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Ever feel like you’re the only one holding your relationship together? You keep showing up, biting your tongue, doing what needs to be done—not out of love, but out of obligation. And yet, the more you give, the more exhausted, disconnected, and unseen you feel.

The hard truth? Obligation isn’t just draining you, it’s destroying the very emotional connection you’re trying so hard to save.

Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast for people at a relationship crossroads. If you’re struggling with daily conflict, emotional distance, or feeling like your partner is slipping away, you’re in the right place. I’m Staci Bartley, a relationship mentor with over a decade of experience helping couples navigate the hardest moments of love and life. I’m joined by my co-host and partner Tom, and our daughter Brooke, and together we help you understand what’s really happening in your relationship—and what you can do to change it.

So here’s the question: What if the thing you think is holding your relationship together, obligation, is actually pulling it apart?

In today’s episode, we’re unpacking:

• 💔 How obligation slowly replaces intimacy, passion, and connection
• ⚡ Why unspoken expectations and hidden resentments build over time
• 🔄 The difference between commitment and obligation—and why confusing them leads to burnout
• 🛠️ How to shift from obligation-based love to genuine choice and emotional freedom

If you’ve ever felt trapped in a relationship that’s more about duty than desire, this episode is a must-listen. Because love isn’t about checking boxes, it’s about showing up because you want to, not because you have to.

🎧 Press play now and start breaking free from the weight of obligation.

Timestamps: 

02:46 Marriage and Obligation
04:04 The Impact of Unspoken Expectations
07:58 The Balance of Obligations and Relationship Health
09:21 Emotional Exhaustion and Coping Mechanisms
13:46 Commitment vs. Obligation
16:46 Psychological Resistance to Obligation
21:22 The Emotional Weight of Obligations
26:21 Burnout and Self-Preservation
27:30 Dealing with Overwhelming Obligations
28:48 The Impact of Self-Imposed Obligations on Relationships
32:40 Reframing Obligations as Choices
37:39 Practical Tips for Managing Obligations
43:53 Communicating Boundaries and Needs
44:54 Making Obligations More Manageable
46:33 The Importance of Variety in Relationships
47:54 Final Thoughts on Navigating Obligations

💡 Want to go deeper? If you’re navigating space, separation, or emotional distance, it doesn’t have to mean the end of your relationship—it can be the start of a transformative journey toward clarity, confidence, and connection.

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