Let’s talk about the emotional rollercoaster that is the anxious-avoidant relationship dynamic. You know the type—one moment you’re deeply connected, the next you're spiraling in confusion. Sound familiar?

In this solo episode, I’m diving into why this frustrating push-pull happens, how it connects to your childhood attachment style, and whether it’s something you can actually fix… or if it’s time to walk away for good.

We’ll break down the four types of attachment styles, explore how trauma bonding keeps you stuck in cycles of dysfunction, and uncover the exact steps you need to take to rewire your patterns and build the secure love you deserve.

Whether you’re healing from a toxic relationship or trying to understand your own emotional triggers, this is the must-listen episode for you!

What you'll get out of this episode… 

• Anxious-avoidant dynamics aren’t about chemistry—they’re about unhealed trauma.
• Your attachment style forms in childhood and subconsciously shapes your relationships.
• These dynamics can only shift when both partners commit to inner work.
• Self-awareness, emotional regulation, and clear communication are non-negotiables.
• Sometimes, the bravest thing you can do is walk away from a love that isn't safe.
• You can rewire your attachment style and learn to love from a secure, healed place.

Key Timestamps

00:00 – Intro

01:27 – The anxious-avoidant relationship cycle explained

05:30 – Signs you're in an anxious-avoidant relationship

07:10 – Why opposites attract: The hidden trauma bonds

08:29 – Can this dynamic be fixed… or is it time to walk away?

10:16 – The steps to building a secure, healthy relationship

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Dr. Neeta Bhushan is a 5x award-winning author, emotional health advocate, and host of The Brave Table podcast. CEO of Highest Self Institute and author of That Sucked, Now What, she’s been featured in Forbes, ABC, and more. A former dentist turned global speaker, Neeta’s work blends psychology, ancient wisdom, and resilience from her own life experiences. She's also a mom, wellness lover, and chai enthusiast.