After more than a decade of coaching women through marriage struggles, I’ve learned that desire in long-term relationships is widely misunderstood.

We think it’s a magical feeling that appears when we’re with the “right” person, that it should always be spontaneous, and that focusing on our own pleasure is selfish.

The truth is, desire takes effort, intention, and a willingness to be an active participant in creating it.

Familiarity, daily responsibilities, and unresolved hurts can all drain desire.

But we can bring it back by making space for spontaneity and adventure, planning intimacy so we can be present for it, and giving ourselves permission to care about our own pleasure.

Desire doesn’t just happen—it’s something we can nurture if we choose.

Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.