dangerous” is sometimes so damn attractive.

SHOWNOTES

Why Your Husband Is Statistically the Most Dangerous Person In Your Life

Child Abuse, Step-parents & the Cinderella Effect

The Lion Analogy: Brutal Nature, Brutal Lessons

Different Types of Abuse: Stepmother vs. Stepfather

Why Men Evolved Jealousy & Rage Over Infidelity

Evolutionary Explanations Aren’t Excuses

Lisa’s Story: Taking Ownership After Staying Silent

How to Vet for Jealousy: Traits & Red Flags

Controlling Partners: When Jealousy Becomes Dangerous

Situational vs. Dispositional Jealousy & Fundamental Attribution Error

Opposites Attract? Or “Birds of a Feather”? (What Actually Works)

The Height Rule: Why Almost No Women Pick Shorter Men

What Makes “Alpha” Men So Risky? (From Lions to Epstein)

Ostrich Parasitic Syndrome: Why We Ignore Red Flags

Why Some Women Fall for Predators: Ambition, Gut Instinct, and Dangerous Men

Parental Investment Theory & Women’s “Calibration”

The Fantasy vs. The Reality of Taming Bad Boys

“Mate Value” and Why High-Value Women Don’t Settle for Red Flags

Why High-Status Men Cheat (and What Unlocks Male Power)

What Women Really Want: Social Dominance, Empathy, and the Right Amount of Power

When Power Spills into Abuse

Why Certain Famous Men are Sex Symbols for Some, Not All

The Real-Life “Fifty Shades” and the Power of Arrogance

Sneaky F*cker Strategies: How “Soft Boys” Manipulate Empathy

Serial Killer Tactics: The Wounded Bird Routine

Lisa’s Real-Life Crime Story: Trusting Your Gut, Not Your Empathy

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If you’ve ever blamed yourself for someone else’s chaos, or worried that “genius” gives people a hall pass for bad behavior, Part 2 is your game-changer.

In the second half, ex CIA spy Andrew Bustamante and I dive even deeper into the psychological maze of Kanye West. From his infamous Sway interview to his viral Piers Morgan clashes, we dissect the moments that had everyone screaming “Narcissist!”, and reveal why the truth is far more complicated, painful, and urgent for every woman dealing with emotional instability in her world. We dig into the impact of brain injury, bipolar disorder, and why some people never develop the filters that keep their emotions (and outbursts) in check. Most importantly, we talk about what to do when love collides with someone’s untreated (or undiagnosed) mental health struggles, and how to protect yourself when patterns are clear but solutions aren’t.

Here’s how you spot the difference between manipulation and genuine developmental challenge, and why YOU are always your own hero.

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“I am the most impactful artist of our generation”—how to decode self-aggrandizement

The Sway interview: repetition, rage, and spectrum behaviors

No eye contact, mic awareness—signs of autistic spectrum

Creative talent meets developmental challenge: Where the myths fall apart

Emotional escalation and de-escalation: The validation pattern

Body language: manufactured confidence, defensive posture, and what’s different (Piers Morgan)

Answering like a child: What the “look at my view” moment really tells us

Cognitive struggle, stalling, and stunted adaptation

Male competition, showmanship, and abrasive deflection

Shifted tone, no aggression, and dissociative energy—possible signs of medication

The letter: Car accident, frontal lobe injury, and newly diagnosed bipolar I

Excuses vs. explanations: What medical trauma DOES and DOESN’T excuse

Shared responsibility: How to protect yourself, love wisely, and make the safest next decision

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