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In a world filled with requests, many of us are struggling to stay afloat. Even if you’re not a people-pleaser, the desire to maintain a positive reputation can make it hard to turn others down. In this episode, Adam explores the art and science of delivering an effective “no.” He highlights strategies for setting boundaries with others to create space for yourself—and healthier relationships with those around you. Guests: psychologist Vanessa Bohns, author of You Have More Influence Than You Think; Sherri Lu, founder of Eldest Daughter Club; playwright Topher Payne, author of The Tree Who Set Healthy Boundaries.
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Host: Adam Grant (Instagram: @adamgrant | LinkedIn: @adammgrant | Website: adamgrant.net/)
Guests:
Vanessa Bohns (Instagram: @profbohns | Website: vanessabohns.com/)
Sherri Lu (Instagram: @eldestdaughterclub)
Topher Payne (Instagram: @topherwrites | Website: topherpayne.com/)
Links
You Have More Influence Than You Think by Vanessa Bohns
Eldest Daughter Club's Newsletter (Substack)
The Tree Who Sets Healthy Boundaries by Topher Payne
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For the full text transcript, visit ted.com/podcasts/rethinking-with-adam-grant-transcripts
Interested in learning more about upcoming TED events? Follow these links:
TEDNext: ted.com/futureyou
ReThinking is produced by Cosmic Standard. Our Senior Producer is Jessica Glazer, our Engineer is Aja Simpson, our Technical Director is Jacob Winik, and our Executive Producer is Eliza Smith.
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In a world filled with requests, many of us are struggling to stay afloat. Even if you’re not a people-pleaser, the desire to maintain a positive reputation can make it hard to turn others down. In this episode, Adam explores the art and science of delivering an effective “no.” He highlights strategies for setting boundaries with others to create space for yourself—and healthier relationships with those around you. Guests: psychologist Vanessa Bohns, author of You Have More Influence Than You Think; Sherri Lu, founder of Eldest Daughter Club; playwright Topher Payne, author of The Tree Who Set Healthy Boundaries.
Follow
Host: Adam Grant (Instagram: @adamgrant | LinkedIn: @adammgrant | Website: adamgrant.net/)
Guests:
Vanessa Bohns (Instagram: @profbohns | Website: vanessabohns.com/)
Sherri Lu (Instagram: @eldestdaughterclub)
Topher Payne (Instagram: @topherwrites | Website: topherpayne.com/)
Links
You Have More Influence Than You Think by Vanessa Bohns
Eldest Daughter Club's Newsletter (Substack)
The Tree Who Sets Healthy Boundaries by Topher Payne
Subscribe to TED
Instagram: @ted
YouTube: @TED
TikTok: @tedtoks
LinkedIn: @ted-conferences
Website: ted.com
Podcasts: ted.com/podcasts
For the full text transcript, visit ted.com/podcasts/rethinking-with-adam-grant-transcripts
Interested in learning more about upcoming TED events? Follow these links:
TEDNext: ted.com/futureyou
ReThinking is produced by Cosmic Standard. Our Senior Producer is Jessica Glazer, our Engineer is Aja Simpson, our Technical Director is Jacob Winik, and our Executive Producer is Eliza Smith.
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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