In today’s episode, I am dropping a brand-new framework—straight from my own mental oven—showing you how to tell if your marriage feels like a nourishing refuge or a never-ending war zone. I am sharing a raw story about crying in the car with her task-focused engineer husband and turns it into a masterclass on collaboration, personal responsibility, and the power of a single re-frame.

✨ EPISODE AT A GLANCE

• Sanctuary vs. Battleground—what those vibes actually feel like day-to-day, leaks in the roof and all.

• The 80 % Rule for “safe enough” and why thriving might ask you to raise that bar.

• Maggie’s Three R’s: Re-IMAGINE, Re-NEGOTIATE, or Re-LEASE when things stop feeling safe.

• The Sanctuary Scale (1 = war zone, 10 = oasis) + game-changing coaching questions.

• Two ways to “release”: shift expectations or lovingly exit the relationship.

• How to know if you need specialized support instead of another communication tip.

RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

• The Questions for Couples Journal

• Private Coaching with Maggie

• Episode 58: The Power of One

• Episode 181: Compound Stress Syndrome, The Stroy/State Cycle & Turning into an Opportunity for Connection in Your Marriage