Cathy & Todd discuss how our early experiences dictate our life patterns, and how we can recognize these patterns and decide what helps and what hurts. It’s all about honoring the memories and traditions that mean something to us, while also letting go of what no longer serves us. They also discuss the legacy of Madonna and how she shifted the musical landscape for women, and Todd’s hot take on the best baseball player of all time. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com.

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Todd & Cathy talk with John O’Sullivan, Founder of the Changing the Game Project and host of the Way of Champions Podcast about his new book, The Champion Teammate: Timeless Lessons to Connect, Compete and Lead in Sports and Life. They discuss how to be a valued teammate, what it means to be a champion, and what it takes to connect, compete, and thrive in sports and life. What’s shared is applicable way beyond sports so it’s an important conversation for all parents, but it’s especially enlightening for those who are currently raising athletes. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com.

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(00:07:10) Changing the Game:  What should you say to your kid at the conclusion of the game?

(00:10:25) Pushing your kid into things instead of …

(00:11:40) Don’t react; Respond:  E+R=O

(00:13:00) How to teach your kids to “show up”

(00:15:45) How are coaching and parenting similar? The Trust Bank

(00:20:00) Growth happens when u struggle.

(00:25:00) Rule of one moment

(00:29:00) The art of Coaching and Parenting

(00:30:00) Kids’ identities are being built around sports

(00:37:30) Percentage of kids who play college sports

(00:40:30) Being intentional

(00:42:30) Phil Jackson

(00:44:00) Get comfortable being uncomfortable

(00:47:00) Put in the reps

(00:49:15) Relative age in sports ; what is talent ; help your kids find your passion instead of you finding it for them

(00:50:50) Learning to surf

(00:54:30) Being emotionally agile and channeling in a positive way

(00:57:45) Sweeping the Shed

(01:00:30) Modeling behavior and entitlement

(01:01:30) Petting the Dragon

(01:05:40)  Belonging and psychological safety

(01:08:00) John’s book and references

(01:10:15) Alvin Iverson – quote on practice

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Todd and Cathy discuss how co-opted therapy speak can make “love” more like control. They specifically discuss Jonah Hill’s ex-girlfriend sharing texts where he says he is enforcing his “boundaries” when he is actually giving her rules and ultimatums. They discuss how life is messy and everything is nuanced, and how Maya Angelou taught that love liberates, it doesn’t hold. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com.

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Todd and Cathy discuss the difficult, but also transformational quality of change and how it teaches us to grow and trust life’s patterns. They answer a listener question about how to view their daughter’s outbursts and challenging behavior, and they share and process three quotes from Season 2 of The Bear – starting with Richie’s thought-provoking quote, “I’m not like this because I’m in Van Halen. I’m in Van Halen because I’m like this… For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com

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(00:18:18) Ask me anything question about adolescent daughter who has outbursts of anger

(00:33:00) Three quotes- I’m not like this b/c I’m in Van Halen…

(00:42:02) I’ve learned to be better, and not perfect.

(00:50:30) …because it’s been really inspired

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Cathy and Todd discuss how to experience parenting challenges as part of the story rather than the entire story. They discuss how to zoom out and see the big picture, but also how to zoom in and experience compassion and connection with your kids. They process how to not take things personally, and how to recognize that we are all just watching our own movie. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com.

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Todd and Cathy discuss how we can talk to our kids about spirituality and self-trust, and why role modeling and patience can be the most effective tools. They discuss how to deal with anger, how to talk to our kids about anger, and how to utilize difficult emotions for deeper self awareness. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com.

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Todd and Cathy Adams explore the themes of wonder, father-son relationships, vulnerability in parenting, and the enduring appeal of baseball in their heartfelt analysis of the movie “Field of Dreams,” emphasizing the importance of understanding and empathizing with parental figures and embracing the wonders of life. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com.

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Cathy & Todd answer listener questions (about the practice of self-awareness, highly sensitive kids, and how to talk to our kids about every important thing before they graduate…) and they also discuss Taylor Swift, her popularity, and how she is connected to Full Catastrophe Living. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com.

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(00:03:08) Question #1- What are some self-awareness tools you’ve cultivated through your parenting

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(00:19:59) Who Smarted?

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Cathy and Todd discuss how codependency, enmeshment, narcissism, and lack of boundaries are weaved into Succession and the Logan family, and how we can be more self-aware about what we are role modeling and teaching our children. They also discuss the importance of internal and external validation and why no matter what happens to the Logan children, they will never be satisfied. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com.

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(00:00:00) Introduction

(00:08:56) Succession

(00:18:29) I’m proud of you

(00:25:42) Validation

(00:33:32) Enmeshment

(00:24:08) Who Smarted?

(00:42:22) Disengagement

(00:51:07) Boundaries

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Virtual Class: Understanding Our Sons

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This just in…don’t tell your children you are proud of them!

SETTING BOUNDARIES WITH LOVE

FORTNITE, BOUNDARIES & COMPASSION PODCAST #454

BOUNDARIES & ENMESHMENT- PODCAST #589

WOMEN & BOUNDARIES- PODCAST #590

CODEPENDENCY- PODCAST #680

Cathy and Todd discuss how it’s not our kids’ job to support us, but we can encourage them to understand us. They also discuss the importance of self-compassion when parenting, why our boys need more male role models, and how to deal with change as our kids grow and graduate.  Link to Podcast Episode on our website.

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(14:28) Ask us Anything- How do I get support from my child without “parentifying” them

(24:49) Who Smarted?

(36:44) Graduation transitions

(48:24) Outro

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