Todd & Cathy discuss evidence-based ways to be an effective leader and how to teach and demonstrate leadership to your children. They discuss the importance of early and ongoing social emotional learning, and how everything begins with self-awareness. They also process Adam Grant’s research around give and take, why knowing your “why” is important, and why feedback hits differently depending on your background and experience. Link to Podcast Episode on our website.

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20:04 The double bind of generosity for women

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1:04:03  Pop Culturing

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Cathy and Todd discuss the research behind parenting styles and how it affects our communication and even our politics. They also discuss the “Tennessee Three” and how it relates to the difference between generations and how we are evolving (or not evolving) as people and as a country. They share a viral TikTok post from GradSchoolGramma that demonstrates what it really looks like parent in a self-aware, compassionate way, and mindful way.  Click here to learn more.

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3:27 New Team Zen Members

5:46 Zen Parenting Moment- Real, Vulnerable, Pay Attention

7:57 Parenting Styles

20:55 Tennessee Three

29:57 The well speech

38:57 Grad School Gramma

45:28 Four questions

46:40 Pop Culturing

47:43 Avid Co DuPage County Area Decorating, Painting, Remodeling by Avid Co includes kitchens, basements, bathrooms, flooring, tiling, fire and flood restoration.

47:54 MenLiving – A virtual and in-person community of guys connecting deeply and living fully. No requirements, no creeds, no gurus, no judgements

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Virtual Class: Understanding Our Sons

Cathy & Todd talk with author and educator Jessica Lahey about her book The Addiction Inoculation and the importance of Social Emotional Learning (SEL) when it comes to substance-use disorders, self-awareness, and emotional intelligence and regulation. They discuss the risk factors surrounding addiction and how genetics and culture play a role. Jessica shares what kids most need to hear from us and how we can create conversations about alcohol use, abuse, and the myths that don’t hold up to research. Link to Podcast Episode on our website.

Jessica Lahey (@jesslahey) is the author of the New York Times bestselling book The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed and The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence. Over twenty years, Jessica has taught every grade from sixth to twelfth in both public and private schools and spent five years teaching in a drug and alcohol rehab for adolescents in Vermont. She currently serves as a recovery coach at Sana at Stowe, a medical detox and recovery center in Stowe, Vermont, where 100 percent of her salary goes to a scholarship fund for young adults.

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3:55 Who do some people have a problem with SEL in schools?

14:30 Risk factors for substance abuse

19:17 Are there differences in how best to support young men and young women?

24:14 How do we talk to our kids about addiction?

41:20 Telling the truth to our kids

46:20 Escaping and numbing behavior

49:52 The importance of modeling

53:55 Todd’s sister and genetics

100:45 Todd throws up & a discussion about rehab

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Cathy and Todd answer listeners question about what to do when life gets messy, unpredictable, and uncertain. They discuss movies to bring the family together, how to support our children who are dealing with friend issues, and how to figure out what “fair” means over and over again. Link to Podcast Episode on our website.

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33:15 13 year old daughter struggling with new friend group

44:46 Is there anything more I could do as an expectant father?

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Todd & Cathy talk with Michelle Anderson and Lauren Massarella from The Sister Project. They discuss the hygge lifestyle (a Danish word that loosely translates as cozy, comfy, and overall wellness), parenting, birth, and women’s health. Cathy, Michelle and Lauren lost their moms to dementia, so they discuss what it’s like to care for someone with dementia and how to support them through the process of death. They discuss the pain and beauty of grief and how we can take care of ourselves and each other. Link to Podcast Episode on our website.

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40:06 Dimentia

54:30 Guilt

55:25 Death

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The Sister Project

Cathy & Todd discuss 4 invitations to being a positive parent. They discuss 1) What do we want for our kids? 2) Relationship b/w EQ (Emotional intelligence) IQ (Intelligence Quotient) & BQ (Body Intelligence) 3) When we cop out 4) Discussion, not discipline. Link to Podcast Episode on our website.

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Cathy & Todd celebrate their 700th episode by discussing the universal principles of Zen Parenting, the importance of civil conversation, and what has remained the same for the last 12 years. Part 1 of 2. Link to Podcast Episode on our website.

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29:57 Scholastic’s book- When Things Aren’t Going Right, Go Left will be available on March 7th.  Preorder now.

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32:50 three different ways of being grumpy

38:18 Compassion

39:20 Being on-time

45:25 Mindfulness

51:09 Connection

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Todd & Cathy discuss the different aspects of self-compassion and take the quiz to see who is more self-compassionate.  They also talk about the movie Grease & Mr. Rogers.

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9:22 Grease

14:50 Self-Compassion basics

24:47 mindfulness

30:14 Scholastic’s book- When Things Aren’t Going Right, Go Left will be available on March 7th.  Preorder now.

30:52 Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12!  Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off

35:45 Mr. Rogers

43:55 Self-Compassionate Quiz

54:30 Purple turkey story

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Todd & Cathy share how their roles have changed over the years and who does what around the house. They discuss the importance of communication around household expectations, and how roles are supposed to evolve and change as the kids grow. The discuss how invisible labor can be overlooked and why not everything we “do” can be found on a checklist.

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4:15 Thumbs up to Spain

6:43 Brush, the floss?

10:40 Menu- look at it before?

14:00 If you want your partner to worry less, worry more

32:26 Pinna is the only audio on-demand streaming service for kids 3-12!  Enter the coupon code “ZPR” for one year of Pinna for 50% off

35:20 Who does what?

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Dr. Shefali returns to ZPR to discuss her new book The Parenting Map: Step-by-Step Solutions to Consciously Create the Ultimate Parent-Child Relationship (available for preorder NOW, released on 2/28). They discuss how to check our own egos, recognize our children’s psyches, and make connection the cornerstone of our parenting experience. Dr. Shefali is hosting a FREE Parenting Mastery Online Summit with 30 Global Experts (Cathy is one of them!). Click here to register.

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6:40 Love or control/power?